During this period, Blue Party came into contact with many fans.
The situation after they were cheated on was that they finally resolved the extramarital affair.
The cheating man broke up with his mistress, and the wives thought that the extramarital affair was over.
But after a while, the wives discovered that the cheating man took the initiative to find a mistress.
Many wives were even told by their mistresses that cheating men would pester their mistresses.
Mistresses were afraid of being torn apart by their wives again, so they chose to tell their wives and let them restrain the cheating men.
When wives encounter this situation, on the one hand, they want to know how to prevent men from cheating again.
On the other hand, I also want to know why a man would go to a mistress again after ending an extramarital affair, or even take the initiative to pester her?
There are two main reasons why cheating men do this.
The first reason is that the cheating man and the mistress are not completely connected.
A cheating man may have been pretending to break off the relationship with his mistress to make fun of his first wife.
There are even many cheating men and mistresses who have discussed it in advance, how to deceive the original wife.
Or the cheating man and his mistress did not discuss it, but when the two broke up,
the relationship did not break down, it was just due to some pressure.
For example, wives threaten cheating men and threaten mistresses.
The two of them didn't want to pay the price, so they chose to separate temporarily to calm down the original wife's anger.
It is very common for men and mistresses to cheat on each other, and the probability of cheating is even higher than the chance of a clean relationship.
Why didn’t the cheating man and his mistress make a clean break?
On the one hand, it may be because the cheating man and his mistress are forced to separate during the sweet period.
The relationship between two people is at a beautiful time. There is no conflict and they are not willing to separate.
So even if they are separated, they still pay attention to each other's lives.
each other finds that the other has not forgotten them and is also paying attention to themselves. If they test it out, the old relationship will naturally rekindle.
As mentioned before, there are many men who cheat on them on their own initiative, and some of them are mistresses on their own initiative.
No matter who takes the initiative on the wife, the reason is the same. A slap in the face can't make a difference.
The cheating man and the mistress are obsessed with it and want to continue, so they have this extramarital affair.
On the other hand, there is a problem with the way wives solve extramarital affairs.
It may be that wives have caused harm to cheating men in the process of resolving extramarital affairs.
Whether it is psychological or profit-related, cheating men have resentment towards their wives.
Even if he returns to his family, he still cannot live a good life with his wife.
Even cheating men have the intention of retaliating against their wives. As long as the wives don't pay attention, they will go to the mistress to rekindle the old relationship.
So the way to resolve an extramarital affair is related to whether there will be a second infidelity.
The second reason is that after a cheating man returns to his family, the attitude of his original wife makes the cheating man feel that it is better to continue cheating than to return.
Lan Fang has said to many wives who have been cheated on that you have to raise the threshold for returning to the family.
But after you decide to accept the cheating man, you must treat the cheating man with kindness and power.
Instead of blindly punishing cheating men, you should make cheating men feel the happiness of marriage.
He felt that there was hope for his future life. It is not that he has always been a sinner and can never raise his head.
If a cheating man feels this way, he will easily cheat again.
Therefore, the threshold for returning to the family is raised.
In the process of resolving the extramarital affair, the cheating man is clearly told that
there is no way to completely forgive him for the time being. It is impossible to dismiss it as an extramarital affair.
After a cheating man breaks up with his mistress, there is no need to mention anything else.
Wives have a clear attitude, and cheating men are mentally prepared.
knows that he may have to punish his wives for a period of time and needs to undergo reasonable investigation.
In this way, wives have a bad attitude towards cheating men, and cheating men are prepared and able to accept it.
Rather than the wives not mentioning the threshold for returning to the family from the beginning,
in order to win back the cheating man, they don’t ask for anything and appear to be able to forgive the cheating man immediately.
As a result, the cheating man really chose to abandon his mistress and go home to live a good life with his wife.
When wives feel that the threat of extramarital affairs is gone, they have to deal with cheating men.
began to embarrass cheating men in various ways, making cheating men look down upon them, or threatening them with extramarital affairs.
If wives do this, cheating men will feel cheated.
After all, when cheating, wives beg the cheating man to go home, but he goes home. The wives have a bad attitude every day.
The cheating man will naturally regret it and want to start over with his mistress and return to cheating. Wives When you save him.
Finally, Lan Fang wanted to say that a cheating man would find a mistress because he must have this opportunity, and the mistress also gives the cheating man this opportunity.
If the cheating man clearly knows that he and his mistress are no longer possible, the mistress will want to take revenge on him.
The cheating man will not go to the mistress at all, so the affair between the cheating man and his mistress must be internally resolved.
In addition, wives need to punish cheating men who have chosen to return to their families, but they also need rewards.
You can't always make cheating men suffer, and you can't really make it impossible for them to get over the hurdle of extramarital affairs.
People always weigh the pros and cons and avoid pain. If a cheating man feels that marriage is painful and will continue to be painful for a long time, he will naturally escape into extramarital affairs.
Correct methods are needed to resolve extramarital affairs, and the same is true for preventing secondary infidelity.
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