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More than two thousand years ago, Zhuo Wenjun wrote to Sima Xiangru in "White Head Yin": "I wish to have one heart, and the white head will not be separated."
Whether it was in the past or now, love is always the same. Subject. Everyone is eager to love and be loved, and hope to grow old with their beloved ones.
But in real life, many things are beyond your control, and even the best feelings will change over time.
Whenever marriage is mentioned, many people sigh, it is obvious that the love before marriage is so exhausting after marriage.
Marriage is the biggest thing women have in their lives. Many women get married in a hurry before they can distinguish between love and love, so that they fall into infinite confusion and regret after marriage.
Therefore, before a woman gets married, she must understand these two principles and create a happy marriage for herself.
01, don’t love too much, have reservations
I believe in your perception, you must do your best to love someone, do your best, even if you don’t get any rewards, you have no regrets or regrets, but reality Will tell you how confident you are, how confident he is.
You must know that love cannot be compared. Don't care about how much you love or less. What you have to understand is that you must learn to love yourself before you love someone.
No matter how much you love someone, after you get married, don’t just give in ignorantly. Only if you ask for it appropriately, will your marriage be happier.
friend Arlene has been in love with her boyfriend for ten years, but eventually she couldn't escape the breakup. Over the past ten years, Arlene has loved him without asking for anything in return. What she has given is not only the joy, but also the youth that will never go back.
Arlene’s experience tells me that if you love someone without reservation, you will only be bitten by love and hurt yourself. In the end, you can only heal yourself through time.
In fact, in the final analysis, most of the reasons for women who are unhappy in marriage are because they love too much and don't have extra time to love themselves.
Every woman should remember that everything is reversed, and don't love too much. If you love another person, you have to leave room for yourself. If you overdo it, it will backfire.
02. You must talk about money before getting married.
I once saw a question on Zhihu: "Why do we have to talk about money before getting married." One of the replies of
got a lot of praise and comments from many people, and the content is . Every marriage always starts with love, but ends with life."
In this era when everything is inseparable from money, it is necessary for every woman to talk about money with each other before getting married.
You may think that talking about money will make people think you are very material, but you should understand that marriage is different from love. Without money as a basis for feelings, life after marriage is likely to be quarrelsome.
Actually, it is not an embarrassing thing to negotiate money before marriage and ask for a gift. On the contrary, it will let you see through the nature of a person, safeguard your own interests, and lay a solid foundation for your future marriage.
A sister of mine has been married for two years and quit her job to be a housewife at home. Her daily task is to take care of her children and do housework. The mother-in-law always looked at her unpleasantly, often snorted to her, rarely gave her a good face.
And the reason why she has come to this point is because she got pregnant first when she was unmarried, and she didn't ask for a bonus when she got married.
It is undeniable that if a woman does not value material things and does not talk about money before marriage, her in-laws and family will think that you are cheap after marriage, will not put you in their eyes, and will not respect you.
So, if you don’t want to turn your marriage into life, or if you don’t want to be the nanny of the marriage, then you must talk about money before getting married.
In addition, in a good marriage, in addition to loving yourself and negotiating money, you also need to adhere to your own bottom line and principles, and don't be patient and expose your weakness. emotional
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Author: Wife
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