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The heroine Du Di in the TV series " Dear Life " was born in a rural family that prioritizes boys over girls. She was very smart from a young age and became a very good doctor after working.
However, no matter how hard and good Du Di is, parents still want to have another son. In the eyes of the grandmother, the existence of the granddaughter is still worthless.
Du Di's mother seemed to love her very much and gave Du Di the warmth of affection he needed most.
When she feels helpless and sad, all she thinks about is a mother's love. All Du Di's efforts just hope to bring happiness to his mother and make her suffer less.
However, Du Di's mother was too cowardly. At the age of 50, she gave birth to a son for their family according to the requirements of her husband and mother-in-law.
Later, she really got pregnant. But for such an advanced mother, even if she is healthy, it is difficult to give birth smoothly, not to mention Du Di's mother.
She has high blood pressure and needs to take medicine regularly. With her current condition, it is impossible to have children.
Du Di was very angry when he found out, so he quarreled with his father and grandma.
It's not that she doesn't allow her mother to give birth to a younger brother, but she is worried that she will lose her life.
The only person in the world who loves her is her mother, and Du Di doesn't want to lose it.
But no matter how Du Di persuaded, grandma and father would not give in. What made Du Di most helpless was that his mother was willing to take risks. When
was in the hospital, his mother said to Du Di: "It is my mother's task to give birth to a son, but you are a gift from God." When
heard this sentence, Du Di's heart was completely disintegrated.
She couldn't bear to stop her mother, she could only do her best to protect her.
But a serious situation happened later. The mother's body couldn't support it and she needed to stop the pregnancy. However, her grandmother and father didn't allow it, and she had to go to another hospital for reexamination.
As a result, my mother got into a car accident and is likely to be in a vegetative state.
Du Di was in the hospital. His grandmother smashed his face with a cup and was ruthlessly abused by her.
Her personality gives a strong feeling, and it is difficult to be gentle when communicating with patients.
's original family really hurt Du Di the most. It seemed that it was her grandmother and father, but it was actually her mother.
In the mother's heart, only by giving birth to a son is it worthwhile. Although
's daughter is excellent, she cannot continue the incense for her husband's family. Although she kept saying that she loved Du Di, she actually didn't think so.
She knew that her husband and in-laws would not really feel bad for her, so she took advantage of her daughter's lack of love.
Cowardly parents seem to love you, but the damage is often deeper.
Du Di's mother, if she really loved her enough, would not allow her daughter to be so slandered by her father and grandma.
Her character will not be so weak, but will try to take the initiative to fight against those who don't love her to the end.
Even though she really has a lot of love for Du Di, this relationship is no deeper than her love for her husband and her husband's family.
Du Di's mother knew her daughter very well, knew that she was kind-hearted and capable.
When she is wronged in her marriage, she can complain to her, and in doing so, Du Di will stand up for himself.
She herself is dissatisfied with her husband and mother-in-law, and has complaints in her heart, but she has no courage to fight back, so she can only let her daughter protect her.
Patriarchal father and grandmother, they never loved Du Di well, and even spoke ill of heropposite.
Du Di has no feelings for them and can cut off the relationship at any time.
However, she always has her mother in mind, so she can't let it go. In these years, Du Di has been burdened by the original family, and even has to see his grandmother's face.
Most of the original family injuries often come not from selfish family members, but from cowardly mothers.
We, who were born as human beings, have a natural affection for our parents since the day we appeared, and hope to gain their love and approval.
The weak-looking mother, she seems to have given all her love to you, and the grievances and forbearance she suffered are also for you.
But in fact, they are not so selfless, more for themselves.
They have no ideas and ideals, they only have men in their eyes, and even if they don't get love from each other, they will continue to live with him.
want to get rid of the pain of the original family, the biggest enemy is not those who hurt your family, nor kidnap your mother with cowardice, but you always ask for love from those who don't love you.
If you also meet a cowardly mother who seems to love you very much, remember to put away the compassion you want to redeem her, and don't be too attached to her love.
All these are her own firm choices, and there is no need to feel wronged and distressed for her at all.
When she complains to you, you have to stay sober and don't help her out, because in the end she may blame you for not being tolerant of elders.
Also, try to stay as far away as possible, this type of mother is not only weak, she will also try to make you weak and submissive.
In the subtle process, you will become a person like her, feeling that you are worthless and unworthy of being loved.
Lu Xun said: "The meaning of parents' existence is not to give children a comfortable and prosperous life, but when you think of your parents, your heart will be full of strength, you will feel warmth, and you will have the courage and ability to overcome difficulties. , so get the real fun and freedom of life."
This world is not friendly to girls, I hope you and I are lucky enough to meet parents who give you courage.