Yesterday, the hit drama " their name " ushered in the finale.
The strong woman Lei Li relied on her strength to return to the workplace, and her relationship with her little boyfriend was over; Ren Duomei, the housewife, finally has a career, but the marriage is still not divorced!
netizens are outraged, they feel that Ren Duomei has a career and is financially independent, but in the face of an infertile and framed husband who she can't have, why not keep it for the New Year? !
Most people watch dramas, more to make up for the regrets and dissatisfaction in life, so they all want to watch some heart-warming plots.
is like we especially appreciate Lei Li's vigorous and decisive actions;
admires Shen Jianan's sometimes mindless but angered manners;
But in real life, most people still live like Ren Duomei.
01 Lei Li's Sa
Lei Li can be said to be my favorite character in this show. Beautiful and capable, sober in the world, doing things with affection, righteousness and responsibility.
There are too many golden sentences of her career and life in the play, which can give people a feeling of empowerment.
She is a 38-year-old unmarried female executive in the workplace with an annual salary of one million. At the
class reunion, her best friend took all her famous bags and watches as a facade, but she didn't care at all.
At the banquet, others were fighting for their husbands and children, and she looked calm.
is a truly powerful person with a firm heart and a stable aura.
She said to her girlfriends who love gossip, "As long as they put this competitive spirit in their work, they don't need to brush their presence at the class reunion."
"You can compare yourself to others, but if you follow If they are more concerned with getting married and having children, then I will not leave you for the New Year (break up)!"
cares about what they can control, and at the same time does not compete with others on their own shortcomings.
Lei Li is not a celibate, but after experiencing emotional betrayal, he has never met a suitable one.
But later, she also bravely tried to have a relationship with her boyfriend who was 14 years younger than her.
In this relationship, she is very cautious and enjoys it, and at the same time, she is very sober. Love has no age, but you can't lose yourself.
is looking forward to love and marriage, but it won't happen.
Lei Li has enough financial strength, a strong heart, and girlfriends who share the same values. She lives very casually.
02 Shen Jianan's cool
is unanimously liked by the audience compared to Lei Li's character, the rich second generation Shen Jianan loves the temper of others, some people love it and some people step on it.
likes her and thinks that she lived out the sincerity, bravery and chivalry of the post-90s generation;
even said a lot of 's innermost thoughts that they dared not to say, and at the same time, she was able to slap each other with every word. Speechless.
Those who don't like her just say: This character is not because she is a rich second-generation, so you don't have to worry about making a living, you don't have to be afraid of saying the wrong thing, losing your job and having no friends.
is like what Lei Li said to Shen Jianan: You are very happy!
Dare to love and hate, it should be Shen Jianan's label.
suspected that Lei Li was his father's little san, so he went straight to check the evidence;
liked his immediate boss, Tan Tian, so he boldly and bravely confessed his pursuit, thinking that he had a renewed relationship with his ex-girlfriend, and that he would not be dragging his feet.
can't stand the boss who loves to take advantage, she can reply directly without swearing;
faced the bullied girl, she bravely stepped forward to help.
Shen Jianan's straightforwardness has the confidence brought to her by her native family and her own strength. After all, she finally started her own business.
03 Ren Duomei's compromise
Ren Duomei is the most cautious among the three girls.
She came out of a small city, worked hard with her boyfriend in a big city, and wanted to have a home of her own here.
For three years, the two could only rent a basement. She could not see any hope and chose to break up.
Finally, I found a husband who was better than me in all aspects of family background and education.
For this, Ren Duomei also paid a price: that is, to be a good wife who is obedient to her husband and godson, and serves her in-laws.
her husband told her not to go to work, she listened;
mother-in-law taught her to keep the house spotless, and she did it;
put marriage first in everything, even if she was a blogger, she could give in .
Some people say that Ren Duomei is a woman who worships gold.
is not hurt by others, don't persuade others to be kind.
Ren Duomei lives very realistically because he wants a home of his own that is warmer than his native family.
But she was so low in her marriage that she didn't dare to let her parents visit her house, and she didn't dare to confront her husband's ambiguity with other women.
All of this started when she gave up her ability to make money.
Because having a career is not only economic independence, but also allows you to have a broader vision, keep pace with the times, not be eliminated by the society, and earn a sense of value and self-esteem at the same time.
Alain de Botton said: "The so-called work is exhaustion with dignity."
Family affairs are also work, the premise is the recognition and understanding of the family.
Later, with the help of Lei Li and Shen Jianan, Ren Duomei finally had a career again.
's mother-in-law immediately admired her. Ren Duomei was also in the limelight, tearing off the veil of her husband's ambiguity.
The marriage is cracked, but it can continue.
However, when Ren Duomei found out that her husband had secretly changed her pregnancy test report and lied to her that she couldn't give birth, Ren Duomei finally woke up.
kept shouting in the barrage: Divorce quickly, concentrate on your career.
But is everything really that simple?
"One piece of paper for marriage, one book for divorce!"
This is what Ren Duomei summed up from his years of experience and experience when he consulted a divorce lawyer.
Shen Jianan, who has never been married, has only one suggestion: why didn't Ren Duomei get a divorce? Are you afraid?
Lei Li became a model of a good girlfriend, took her to see the most professional divorce lawyer, respected her personal opinion, and finally expressed her true thoughts:
is not in a hurry to get a result, don't decide your own hastily future.
has to say that a mature and rational girlfriend like Lei Li really earned it.
04
Everyone who enters marriage is rushing to grow old together.
There are a few bumps that can think of what will happen in the middle, let alone the later parting ways, or a lawsuit with a tearing faceWay.
"Marriage is not easy. Talking about bride price and dowry is always happy;
But divorce is different, there are too many entanglements, and some even become enemies with tears in their faces."
Ren Duomei still decided to give her husband one Give your marriage a chance. The difference between
is that now she has a career and has more choices, including her mother-in-law's approval, her husband's remorse and apology, and 's initiative in marriage.
Marriage is suitable or not, only you know. She doesn't need an answer for what others think.
A person's character is also complex, there is no so-called black and white. When
started chasing this drama, it was for these three different girls' personalities.
Lei Li's independence, Shen Jianan's enthusiasm, and Ren Duomei's down-to-earth gentleness.
hopes that you can also become an independent, kind-hearted self who has both a high emotional intelligence and the courage to break through yourself.
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