Original丨Text/Xiao Zhai
Marriage is a besieged city, people who enter the city complain, and those outside the city envy. Then why do people who enter the city complain?
There are two types of people who complain: the first is pretending, and the second is the unhappy marriage.
We are in the information society. There are many couples who show affection on the Internet. Sometimes we see others admire the happiness of marriage, but we often worry about ourselves. We must know that happiness in marriage is not a gift from heaven, and marriage also needs to be managed by ourselves. So how to manage marriage as a smart woman?
Empathy Thinking: Learn to think about problems from the other side's perspective
A smart woman who can think about problems from the other side's perspective. In this way, you can treat yourself as the other party and think about the problem from the other party's perspective. The other person can feel full of love, and will naturally give back their love for you.
willful and selfish, doing nothing wrong is a stumbling block on the road to marriage. If you want to be happy, you have to learn to give in, and you can't just consider your own ideas. Being able to put yourself in a position to think about the problem is the most intimate and the most comforting.
is evenly matched: a balanced relationship between husband and wife
there is an invisible but intangible “libra” between husband and wife. Libras are balanced in a normal marriage. You come and go, and you are evenly matched. Blindly paying will cause Libra to lose balance, which will lead to unequal relationship between husband and wife. In the long run, the chance of relationship breakdown is great.
In the world of love, women are just like men. If you want the excellent man around you to belong to you, then you must learn to avoid and correct your own problems. Gain more initiative for yourself. It's not that the problem broke out before regretting it.
knows how to respect: men love face
Some women cannot tolerate some of the shortcomings of the other party, and will make the other party’s affairs public if the other party has not corrected it. Tell your relatives and friends, and even keep stigmatizing your husband in front of your husband and friends, so that your husband will feel that you do not respect him. Never complain about it for a while, quarrel in the guest hall.
When you blindly blame your husband for not taking you out to meet friends or taking you on a mountain tour, have you reviewed yourself? Learn to respect each other and praise each other in front of relatives and friends, so that the husband feels that you respect him, show weakness appropriately, stimulate the man's desire for protection, and make the other party more and more inseparable from you. This is the right way.
Xiaozhai’s message
"One hundred years of cultivation, we can cross the same boat, and thousands of years of cultivation can sleep together"
In this world, we have experienced a lot, tasted the warmth of the world, and watched enough of the world's cold. It wasn't until I met the right partner that I had a warm little home of my own.
Maybe you have been troubled by firewood, rice, oil and salt all day long, maybe you have had enough of this kind of ordinary life, but please look back, he who is not good at expressing affection has always been behind you to shelter you from wind and rain.
My name is Xiao Zhai, a clumsy newcomer, paying attention to me, working towards a better life together, rushing.
