"No matter how bad your husband is to you, you have to bear it for the sake of your children. If you divorce, your children will become children of single-parent families, and they will be scorned. As a mother, you never want your children to follow you Endure hardship and suffer!" Is this sentence particularly familiar? Many women with children have heard this type of advice when planning a divorce.
A child is a piece of meat from the mother, and is the mother's biggest weakness. The female is soft, and the mother is strong. This is the same in the animal kingdom.
Many women are at odds with their husbands and cannot continue to live together, but they can only keep on going. A large part of the reason is for their children.
Some women are afraid of losing their children's custody rights due to lack of financial means, while some women are reluctant to have their children become children of single-parent families. They are looked down upon by others and have no dad's love.
Actually, a marriage that is imaginary is not very beneficial to the growth of children. Children who live in a family where their parents have been in a long-term cold war or even quarrel are not happy.
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If before getting married, I knew that my husband is violent and he likes alcohol, I would rather be single for a lifetime than promise to marry him and give birth to a daughter for him. Before getting married, my husband gave me the impression of a smart and capable man. When I encountered a problem, he was the person who wanted to ask for help the first time, and he never let me down once. The husband of
is a very ambitious man, but he does not have enough patience. He always thinks about getting rich overnight. He does not consider the pros and cons before investing. He is led by his friends. Not only did he fail to make money, but also I owed a lot of debts.
I feel very worried about this, and I am very optimistic about some of his unrealistic ideas, and I have also discouraged him. However, he felt that I was short-sighted, had no common language with him, and would not listen to my advice.
After the failure of the third venture, her husband developed a bad habit of alcoholism. He didn't go out to work every day to make money, and he didn't want to make a comeback and was addicted to alcohol all day long.
I was worried about his body, for fear that he had a problem, and dissuaded him, but he did not listen to my advice. In order to control him,
father-in-law and mother-in-law gave me all the money at home for safekeeping. The money on him was quickly spent, so I asked for money to buy wine.
I refused to give him money to buy wine. The two of us quarreled. He got up with alcohol. He actually gave me a slap, pushed me to the ground, grabbed my bag, and took the bank card.
I was very disappointed. I returned to my natal home with my daughter in my arms. For the first time, I thought of divorcing him.
My mother persuaded me: "Tongtong is only eight years old, and I can’t live without my father. It’s normal for the couple to fight, for the sake of their children, you can bear it!"
On the third day I returned to my natal family, my husband was persecuted by my father-in-law and mother-in-law. Next, I came to my mother's house and apologized to me, knelt in front of me and begged me for mercy, coupled with my daughter's crying, I finally relented and returned to my husband's house.
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I thought my husband already knew that he was wrong, so I decided to give him another chance, but his performance made me disappointed.
He promised me that he would give up his alcohol addiction, and he took practical action to find a job. However, he didn't get along well with his colleagues in the company, and even started a fight, was fired by his boss and sent back.
The husband who lost his job is getting depressed and starts drinking again. In order to prevent him from corrupting the money at home, I changed the password of the bank card. He took the bank card to withdraw money to buy wine, but he didn't know the password, so he came back to ask me for it, and I decided not to tell him.
So, he committed a second domestic violence to me and sent me to the hospital. If it weren't for his parents-in-law to stop him, I would be seriously injured.
On the second day of my hospitalization, my daughter came to me with scars all over her body and cried to me: "Mom, I don’t want this dad who will domestic violence. He drank again and smashed things at home. I was so angry. After arguing with him a few words, he hit me. Oh, mother, I am afraid, I don't want to see him." When
heard my daughter's cry, my anger was completely ignited. I dare not divorce because of the child, femaleA word, let me give initiation.
For the sake of my daughter, I swallowed my anger and tolerated his domestic violence, but he did not even let his daughter go. He is not fit to be my husband, nor is he fit to be my daughter's father.
I have the ability to make money and can support my daughter. I don’t need him, a father who only knows about alcoholism. The presence of a violent father like him will only leave a serious psychological shadow on my daughter, and it will be even more detrimental to her growth.
I made up my mind to force him to divorce regardless of anyone's opposition, holding the iron evidence of his domestic violence.
"If you don't get a divorce, I will call the police and put you in jail."
Under my tough attitude, the man persuaded him and didn't dare to argue with me and signed the divorce agreement.
I became a single mother, but since my daughter left the house violent, the smile on her face has increased, which made me even more convinced that my divorce was right.
I want to tell a woman that if you and your husband are really fate, every moment you are together is a torment, it is better to choose to let go cleanly.
Parents are not harmonious, and the family is full of cold war or disputes, which is even more detrimental to the children's psychological growth.
