"I've had enough of getting married, we're both so old and we don't need that."
Da S said that from childhood to adulthood, her life was full of fear every day, whether it was her original family or her previous marriage, but now she feels that it has passed, and now she is very happy.
Compared with Wang Xiaofei slandered Da S repeatedly and mercilessly, saying that she is mentally abnormal, taking illegal drugs, not supporting her in starting a business, etc. It seems that all misfortunes should be attributed to to big S body.
and Big S never said anything bad about Wang Xiaofei from beginning to end. Everyone thinks that Big S is very decent and free and easy.
But in fact, it can be seen from her expression that she is injured, but she chooses to reconcile with the past and go to a new life.
Big S's attitude reminds me of the famous Festinger's law in psychology, he says that 10% of your life is made up of what happens to you, and the other 90% is made up of what you think happens to you How things react. Festinger told a story like this, when Kastin took a shower in the morning, he put his watch on the side of the sink. His wife was worried that the watch would get wet, so she put it on the dining table . When my son got up to get bread at the table, he accidentally dropped his watch. Kastin got angry, beat his son fat, and then complained about why his wife was tampering with his watch. The wife was very aggrieved, saying that she was just worried about who would have broken her hand. Kastin thought his wife was stupid and said his watch was waterproof. In a fit of rage, Kastin slammed the door and walked away. When he was about to arrive at the office, he remembered that the briefcase was still at home, so he hurried back home. Because the key was left in the briefcase and could not open the door, he had to call his wife to come back and open the door for him. The wife hurried home and knocked over a fruit stand on the side of the road, and the stall owner asked her to compensate. In order not to delay her husband's work, she reluctantly lost a sum of money to get rid of it. After opening the door to get the briefcase, Kastin was 15 minutes late for work and was scolded by his boss. His wife was deducted from the monthly attendance bonus for leaving early, and his son was beaten by his father in the morning. He was in a bad mood and made a mistake. He was eliminated in the first inning of the baseball game. In this story, broken watches are 10% of that. But the next set of bad things is that 90%. If Kastin had a different attitude after the 10%, comforting his son and wife that the watch broke and it was okay, I would just take it and fix it. In this way, both the son and the wife are happy, and he himself is in a good mood, then the bad 90% will not happen.
The greatest sadness in life is to spend 90% of the time being less than 10% unworthy of anger. I think Big S understands this very well, so no matter how Wang Xiaofei slanders her, she doesn't bother to pay attention. As Mr. Yang Jiang said, the most noble punishment is silence, and the most reserved one is ignorance. May we be like the big S, 10% has already happened, then turn the page and leave more time for important 90%. Give it a like if you agree.
