analyzed last time that Zhen Huan and had a miscarriage and lost a child for the first time.
Sheng Chong Zhengnong, once pregnant, was framed by others for a miscarriage, the emperor was distressed. This is a rare good opportunity to make the emperor pity the fragrance and cherish the jade, and love him even more.
But Zhen Huan lost the emperor's favor for the first time because of this small birth.
watched her sister An Lingrong took advantage of her small birth to fall out of favor, and thriving in the harem; she was bullied by Concubine Qi and wealthy nobles on the long street, slapped her mouth and punished her kneeling; He was coldly received, and made winter clothes in his own palace.
tasted the human feelings in the harem.
didn't seize the opportunity to gain further favor and became passive. The clever Zhen Huan made three fatal mistakes this time.
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She forgot that the emperor is always right their children.
Zhen Huan was blaming and annoyed, but she forgot the most important point, the emperor is always right.
the emperor is always right, this is the truth. Even the noble ones like the queen mother and the prince all keep this in mind.
Kneeling for half an hour before a miscarriage? Meizhuang, Duanfei , and Zhen Huan all knew that Concubine Hua did not want to harm Zhen Huan's miscarriage. Zhen Huan was more afraid of her miscarriage than anyone else, and the emperor naturally knew that.
Therefore, the emperor was very distressed. He went to the palace of the empress dowager , , and said that he also had a question, why did Zhen Huan have a miscarriage after kneeling for half an hour?
The Queen Mother said it was because of the Huan Yixiang that was lit every day in the Huafei Palace. The emperor blamed himself and said he was wrong. The Queen Mother said: "State affairs are the most important, the emperor is never wrong".
In those days, Geng Yao wrote An Zhezi to the emperor every day. King Guojun knew very well that Gengyao had committed the emperor's big taboo, and said to the emperor: " is only the emperor's life, and what the emperor says is what ", this is the reason why the king of Guojun survived the nine sons of seized the heir .
Later, Zhen Huan returned to the palace after practicing at Ganlu Temple. King Guojun heard that Zhen Huan was going to be sent to have a kiss and chased him out of the palace. He also forgot the most important point and lost his life.
You see, even the noble ones like the queen mother and the prince need to remember this, not to mention the concubines of the harem.
Zhen Huan fell out of favor, An Lingrong thriving. She told the emperor, "It doesn't matter if my sister doesn't understand, as long as my sister is willing to keep this in mind, the emperor is the emperor, and the emperor is always right." Because of this sentence, the emperor happily rewarded her with all the brocades from the Ministry of Internal Affairs.
The emperor is always right. This is the case in the play, and back to our workplace, why not? Leaders are always right, and many people may not agree with them in their hearts, but this is also the rule of thumb to settle down in the workplace.
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Bring bad emotions to othersseveral times.
Once he heard Zhen Huan and Jinxi's conversation outside the door, he left. Once he said that the wound on Zhen Huan's neck was healed and the scar could not be seen. Zhen Huan asked the emperor, do you care about my appearance like that? Once again, Zhen Huan fell asleep, holding the child's apron and weeping.
Seeing her like this, the emperor left, saying that she would come to see her when she adjusted.
Zhen Huan lost her child, she was sad, sad, and understandable. But she would be wrong if she blindly expressed her bad mood and passed it on to the emperor, hoping that the emperor would be as sad as him.
The emperor didn't want to see Zhen Huan, he was afraid. He doesn't know how to face Zhen Huan, how to get along with her? As far as the emperor is concerned, he has experienced a lot, and he has to adjust his emotions and balance the harem of the former dynasty.
And there are so many women laughing and waiting for him to meet him, why bother to make fun of himself here at Zhen Huan.
In life, we are also prone to make this mistake, bringing our bad emotions to others, hoping that someone can empathize with us. When I am sad, my friends have to be sad, otherwise it is not a friend, but a schadenfreude.
After a long time and experience, you will find that there is no so-called empathy. Maybe you have experienced bad things, and a happy thing is happening in someone else's home.
In front of your sorrow, others are embarrassed to express happiness and joy, so naturally they can hide or hide.
If you want to succeed in the workplace, you must learn not to bring your bad emotions to others.
You are annoyed and complaining about not getting a promotion and a salary increase, but your colleagues around you get a promotion and a salary increase. They can't feel your bad emotions, so it's better to face them calmly and hide them.
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is angry with herself, just to give others a chance.
Before she fell out of favor, Zhen Huan was a little woman who wanted to be the emperor. The pet of Jiaofang, eating raw dumplings, the custom of throwing , she did everything the emperor could do for her.
But the emperor is the emperor after all, and he can accompany her children in love, but he can't always accompany her children in love.
Zhen Huan was angry and didn't want to give the emperor a good face, and the people in the harem who greeted the emperor with smiles were like crucian carp crossing the river.
The Queen's team is worried that the team has not grown and grown. She first suggested to the emperor to choose some new people to enter the palace, but the emperor refused.
Then train the old man to take the top position, An Lingrong practiced his singing voice hard, and won the emperor's special favor. A banquet was held at Taiye Pool on Qionghua Island, Anling Rong covered his face with a veil, holding lotus flowers in his hands, calmly and leisurely, and came in a small boat with a soft and melodious voice.
"If there are flowers that are worth breaking, they must be broken, don't wait until there are no flowers to break the branches", the emperor will break her in his hand, so that she will not be lonely. He also gave her a golden robe and held her in his arms.
Zhen Huan got pissed this time, but nothing came of it. When she was ordered to kneel by Concubine Qi on Changjie, she asked Concubine Nian in front of Concubine Nian in Yikun Palace, and Concubine Nian was fine.
At this moment, Zhen Huan understood that everyone else was fine. The people she was angry with, annoyed, and hated were all fine, and some even got better because of her falling out of favor.
pissed off, just to othersTake the opportunity, the relatives are in pain, and the enemies are happy. Zhen Huan got angry and hurt herself, but everyone else was fine.
It can be seen that it is useless to get angry with one's own leaders in the workplace, and the power is in his hands.
Zhen Huan was the victim in the case of Zhen Huan's small childbirth. But what about her? But he lost the emperor's favor, but also because he made the above three mistakes.
Actually, the emperor also realized his mistake. However, the emperor was able to recognize his mistakes, and that was because of his big pattern.
The emperor can say it himself, others can't. Zhen Huan's actions only made the emperor feel that Zhen Huan was stubborn and accepted death. People who are not smart but obedient are more likable than those who are smart and stubborn.
The same is true in the workplace. Ability and intelligence are second, and obedience is the most important thing. Leaders can do what they say and do. This is also the executive power that the workplace has always emphasized. In
" Ruyi's Royal Love in the Palace ", the reason why the emperor attaches so much importance to Wei Yanwan is because Wei Yanwan came from a humble background and she was trained by the emperor, so the emperor attached great importance to her. If she is not good, it means that the emperor did not teach well.
We can't change the current situation in the workplace. If we can't change it, we can only accept or leave.
For Zhen Huan, it is impossible to leave, so accept it. Recognizing this, she has grown a lot, and her life in the harem is much better.
