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Zhihu has an interesting question: What do you think of regarding the derailment?
has a wonderful answer:
Some netizens asked their son: "Dad bought you a thousand yuan Transformers, why did you snatch the kids dozens of dollars of toys?" The son said, "Because I haven't played with this. "
The wife of chaff, a young and beautiful new lover, many people often choose what is most beneficial to them before they become famous, and after that, they discard it as a stubborn shoe.
In the world of emotions, human nature is always so naked and so cruel.
The vows that once took place in the mountain alliance and the unswerving vows, in the end, maybe they just talk about it.
feelings will not be able to match the coldness of human nature and the love for the new and the old.
Always hear new people laugh, who can hear old people cry?
People's hearts are changeable, and feelings, don't bet all of your net worth, or you will lose all your money in the end. The best emotional state of
is: I am ready to live with you for the rest of my life, and I am also ready to leave at any time.
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Some time ago, the name of a person appeared on Weibo hot search-Nozomi Sasaki.
She and her husband married in April 2017 and gave birth to a son in September of the following year.
was very optimistic about this marriage at home and abroad, saying that the big beautiful woman married the right person.
However, on June 10 this year, many Japanese media reported on a large page that Watanabe Jian had derailed many women during marriage (called "non-ren" in Japan), and even "persisted" on meeting with AV actresses during the epidemic... Later, Watanabe did not deny:
"My wife and I have a very good relationship. After all, I am still creating people, but this is another matter. I can’t help seeing cute ones. But because of constraints, I can’t meet at night very much. My wife has no job now, so I have to work hard.”
Simply put: “The relationship between husband and wife is very good, but the sense of responsibility after marriage can’t control my lower body. Although unfaithful, but Please remember: I am making money to support my family."
Nozomi Sasaki, 32, is known as Japan's number one beautiful girl, and has repeatedly appeared on the "Men's Favorite Face" and "Women's Most Wanted Face" rankings.
And the 48-year-old Ken Watanabe is a comedian, with average body and appearance. At any time and anywhere, Ken Watanabe is a high climber.
Netizens were very angry when they learned about it: "Why is there a big beauty at home doing this kind of thing?" The news of
also made many people feel even more insecure about marriage: people with excellent partners, why? Will derail?
In fact, most men cheat, not because their juniors are good or their wives are bad, but purely to satisfy curiosity and pursue excitement, and they are always restless.
There is a "seven-year itch" in marriage, which is nothing more than that, with the passage of time, sex and love in marriage gradually become dry, monotonous, and boring.
Behind every derailment, there are hidden desires out of control, and all contain the thirst for pleasure.
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The story of "The Besieged City" took place in 1920. To this day, marriage is still a besieged city. People outside don't necessarily want to go in, but people inside still want to "come out."
Tong Liya , who has not appeared for a long time, is on the hot search, just because Tong Liya held a mysterious man in a restaurant, people began to speculate that Tong Liya has a new relationship. In the
video, Tong Liya talked and laughed with the handsome guy on the side, and also made an intimate action of "holding hands": Xiao Xianrou took Tong Liya's hand, and Tong Liya did not resist, she just threw off until she found out that there was a camera. Tong Liya's face showed a slight embarrassment.
Since her stunning debut in the Spring Festival Gala, Tong Liya's popularity has been high, but any trouble will cause great concern.
What's more, this kind of "small fresh meat" news is the best news! Therefore, this video quickly caused an uproar on the Internet.
When Chen Sicheng was photographed spending the night in the same room with two women, there was an uproar online.
A reporter asked about Chen Sicheng , what do you think of the phenomenon of derailment and one-night stands in the show?
He also blatantly published the idea of "It's normal for men to cheat, and everyone will cheat", without even considering the feelings of Tong Liya around him.
When the reporter asked Tong Liya the same question, she just replied awkwardly: It would be good if can go home.
People are greedy, they will no longer cherish what they have already obtained, and it is difficult for them to have desires; people are curious, and have endless desire to explore what they have not obtained.
is like eating ice cream. I like to eat KFC ice cream, but I am tired of eating it. I want to try McDonald’s ice cream. After I have eaten McDonald’s, I want to eat Burger King...
People's desires are endless, and in this society, there are too many temptations. If many people cannot restrain themselves, they will take the step of destroying marriage. The derailment of
is more like satisfying a self-centered willfulness.
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"Hold your hand and grow old with your child". This is a wish that many people make when they get married and walk into the auditorium. However, vows are always easy to make and difficult to keep.
In the hit drama "My First Half of Life", Luo Zijun was a top student from a prestigious university and was once an independent woman.
can get married, because he is too dependent on Chen Junsheng, too dependent on the fortress of love and marriage, not working and not listening to outside affairs, and gradually developed into the kind of disabled "Chinese woman" Shi Kang once described: a beautiful face Well, Xiaoniaoyiren always looks at the stars and admires men.
Once a woman is too dependent on men and loses her independent ability and confidence, she will gradually widen the gap with the same man at the beginning. They are no longer high-ranking people, and will gradually lose their common language and be Burnout and boredom.
I don’t know when, when encountering a man cheating, people always habitually examine a man’s wife. It must be that she is not doing well enough to let a man go outside to find a woman.
If you go to work independently and work hard, they will say that you only make money and do not care about your family; if you are a full-time housewife at home, they will say that you can’t keep up with your husband; if you don’t like dressing up, they will say you don’t love yourself and deserve your husband Do notLove you; you love to dress up, would they say that you are married and still dress up so splendidly? This woman is not a fuel-efficient lamp...
and men will find all kinds of reasons to justify themselves.
You listen to him everything, he will say you have no opinion, you have your own ideas, he will say you are too strong and not feminine.
In short, "she forced her to cheat, not my fault."
But in fact, cheating has nothing to do with whether the other half is tall, short, fat, thin, beautiful, gentle or tough.
In a relationship, blindly humble, you should understand that the other half in love is no longer suitable for you, because, a person who loves you, how can you be humbled into the dust?
After all, if you love someone, you have to pay attention to you and me, right?
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Respect is the prerequisite of love. Teacher Tu Lei once said:
In love life, equality is very important. Don’t just because your lover treats yourself a little bit better, always look up to yourself and you feel like you’re too beggar I have been, no, lovers are equal, you love me, I love you too, and cherish each other.
thinks so.
The media once asked Zhang Zetian: Have you considered relying on your own strength to make a fortune?
implies that she must rely on Liu Qiangdong for everything nowadays.
Zhang Zetian’s answer is particularly comfortable to listen to: “It’s not necessary to prove that I don’t rely on Lao Liu. He helps me and I help him. Everything complements each other.”
Yes, in their paragraph. In the marriage, she and Liu Qiangdong are a "community of interests." The marriage of the two people always supports each other and achieves each other. This is a well-matched marriage.
still remembers a line in "Divorce Lawyer", saying all the love and hatred in the world and the best posture in married life:
"I am serious and work hard, just to stand by what I love Next to people, whether he is rich or has nothing, I can open my hands and embrace him calmly."
"When he is rich, I don’t think I’m high, and when he is poor, we won’t be down. This is the meaning of a woman’s progress. Men are just icing on the cake in this marriage."
Rather than just be with someone who doesn’t love you, and treat each other as your own world, it’s better to find your own happiness.
No matter what, don't lose yourself because of a person!
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