Life is alive, everyone has difficulties, and it’s not easy: the rich worry about the loss of wealth, the poor worry about making money; the people in the city admire the simplicity and ease of the countryside, and the countryside longs for the prosperity of the city; the students really want to go out of school and make a break. Middle-aged people want to go to school for further studies; powerful people are highly powerful, but often involuntary, and low-status people complain about bad mixing...
Loss; if you want others to understand you, you must first understand others; if you want someone to love you, you must first love others; if you want someone to love you, you must learn from others' "struggle"......
. Bernay said: "You will not be tolerant People are not worthy of being tolerated by others.” A person who does not take the initiative to understand others is prone to misunderstandings. At the same time, he will be upset in his heart, feeling that something is blocking his chest. Only by thinking from the perspective of others can you understand the words and deeds of others, and you will "suddenly open up", and then let go of your grievances.
You take care of other people's difficulties, by the way, others can't do their best to return you, at least you will give you a smile, a "thank you", you will also feel warm and have a clear conscience.
You are always aloof, forcing others to circle you, the result is counterproductive: others will avoid you. Behave in the world, learn to let nature take its course, and often get more things and more freedom.
Comparing one's heart to one's heart is a kind of goodwill, and it is the cultivation of a person. "A person is not a sage, no one can fault." If you always hold on to the mistakes of others, or "beat someone to death with a stick," you will appear to be "careful" and make mistakes yourself. In fact, a lot of unpleasantness is just a misunderstanding, and there is no deep hatred, and it is not as dirty as you think.
Comparing your heart to heart is to reposition yourself. You can know where you are in the hearts of others, and you can put others in a reasonable position. People who are good to you are placed in an important place, and people who are evil to you have no place in your heart.
Love must compare the heart to the heart and think in another way. Why some couples can love each other for a lifetime? It's not that they don't have conflicts, but that they understand each other, think from the perspective of each other, and resolve conflicts in time. Some husbands and wives "different and part ways", not because they have no feelings, but because the misunderstanding becomes more and more troublesome.
Friends should compare their hearts and think in other ways. Why don't some friends help? If they don't help once or twice, they become strangers. In fact, friends also have difficulties, or he is a "strict wife," unable to call the shots; or he is very poor and can't even sustain life. Some people helped others but didn't get anything in return, even without "thanks". In fact, it didn't matter. After giving their affection, they at least got a good mood.
Colleagues should compare their hearts and think in another way. Colleagues are in a collaborative relationship. If you use others, bully others, and always give your work to others, conflicts gradually arise. It's easy for everyone to do one thing together, but when someone starts to shudder or arrogant each other, it becomes difficult. Therefore, you must learn to compare your heart to your heart, understand more, help more, and form a synergy of work.
Family members should compare their hearts and think in another way. "We always smile in front of strangers, but grumble in front of our family", this is the case in many families. It is not that the family is not warm, but the lack of eyes to find warmth. Others complain that their parents have given too little and have not given themselves a good platform. It is not that their parents do not work hard, but that each generation has different difficulties. The parents have tried their best. In other words, it is the greatest grace that your parents give you life.
The enemy must compare his heart and think in another way. Hugo said, "The noblest revenge is tolerance. "When is the grievance reported? It is better to put it down, hello, hello, hello, everyone. Being alone, always holding grudges, is to encourage inner troubles. If this continues, the hatred is "passed on from generation to generation." Not suitable for knots."
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"Zhuangzi·Tianxia" wrote: "Always be tolerant of things, not cut to others, it can be described as the ultimate. "When you know how to "compare your heart and think in another position", you understand the difficulties of others, and tolerate others. This is the "highest state" of life.
People are not "perfect"; things are not "smooth sailing". If you always Staring at "hate, pain, trouble, anxiety" is to amplify the "pain" and make yourself miserable; if you always think about "happiness, cuteness, beauty, and warmth", it encourages "true feelings". Live happily and calmly. The pictures and texts come from the Internet and the copyright belongs to the author!
