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How to be obedient? Not only to listen to the surface, but also to listen to what she is saying behind the scenes? Is there any purpose? There are two things behind the
language: one is what is the objective fact, and the other is what is the logical relationship.
Therefore, the key to being obedient is two points:
1. Does what she said on the surface match the objective facts? The parts that don't match reveal her purpose;
2, what is the objective logic behind listening to the other party's speech? If it is a real logic, it depends on where the other party wants to guide your thinking; if it is a fake logic, there is often an ulterior motive behind it.
In the 28th episode of Zhen Huan's Biography, the queen guides Concubine Qi to harm the pregnant Zhen Huan:
Queen 1: "You have such a distinguished position, and you have given birth to three elder brothers, why bother with , concubine, and ? Concubine Qi: "Why did the concubine ever want to compete with the concubine Guan, but the concubine is the biological mother of the third brother after all, how can you not help the third brother?"
Queen 2: "You are the birth mother The next three elder brother, Ben Gong also watched him grow up, Ben Gong loves him no less than you."
Concubine Qi: "The concubine knows that she is old, the emperor no longer loves the concubine, it is just the concubine. It doesn't matter if you fall out of favor, but the third brother is the emperor's eldest son after all."
Queen 3: "You are the old man who served the emperor, how can the emperor not love you? After all, the third brother is the only adult prince of the emperor, Guan Concubine's children can't catch up no matter how much they chase. But then again, Guan Concubine is currently favored, and like you, she came from the five banners of the Han army. Her child is born, Bao Bu Qi can really be on an equal footing with your third elder brother. Didn't Master Shunzhi insist on making the newly born fourth elder brother the crown prince? But don't worry, when the emperor really wants to establish a child, this palace will definitely discourage it."
Concubine Qi: "The fourth elder brother of Master Shunzhi is not here. Did you die in infancy?"
Queen 4: "Yeah, it's really pitiful, if you know that you will die when you are born, it is better not to be born." It means that my heart for the third brother is the same as yours. The third sentence of the queen
is the key point. Now let's analyze how Concubine Qi listens to these words so as not to fall into the queen's conspiracy.
's remarks on the surface meant that Guan Concubine's child threatened Third Brother, and Concubine Qi's best solution was to kill Zhen Huan's child. Concubine Qi understood and did it. Queen
's remarks are impeccable, but some of them do not match the objective facts. She said that the concubine Guan gave birth to a prince, whose status was on the same level as the third brother, and might succeed him. At that time, Guan Concubine was pregnant, and she didn't know whether it was a boy or a girl. This is just the Queen's own hypothetical view.
All personal opinions and assumptions cannot be the basis for your judgment, decision, and choice. Objective facts are the only valid criteria for judgment. And the part that doesn't match the objective facts reveals her purpose.
Queen fabricated this hypothetical logic in order to guide Concubine Qi to kill Guan Concubine's child, and this logic is also false. The occurrence of one thing is inevitable, which is the real logic . Even if Guan Concubine gave birth to a prince, it would not necessarily be established as a prince. The queen's statement about Guan Concubine's child is not valid.
Therefore, whether it is judged from objective facts or logical thinking, since it is all false, it means that it is not the right thing for Concubine Qi to kill Guanconcubine's children.
What's the purpose behind that queen's words? As long as Concubine Qi did as the queen said, no matter whether she could kill Guan Concubine's child or not, one thing was certain, Concubine Qi was firmly grasped by the queen. This definite result is the real purpose of the queen.
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corresponds to real life, many people have encountered direct sales or pyramid schemes orRelatives and friends such as capital disks, he will tell you: how good his company is, how good the project is, how long he has been doing, how much money he has made, and how long you will work with him, you will earn the same amount as him. money and so on.
usually encounter this kind of situation, you feel that the other party is talking with nose and eyes, you are a little moved, but don't worry. The first thing you need to do is to check whether what the other party is saying is true, so that you can make a correct decision.
First, what he said is true and in line with objective facts. Also, is the logic behind his words true or false? His logic is: if you follow what I do, you will definitely get results. As long as it is 80% credible, you can do it. Below 80%, then you have to think about it and have the expectation of failure.
Second, the situation he said does not conform to objective facts. There are false things in the company's projects, and the logic does not conform to the facts. For example, investing 10,000 yuan, earning 20,000 yuan in three months, and earning 120,000 yuan in one year, etc., obviously the logic does not match conventional. Then you can reject him directly, his purpose is to cheat you of money.
Another example:
The child is out of school, you ask if he has written his homework, he answered that he has already written it, but in fact he did not write it, what he said does not match the objective facts, the part that does not match reveals his purpose, he I just don't want you to push him to do his homework.
Colleagues gossip at work in the morning and saw the scene of a car accident where a male driver collided with a female driver. He said that it must be the fault of the female driver. In fact, he only saw the scene and did not know the details of the collision process. What he said had no objective facts, and his words revealed his prejudice against female drivers.
Therefore, people who are truly obedient will not listen to one side's words, nor will they be led away by the surface of language, so they will not be easily deceived, and they can often gain insight into other people's hearts.
Zhen Huan is like this, not only can speak, but also obedient. When she had a miscarriage, Concubine Hua pleaded guilty: Zhen Huan, who had passed the first trimester, was only sentenced to kneel for half an hour, and she had no intention of harming Zhen's child. Although Zhen Huan hated Hua deeply, but based on the objective facts, Zhen judged that Hua was not the only reason for her miscarriage, which made her discover Huan Yixiang's secret.
Compared with Zhen Huan, Hua will not be obedient. In the famous scene of Concubine Hua and Concubine Duan , in the dialogue between the two, the clear objective fact is: on the surface, Concubine Duan beat Concubine Hua's child, but the emperor ascended the throne and respect Concubine Duan as a concubine, and was on an equal footing with Concubine Hua. The emperor cares about the emperor so much, can he be so confused? If Concubine Hua would be obedient, she should have known the truth early.
Therefore, those who are truly obedient are very wise. As long as we know the mystery behind the language, you and I can know each other's heart through their words.
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