"I gave you my youth, shouldn't you pay the bill?": The boy's answer is thought-provoking

2020-09-24 23:06:19 news 1791℃

has always been arguing about whether to "AA system" or "boys pay" when falling in love.

This question is roughly divided into three "factions." Those who agree with the AA system believe that when they are in a relationship, both parties should clearly distinguish their money, lest they break up because of who spends more and who spends less Problems and entangled endlessly.

and those who support "one party to take care of" (in most cases, boys pay the bill), they think that if boys don't have any financial strength, they don't think about falling in love. This is not only an emotional need, but also a test of its economic foundation. After all, if you want to get to the step of talking about marriage, it still depends on the economic situation.

There is also a group of people who think that there is no need to make the distinction so clear, don't care too much, there should be time to pay for each other before, or deal with it according to the actual situation of the parties.

It is true that the last method is ideal in theory. But on the one hand, there is a kind of "face" issue that needs to be taken into consideration when in love, on the other hand, many times we can't do real negligence.

"I gave you all my youth, shouldn't you pay for it?"

I have a buddy who always spends money with his ex-girlfriend. Watching movies, eating, traveling, etc. are all paid by buddies.

At first, everyone got along fairly well. In addition, my buddy has a good job and a good salary. Some daily dating expenses can't bring him much burden.

But as the time gets along longer and longer, his ex-girlfriend becomes picky about where to go out to eat. He wants to choose a petty-bourgeois restaurant to eat, and the prices of such restaurants are generally more expensive. I also want to go to places that are affectionate and petty. The key to

is that she buys cosmetics, clothes and bags by herself and asks my buddy to pay. I often bought a lot of things online, and then sent the link to my buddy to "empty the shopping cart". Every time

can be called a name, he will also hint that the buddy will buy her a gift, and the gift should not be too ordinary. A bunch of flowers or a movie is not a "surprise", it is best to be the kind of expensive and high-end things.

As a result, my buddy really couldn't bear it, so he told his ex-girlfriend to break up. When the two were arguing, the buddies complained about the issue that the other party had to pay for the cosmetics and clothes he used.

As a result, his ex-girlfriend said frankly: "I gave you my youth, shouldn't you pay for it?"

My buddy replied: "Whose youth is not youth? Only you have youth?"

People's love just broke up.

"Love is not all of life"

It is impossible to say that two people can fall in love together without love between them. But the reality is that love alone does not prove that the two can really go on.

is like my buddy’s relationship. The two broke up not because there was no love, but because the girl’s “excessive” consumption burdened the boy, and finally broke up because of the question of “should you pay the bill”.

Later, when my buddy recalled this relationship, he said with emotion: "In the final analysis, is because I am not rich enough. Regardless of the problem of money, the relationship between us is still very good."

So I was thinking, he even more Is it true that two people can really go on for a long time with a little money? I doubt it.

Because the relationship breakup between them is not essentially a question of more money and less money, it is caused by their different living habits and concepts of getting along.

His ex-girlfriend believes that boys should pay the bill when they are in love, and it is not just the expenses of the two dating, but also everything about his material comfort.

"I gave you all my youth" is another meaning behind the sentence: "I buy beautiful clothes, not all to make you face when I date you."

So she thinks she buys cosmetics, Buying clothes and bags is a way of "pleasing oneself", so she thinks it makes sense for boys to pay.

It is conceivable that if my buddy is really richer and can not care about these consumptions, then even if the two finally get together, the two will not be too happy.

zAfter all, 9z has an upper limit on income, and there is no end to spending money.

You must know that love is not all of life, and reality is often longer than love.

"Whose youth is not youth?"

Actually, "I gave you all my youth, shouldn't you pay for it?" This sentence is not just a case. As far as I know, many people will often put this sentence on My lips-including some boys will do the same.

Many girls will feel that they are in love with someone, which is to give each other their beautiful youth. So they will subconsciously think that they are the "aggrieved" party.

Therefore, when they are spending each other's money, they will feel reasonable, even justified.

But in fact, my buddy’s reply is really worth thinking about: "Whose youth is not youth?"

Whether it is a boy or a girl, youth is precious and irreversible. If you lose it, you lose it. When you are in love with someone, you feel that you have given your beautiful youth to the other person, but doesn't the other person also give you their youth?

asked me to say that using "youth" as an argument when falling in love is all about "extraordinary words." When

faced this problem, it was no longer a problem of "AA system" or "boys all pay the bill", but a problem of attitude towards feelings.

A relationship requires the joint efforts of both parties to keep the balance of love balanced. Blindly asking or paying by any party will break this balance.

"Youth" is just an excuse that many people take for granted. If you are a person who loves your youth, you will know how to cherish each other's feelings.

Concluding remarks

When you are in a relationship, too much emphasis on the "AA system" will bring a lot of care and attention to the relationship between the two, and it will also add a "money flavor" to love, which is not conducive to the development of relationships.

and it is purely that one party takes care of all the expenses, it will appear to be very material on the other hand, and it is also not good for feelings.

Therefore, the ideal way to spend money in a relationship is to pay for each other. Pay the bill according to the different economic conditions of both parties. The point of

is not to overspend in order to deliberately pursue the so-called "romance" or "surprise", even if everyone is very rich.

Because if both parties are in love for a long time together, then they need to be more pragmatic and more rational.

is still the same sentence: "Love is not all of life."

Don't even have the concept of "I gave my youth", just like my buddy's saying:

"Whose youth is not youth?"