People's Network commented on " their name ": close to the reality of women. What kind of reality is
close to? The reality that
is close to is: women in the three major classes are starting to work hard to make money. They began to rationally and soberly regard marriage as an option, not a must.
The domineering female president began to "reject marriage to help the poor".
After watching " double-sided tape " and "Mother-in-law is coming" in the 1980s, the suffocating plots of big city girls' love brain precision poverty alleviation , there is no doubt that this drama is an out-and-out cool drama.
And, right from the start, the show was cool.
Because, there are not many silly girls who will target poverty alleviation now. Take a look at the marriage between the second son of the seven wolves and the little princess Xtep. The more capable and intelligent a woman is, the more illusory things like love will be looked down upon.
Take a look at Lei Li's "mate selection criteria":
is more mature and refined than me, more literate than me, and lives a little more literary and artistic.
"Of course", those struggling Phoenix men were completely out. And this is the real reality. Most of those excellent and rich women have very clear and rational minds. Most of what they want is to be evenly matched, or they would rather be lacking rather than help the poor with love brains, or even choose to make up for it.
Even if the other party is a small fresh meat, if the other party's economic strength is too poor, they will stay away.
When Gao Xu, who was young and handsome and brought two intoxicating dimples, held a large bouquet of white roses, when threatened to chase Lei Li, Lei Li was not impressed by Gao Xu's appearance and youth. She said very bluntly:
It is absolutely impossible for the two of us. And I'm busy, don't pester me. I will not spend any effort on you.
There's nothing like seeing a handsome man who can't walk. If Lei Li is really such a superficial woman, she can't be the president at all.
And when Gao Xu swore that he could be the man behind Lei Li, Lei Li suddenly said something to him very seriously:
I never wanted to be a strong woman, let alone be in someone else's place. In the eyes is a rare and habitable label. In my world, I don't want to be supported by others, and I don't want to be supported by others. I just want to take care of myself.
This passage is a little more straightforward: don't take my money, although I have money, I won't use it to raise a man, as a stepping stone. I don't need men to support me, but men don't want me to help the poor either. Instead of raising a man, it is better to raise yourself well.
And this is the truest voice of Lei Li, an excellent woman in this class.
As for marriage, Lei Li is even more open to a woman who has been in the market for a long time and has a well-rounded relationship:
No one stipulates that this woman must get married and have children to live. I think this is the right of personal choice. . You said that this husband is lazy at home, the children are crying all over the house, and the mother-in-law is chirping. When I think about it, I can't do it.
Lei Li's most worthwhile learning is that she doesn't have the so-called inferiority complex of an older leftover girl. She always has a kind of arrogance: It's not that she can't, but she doesn't want to, and even disdains it.
Outside of the siege of marriage, she worked hard to make money, not only enriched her body fiercely, but was nearly 40 years old, and could also be said to be a "beautiful murderer". She also nourished her spirit fiercely, and she has noThe decadence of an older leftover girl is the pride of a queen and the tenderness of a young woman.
She is Lei Li.
remember her name. Remember the attributes of this kind of woman, some women, she is the phoenix, the phoenix is not the plane tree does not live, and does not drink unless the spring water, she is the kind of person who prefers to be short rather than excessive, the kind of person who can't rub the sand in his eyes and disdain with the smelly fish People with rotten shrimp.
never want to be a phoenix. He has the ability to be rich and support himself, but he will throw himself into the flock of chickens. Really, when a phoenix is in the flock, he will only be tortured to death by a group of chickens.
As for men, when women are strong enough, men may just be the strawberry on the cake.
Housewives start "Three Wants".
Ren Duomei is a housewife.
She proposed to her husband Zhang Weichen that she would be a housewife and would need to give her 20,000 yuan a month.
When her mother-in-law forced her to have children, she proposed to sign a contract with her mother-in-law to transfer the house, asking 500,000 yuan for one child and 1 million yuan for two children.
In this drama, Ren Duomei is the kind of woman who sees "material:" and completely professionalizes the "full-time wife". The way of pricing is not desirable, but it has to be said that Ren Duomei truly shows the 24 novel's year-round housewife's demand for "money".
But housewives should not only ask for money in marriage There is a huge "loophole" in Ren Duomei, that is, she almost only needs money in this marriage with Zhang Weichen.
Ren Duomei is not like Zhang Weichen's wife, but a "tool of Zhang Weichen" People". And this tool person doesn't need to feel, and can be paid with money. He was having an affair with his junior sister abroad, so he planned to buy a bag for Ren Duomei. He forced Ren Duomei to take contraceptive pills, and proposed to give She buys a bag.
Ren Duomei has almost no dignity and status in front of her mother-in-law in order to maintain this so-called "rich life".
She takes a bottle of water, but her mother-in-law does not agree, so she dare not take it. She eats If you order spicy food, she will be scolded by her mother-in-law. She even has to secretly eat a barbecue.
A housewife like Ren Duomei who "just needs money" can easily become a tool for "serving men and pleasing her mother-in-law". Being "materialized" by men and her mother-in-law and looked down upon. The positive meaning of the character Ren Duomei came after she discovered that Zhang Weichen had betrayed her marriage. Instead of slapping Xiaosan, she gave Zhang Weichen the slap, and Begin to dare to step out of the wealthy life, start working hard to make money and become independent , clearly asking for money and material in every possible way, but it is still very easy to end in a bleak situation. Because, you are not the one who makes money.
Zhang Weichen's mother has long known that Ren Duomei took their family's money, so, except for Zhang Weichen's gift to Ren Duomei Apart from the pocket money, almost all the real estate is in the names of Zhang Weichen and Zhang Weichen's parents, which are pre-marital property.
And once Zhang Weichen and Ren Duomei divorce, in fact, Ren Duomei will not get any money.
In fact, this An excellent example of a full-time wife in the drama is not Ren Duomei, but Ruan Tang. The premise of Ruan Tang being a housewife is that she has the financial power of the family.
does not have a clear price tag, there is no so-called materialization, it is direct, I want money, respect, and status. I want you to see my paymentout, and respect me, take care of me, and be grateful to me.
Ren Duomei still underestimated the huge risk of a full-time wife, even if you regard it as a "professional", even if you try to "materialize" it, as long as you don't have financial power, as long as you don't have the ability and ability to make money , then you will always be on the "weak" side.
But it has to be said that this role still has certain progressive significance. She represents women's thinking and awakening of "being a housewife". Although the
method is flawed, it allows the public to see the rationality of housewives' asking for money.
The working class began "demanding to share housework".
Shen Jianan is too idealistic.
Originally, she was a newcomer to the society and belonged to the working class, but she became a rich second-generation identity, so all her arrogance became a matter of course.
She can blatantly fight against the boss in the company, she can follow Lei Li's eyes, pursue Qin Tian in earnest, develop an office romance, and even become a good girlfriend with Lei Li and charge into battle.
But aside from her rich second-generation status, as a working class, Shen Jianan's views on marriage and love are still correct: She does not worship money, does not want to marry into a wealthy family, nor does she want to rely on a wealthy family, she just wants to make money by herself. Active love.
And now the real working-class women are roughly similar to Shen Jianan in terms of marriage and love: Everyone makes money to support the family, so the housework should naturally be shared with each other.
If Shen Jianan and Tan Tian are together, there is a high probability that the two of them will work hard to earn money, then go home, share the housework and support each other.
and Shen Jianan and An Yan have another shining point, that is, they never feel that marriage is a haven for shelter in their hearts, but firmly and soberly believe that working hard and earning money can make themselves stand out. lost ground. They have given them more choices in their lives.
An Yan went to the workplace not long after giving birth to her child. There is a high probability that Shen Jianan will also look like An Yan. Marriage, family, and even children can't stop them from working hard.
They will be more tired than Ruan Tang, but also more self-confident, more courageous than Ruan Tang.
Especially the shaping of the character An Yan.
was born out of wedlock, a single mother, with a baby in one hand, and a career in the other. Although it was difficult and even embarrassing, she always straightened her waist and depended on herself.
It's time for men to reform. In the last article of
, I wrote about the disadvantages of Ren Duomei's "body and stomach" clearly marked.
But when I read the comments, I suddenly realized that marriage brings too little to women. Many women feel that Ren Duomei can at least get some money, and they want to have children and be housewives, and they also have a point. No money.
And This also means that women's enthusiasm for marriage has seriously declined, especially with women's recognition of "hard work to make money". They no longer tie the rest of their lives to marriage and a man, but to their hard work.
And once such a situation is formed, it will be a very difficult era for women, but it will also be an era in which men urgently need reform.
Women can make money to support their families and look beautiful, so where do men pay for marriage?
If a man does not have strong economic strength at this time, and he still wants to be a "grandfather" in marriage, then a woman who has the ability to make money can easily be completely disappointed in marriage, or even make another choice.
With the formation of the status quo that women in the three major classes "all work hard to make money", women's requirements for men will become higher and higher, and it is no longer a simple matter of "making money".
and began to tend to: You can not only make money to support your family, but also love me, love me, and respect me. For making money, so can I. And "love me, love me, respect me" is the key to my longing for marriage.
Well, what if men just don't want to change?
They "don't want to give money, don't want to give love, and don't want to give respect", but just treat women as decorations, tools, free babysitters, and even tools for giving birth?
There is a high probability that such a man will be abandoned. Like the husband of the eldest sister who travels by car.
Because women don't owe you anything.
Since you have the ability to be beautiful alone, why do you have to practice yourself.
Instead of wasting emotion and youth around you, it is better to work hard to make money to support your body and spirit, or try another place.
It is reported that in 2050, the number of single men will reach 100 million.
For this social phenomenon, I just want to say, natural selection, survival of the fittest, survival of the fittest, natural selection.
I hope that women will become more sober and better, and I hope that men will wake up as soon as possible.
is especially the kind of man who doesn't want anything, but also considers himself a "grandfather".
