Big S likes Kimura Takuya. The program team arranged a blessing video for the male god, and she was immediately moved to tears.
recalls how to chase stars, all kinds of love but not , really sad and sweet.
But when Aya said that she liked Andy Lau very much, Big S had a "You don't deserve to like Andy Lau" . If
is just a joke, it's fine.
It is also common for girlfriends to talk ironically and play with each other.
But the more you look down, the more uncomfortable you are.
Aya describes an interesting story between herself and idol.
size S directly interrupted: shut up and didn't want to listen to .
Aya recalled her close contact with idols.
Big S grabbed the conversation and started to show off that he has a better relationship with Andy Lau .
"What, do you have a wedding photo with Andy Lau? I have a script written by him in my hand, and I have kissed him. "
No matter whether the big S is sincere or accidental.
at least in the eyes of the viewer, the subtext of this statement is:
compared with me, you are not scarce to come up with those little things.
At that time, Aya's reaction was also very real.
stopped talking, and his expression seemed a little unhappy.
This is more than that.
Big S publicly ridiculed Aya's short legs and a five to five body ratio.
said that her face is not advanced.
also "sue" Chen Jianzhou, saying that Aya was recently playing the role of a strong female character, and he didn't put himself in the eyes, and let the blacks take a lesson.
Friends get along with some small complaints, which is understandable. What kind of logic is
running to others and saying?
's use of the word "lessons" is also confusing.
All of the above situations have caused many netizens to feel uncomfortable with "Big S relies on the pretty assault, bullies the kind Aya".
accusations were everywhere.
Aya personally sent Weibo to clarify and maintain , so that everyone should not doubt their twenty-year friendship because of a few clips.
Big S himself tried to reply to question in a joking manner, "I was the devil"
unexpectedly triggered a greater backlash.
netizens said she has no empathy and disrespect for friends.
Not only did everyone complain about the "bully" Aya, they also used a very serious vocabulary:
bullying .
Then, the more fiercer material in "Kangxi" was dug out.
Size S and Aya met at Huagang Art School.
At that time, Aya was completely a tomboy, with great strength and wild personality. The two sisters took a tricky Aya for fun almost daily.
contains a past incident of " jumping from building ".
Huagang Art School, there is a basketball court downstairs.
Many boys jump directly from the windows on the second floor in order to be handsome.
size S Just you and I, persuading Aya to jump.
Aya really jumped down, broke her hand and got up with injuries all over her body . People around
laughed.
Aya returned to the classroom. thought that size S would applaud her for being great, but they did not expect them to pretend to sleep over there.
youIt might be said that this is a prank among friends, it's a matter of your wish.
is fine too.
The following one is a bit weird. The three of them went downstairs to buy bread together. Aya walked forward, but Xiao S suddenly pushed her downstairs from behind .
Aya almost fell into a shit.
Little S said "You can't blame me, it's because you didn't practice Tai Chi" .
involves physical injury, which requires vigilance.
This reminds Xiangyu of the American TV series "Big and Small Lies".
Renata found a tooth mark on her daughter's arm, and was furious.
immediately went to the school office.
She used very serious words such as " bullying " (bully), " abuse " (abuse) one after another.
If being bitten is bullying, what is Aya's broken arm?
Xiangyu admits that getting along with friends is a very personal matter, without outsiders' speculation.
The gossip discussion of "Are they plastic sisters" is not the focus of today's discussion.
What I really care about is the reflection of , a more serious social issue :
What is bullying?
How to distinguish between joking and bullying?
has a short film on a related subject, which is worth thinking about.
This is a social experiment on "Will passers-by stop bullying" .
Xiangyu originally thought that the staff would probably design a bridge such as a child being torn down, and then test the compassion of passersby.
did not expect that this "bullying" was much gentler and more concealed than I thought.
Three girls sitting at the bus stop waiting for the bus. Two of
mocked the other:
you need makeup too much to save your looks. (degraded appearance)
I heard that your dance team partner used to pretend to be sick, just to avoid going to your birthday party. (Social Isolation)
When someone says you audition, it sounds like a dying pig calling. (Ability degraded)
You probably don’t have friends, and your imagined friends and family are not counted. (social isolation)
I believe many people are also a little confused when they see this.
said a few ridicules like this, is it bullying?
Yes.
This is bullying.
Some passers-by immediately stood up and expressed their support for the little girl.
"No, she doesn't need makeup"
"Are you not good at talking? Or do you only speak vicious words?"
"You can't hurt other people's feelings arbitrarily, let alone deliberately"
, Adopted a more tactful way of expression. The aunt
, who was far away, told the little girl to sit next to her. praised her schoolbag for being very cute.
A mother with a child invited her to leave by bus.
There is also a white-haired grandfather who motioned to the girl to sit over, and then played the harmonica to make her happy .
may be tough or gentle, but people of different genders and ages in this society basically agree with the fact that
language can cause harm .
Linguistic derogation will attack a person's dignity and make him feel inferior.
In the documentary "Neighborhood", the famous American children's show host Rogers once said:
" Those who try to make you feel inferior are the most evil "
movie "Jeans Summer" , Tell the friendship of four girls who grew up together.
They have different styles: sexy, punk, well-behaved, and plump.
Once, they magically discovered that the same pair of jeans, three girls canUnderwear, and very suitable.
They let the plump girl try it on. The
girl persuaded: "The pants you three wear can stuff my big ass?" The punk girl
​​said: ", let's help you stuff your thighs in ."
The other two girls immediately choked: " can't talk like this! ".
You see, she just got a little connotation about her thick legs and was immediately stopped by her partner. Even if
is joking, there is a bottom line.
In "Friends" , Rachel is a fashionista.
has a concavo-convex curve, exquisite and perfect facial features, but all the short T and long skirts she wears can become popular in the season.
Phoebe always wears non-mainstream bohemian skirts and trousers. All kinds of Ding Ling's accessories on
.
But in your impression, did Rachel ever diss Phoebe's dress even once?
No matter what the situation, appearance humiliation is a very low thing . The appearance of
is mostly determined by genes, but the mainstream aesthetic standards are artificially delineated and change rapidly.
We can have our own aesthetic preferences, but we cannot use this to diss others.
In "Little Sister's Flower Shop", Aya once confided:
" Big S is really a homework for me ".
was at the same table with Big S and cried several times for three years.
Of course, Big S also has a very heart-warming side.
Aya's father was hospitalized with myocardial infarction. She ran through the procedures in the hospital alone, without her mother and sister.
At this time, the big S appeared, which gave great comfort and encouragement.
Aya has repeatedly said that the size S has given herself a lot of substantial support.
The sisterhood of more than 20 years is not clear in a few words.
However, feeling deep is one thing, and being happy is another.
From their daily relationship, Aya's tired can still be seen.
Actually, Aya expressed his protest very early.
Several people stepped out of the campus to take part in work. At an event, Xiao S taunted Aya as usual. Aya was very quiet at the time and did not respond.
she clearly stated ", don't joke on me like this in front of everyone in the future. I am very uncomfortable and dislike very much."
"Everyone will change and grow. When she wants to change and grow, you still treat her in the same way. That means you don’t respect others enough and love her not enough. "
As a result, Xiao S apologizes, But the joke continues .
has no physical collision, and the small S has converged in language, but the big S still doesn't seem to care.
does not deny that Xiangyu appreciates the assertive and rebellious character of Da S, and her ubiquitous aggressiveness.
However, it would be fine to attack a powerful foreign enemy.
Leave gentleness, encouragement, and tolerance to those close to you.
I also have no doubt that their relationship for more than 20 years, must support each other through many difficult years.
However, we are longing for a better version of "friendship" of .
In addition to having fun together, we long for an equal, warm and confident relationship .
We can be true ourselves in a relationship, but this cannot be at the cost of hurting others. The mean side of
is true.
The gentle, generous and kind side can also be true.
true friends, can afford to joke.
is a true friend who knows how to joke appropriately.
