come from the psychology of Xiaolou. The author Lou
talks about Li Zongsheng, some people will think of Lin Yilian, when it comes to Lin Yilian, some people will think of Li Zongsheng.
Their stories are well known by too many people, so that some fans say that the name Li Zongsheng should follow Lin Yilian as a matter of course.
But few people know that before Lin Yilian, there is a woman behind Li Zongsheng, this woman is Zhu Weiyin , Li Zongsheng’s first wife.
01 From a well-known host to a full-time wife
Zhu Weiyin was a music radio DJ host in Hong Kong when she was young, and she was a famous talent in Hong Kong. Through a friend's introduction, Zhu Weiyin met Li Zongsheng.
When the two met for the first time, there were many topics in common, and the more they talked, the more speculative. After
returned to Taiwan, Li Zongsheng began to make overseas calls with Zhu Weiyin and soon fell in love.
Darling, you can be close to me until the sea dies, even if that moment really comes, I still love you as always.
Li Zongsheng used this "Devoted to you" to express his hot emotions on the phone. Zhu Weiyin on the other side of the phone also determined that Li Zongsheng was her true son.
continued for two years, Li Zongsheng did not express his desire to marry Zhu Weiyin. Finally one day, Zhu Weiyin said to Li Zongsheng:
My phone bill is going to run out. We have two choices, either get married or break up...
After these questions, Li Zongsheng decided to propose to Zhu Weiyin.
In 1988, Zhu Weiyin gave up presiding over his career and settled in Taiwan with Li Zongsheng, starting a life of husband and child.
After marriage, the two lived peacefully. Zhu Weiyin gave birth to two daughters, took care of the family in an orderly manner, prepared meals every day and waited for her husband to come back, and silently supported Li Zongsheng, who worked hard for his career.
Not long after, after Li Zongsheng became the vice president of Rolling Stone, he had more and more projects in his hands and less and less time with his wife and daughter.
Even later, Li Zongsheng had to work overtime in order to make records for the singer. He either did not go home for a few days, or went home and was busy in another room.
For ten months, Zhu Weiyin slept alone in the bedroom. She recalled, "It seems like a life without a husband for ten months." (At that time Li Zongsheng was working on "Dream Awakening Time")
Zhu Weiyin recalled that during that time she had nothing to do except for housework, so she wanted Li Zongsheng to accompany her every day.
But Li Zongsheng has put all his thoughts on work, and often turns a deaf ear to his wife's needs. This kind of situation is increasing, the dispute between the two is more and more frequent, and the feelings are getting estranged in these disputes.
At this moment, Li Zongsheng met Lin Yilian.
02 An irreversible marriage
The 1992 movie "Farewell My Concubine" was released. Li Zongsheng met Lin Yilian while recording the theme song "When Love is a Past".
Lin Yilian was just an unknown singer at that time. But Li Zongsheng, who knows the eye and knows the bead, heard infinite potential in her singing.
He became more and more fascinated by Lin Yilian’s singing, and even said to the outside without suspicion:
likeA woman like Lin Yilian, listening to her voice is enough to fall in love with her.
After Lin Yilian arrived at The Rolling Stones, the relationship with Li Zongsheng became closer and closer. The two found resonance in the music, and gradually broke through the ordinary colleague relationship.
Although she knew Li Zongsheng had a family, Lin Yilian fell in love with him.
Zhu Weiyin said in an interview many years later that when faced with the intervention of a third party, she did not cry or make trouble, thinking that the man would go home, but Li Zongsheng responded indifferently.
Li Zongsheng later recalled this episode. He also experienced inner suffering. Although he did not have the passion for love for Zhu Weiyin, the relationship between the two of them was still deep for so many years. The betrayal made him like a thorn. As a father, Li Zongsheng loves his daughter very much, and his affair prevents him from facing his two children directly. However, he couldn't control his feelings for Lin Yilian...
and the three people were pulling in such a relationship until Li Zongsheng's goodbye concert in 1994.
Li Zongsheng invited many singers to join him at the concert, and Lin Yilian was one of them.
Zhu Weiyin was sitting in the audience as an audience, watching the close interaction between Li Zongsheng and Lin Yilian on the stage. She knew in her heart that this relationship had long existed in name only.
Zhu Weiyin wrote in the book:
I have seen so many concerts, all with an expectant mood. But watching a most intimate person perform on stage, but in fact this person is farther and farther away from you, even stranger, once the concert is over, he will really leave you Go, to pursue what he wants. After Lin Yilian immigrated to Canada after
, Li Zongsheng also followed. Zhu Weiyin remained silent all the time, and the two were in a state of separation. The relationship
dragged on for another 3 years, and Li Zongsheng divorced Zhu Weiyin. Just the second year after the divorce, Li Zongsheng married Lin Yilian in Canada, when Lin Yilian was five months pregnant.
03 Regain self
Maybe everyone has to experience Nirvana to be reborn, and Zhu Weiyin is no exception. Before she picked herself up again, she experienced a dark time that was unimaginable by outsiders.
After the divorce, Zhu Weiyin’s parents passed away one after another, followed by the Hong Kong financial tsunami. All her wealth accumulated over the years was lost. She herself suffered from severe depression and wanted to commit suicide for a time, which supported her only motivation to live. Just two daughters.
She wrote in her book:
my favorite people left me, the money was gone, and I contracted a strange disease. At that time, my life was at the bottom of the rock.
With the help of her friends, she restarted DJ work-everything started from scratch.
Relying on her previous professional accumulation and hard work, Zhu Weiyin's work gradually got on the right track, and her work regained her confidence and her mentality began to change.
In 1999, she published her first book "True Love Never Die".
in an interview with "Taiwan Apocalypse" she confessed:
before, people called me Mrs. Li, the older brother's woman, but in the past few years, I am really happy and I am myself again.
In Zhu Weiyin’s view:
When I was young, I was not that mature. When I was in a relationship, I depended on each other very much, thinking that the other party should give me a lot of happiness and provide me with a lot of things. If he loves me, I should help. I solve all the problems, everything I do with himThere are relationships.
Zhu Weiyin did not blame Lin Yilian for the divorce caused by a third party's intervention. Instead, she said:
divorce should be 50 per cent for two people. I was really not a mature wife before. The failure of marriage
let Zhu Weiyin see herself clearly, and understand love and relief.
The relationship between her and her ex-husband Li Zongsheng also broke the freezing point, and the two became friends. When it comes to Li Zongsheng, Zhu Weiyin does not hesitate to praise.
Zhu Weiyin's changes made Li Zongsheng also impressed. When she published the book, Li Zongsheng wrote the preface: Rosita (Zhu Weiyin English name) in the book
was a part that had not been developed when I met her. Therefore, I read this book with gusto like you, and I am also very happy to know Rosita from this book. I am as passionate about life, but I know what my pursuit is, and I am full of love for my daughter, but more Advise children intimately and softly, be as sincere and enthusiastic as friends, but better understand how to balance giving and receiving.
04 You can love anyone, you must first love yourself
Many women may have experiences similar to Zhu Weiyin, because they fall in love with a man, give up everything to follow him, have children for him, and entrust them for the rest of their lives. Each other, but their passion was consumed in the trivialities of the marriage. In the end, a woman's life is left with her husband and children, but a man empathizes.
But after the divorce, Zhu Weiyin did not indulge in her own pain, but relied on her own efforts to return to the workplace.
What is more commendable is that she also reflected on her marriage very objectively, and did not completely shirk the responsibility of marriage failure on the other party. In fact, it seems to the whole world that it was Li Zongsheng who had acted as a disgraceful man, but Zhu Weiyin not only chose to forgive, but also became friends with him and gained his respect again.
Zhu Weiyin really let go, let go of the painful feelings, and gained a complete self.
She and Li Zongsheng became very good friends. After Li Zongsheng divorced Lin Yilian, she persuaded him that if he wanted to be single, he could have a good woman with him.
Some people say she is open-minded, some people say she is big-hearted, I don't think so, she just understands more and more on the road of life, love anyone, you must love yourself first.
