's full-time wife, Ren Duomei, was given birth by her mother-in-law over and over again. She and her husband Zhang Weichen hadn't decided to change from the two-person world to a multi-family family. A long time ago, my mother-in-law told Ren Duomei that one child would give 500,000, and two would give one million.
At first, Ren Duomei was not interested in this, and even felt that her mother-in-law was insulting her with money. Later, she suddenly figured it out and decided to talk to her mother-in-law about this matter. In Ren Duomei's plan, she wants to sign a contract with her mother-in-law:
"After I am pregnant, we can write my name on the house of Dajiaoting , and transfer the property after the child is born, really After giving birth to twins , you will give me another million, Yuesao hospital expenses and so on, you don’t have to worry about it, but you have to sign a contract before that.”
Although my mother-in-law is not very happy, but in order to hug her as soon as possible The grandson also agreed. Her husband Zhang Weichen found out about Ren Duomei's proposed contract. Zhang Weichen was furious. He first made a scene with his mother. It was the first time he had a big fight with his mother. Things, even if they live their whole lives, they don't need her to care. After
and my mother explained their position and attitude, I came to do my wife's ideological work again. "I'll deal with you when my mother tells you about such a thing. Wife, you must know that I will always stand by you when you encounter key problems. Side. If we don't have children now, you will be much more relaxed. After giving birth, your skin will deteriorate. You love beauty so much, why did you suffer such a crime so early?" She didn't know why her husband resisted like this? She thought it was strange, but in the end she was bewitched by her husband's "true feelings" sweet words, and mistakenly thought it was a manifestation of her husband's distress for her.
Why is Zhang Weichen so resistant to having children? The truth of the matter is that Zhang Weichen knew for a long time that his body was unable to have children, and he did not reveal half of it to his wife and mother. No matter who mentioned it, it was all about him, and he even took the responsibility of not having children by not saying anything. Pass it on to the wife.
Knowing that he is infertile, shirk the responsibility and blame his wife? Zhang Weichen's growth is too suffocating.
One or three times, he didn't want children, and deliberately concealed the real situation of his body.
Zhang Weichen talked about his discoloration. As long as he mentioned having a child, he would directly shake his face, as if it was a taboo in his life. After her mother-in-law gave birth to Ren Duomei, after careful consideration, she decided not to take protective measures, but Zhang Weichen not only taught his wife a lesson, but also told his wife how miserable it would be to have a child now.
The family was having dinner together, and the mother-in-law mentioned the birth of a child again. The young couple did not plan to tell the truth in the face of the birth. The mother-in-law couldn't bear it anymore, so she asked, who is the meaning of not having children?
Zhang Weichen sat on the side without saying a word. He just explained to his wife the reason why he didn't want children at present, but he became dumb in front of his parents. In the end, Ren Duomei took the initiative Huge black pot.
Ren Duomei told the second old man that he didn't want to have children yet, and wanted to wait.
Ren Duomei didn't really believe Zhang Weichen's argument about not having children temporarily, but she really couldn't figure out what the real reason was. Seeing Ren Duomei looking at other children enviously, her best friend couldn't help persuading her, since she likes children so much, why not have one? She even reminded Ren Duomei seriously that she might ask her husband Zhang Weichen to go to the hospital for a checkup.
Ren Duomei didn't think about this. She and Zhang Weichen have always taken protective measures. Even if they fail to protect themselves a few times, they will take medicine urgently, and Zhang Weichen is still staring at her and eating them. Zhang Weichen was so nervous and worried about accidents, his body should be fine.
However, the remarks of my girlfriend also reminded Ren Duomei, just in case. Ren DuoMei went to the hospital to check her body, which was not unexpected. Her body was very healthy, and she was even prone to pregnancy.
Later, Zhang Weichen never agreed to have children, and Ren Duomei tried to make it happen. Several times she took the pills in front of Zhang Weichen and vomited them up after he went to work, but she still didn't see any movement in her stomach. Is it really Zhang Weichen's problem?
Ren Duomei reminded Zhang Weichen on the side that maybe he could go to the hospital for a check-up. Zhang Weichen considered himself a doctor and it was shameful to go to the hospital for a check-up, so he refused. Ren Duomei had a plan. When Zhang Weichen came home from get off work one day, she took out the fake pregnancy test stick and told him that she was pregnant. Unexpectedly, Zhang Weichen's anger came from it, and he accidentally told the truth that he could not have children.
Second, the mother's strength and control, buried hidden dangers
Zhang Weichen has a wealthy family, good academic performance, decent work, and low wages. He is a child of someone else's family in the true sense. It stands to reason that in the face of physical problems, we should face them positively and treat them actively, instead of cheating the whole family by pulling his wife to block the gun.
why is he like this? In my opinion, this has an inseparable relationship with his mother. Zhang Weichen's mother's extreme desire for control can be seen from her relationship with Ren Duomei.
From the appearance, Zhang Weichen's mother gives the impression of a soft-spoken, elegant and gentle woman, dignified, steady, atmospheric, and talkative, but when she treats Ren Duomei, she shows a suffocating desire for control , Her strength is not in action, but in language.
Ren Duomei bought a vacuum cleaner. She said that Ren Duomei didn't know how to be diligent and thrifty; Ren Duomei accompanies her to go shopping, she said that Ren Duomei is so leisurely as a housewife, and her attitude is not good and impatient; Ren Duomei likes to eat roadside At the stall, she said that eating spicy food is easy for Gong Han to not have children.
She not only controls Ren Duomei everywhere, but also suppresses Ren Duomei verbally. Knowing that Ren Duomei was a girl born in the countryside, she held it in her hands, and from time to time she took it out and mocked it, often saying "your family is relatively thin", or "do you have a toilet on your home improvement ", showing a mean and narrow-mindedness Incisively and vividly.
Ren Duomei once talked to her best friend about the mother-in-law in her eyes:
"My mother-in-law has lived in this city for more than ten years and has several houses, but she is still feudal and selfish, you say She finally offered her son to Medical University , just so that she can show off when she goes home every year. Now, she just wants to have a grandson, and then continue to show off."
is actually quite accurate, feudal, Selfishness and love to show off, in fact, to put it bluntly, this is the real reason for her strength. They control everything about the child, the path they choose from childhood to adulthood, from study to life to work, they cover everything, and hope that every step will be carried out according to their own plan.
She made her child her pride and used it as a medal, but neglected that strong parents often bring up children with a strong sense of inferiority.
Zhang Weichen is confident, calm, and tolerant in front of Ren Duomei, but in fact, his inferiority cannot be seen at all. This is what he hides deeply.
Zhang Weichen grew up under the control of his mother and never said a word to his mother. It was not until his mother interfered with him about giving birth that he seemed to be suddenly bombarded, and almost hysterically shouted:
"You are My mother, you can do anything in normal times, but this one is not good. Yes, I don't care if I have a child or not."
Of course Zhang Weichen knew the real reason why he and Ren Duomei had not had children for so many years, she concealed it Wife, deceived his mother, and gave many high-sounding reasons to fool him. He never expected that the two women who had been fighting against each other would decide to sign a contract to dominate his power to have children.
being disrespected is part of Zhang Weichen's anger, but more is the panic and anger that his inner secret may be revealed. He was anxious, since he was a child, in the eyes of his mother and outsiders, he was a perfect child without flaws, and he would not allow a little "stain" to destroy these.
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Zhang Weichen's tragedy was caused by repressed and suffocated maternal love. Of course, we believe that parents all over the world love their children, and they can’t wait to devote all they have to nurturing their children.
As everyone knows, the excessive love of parents is actually a burden on the children. They have lived under strong control since childhood. They dare not make the slightest mistake. They are afraid that they will be sorry for their parents and that they are not good enough, and they will feel self-blame, guilt, and anxiety in their hearts.
is strong, it is a person's edge and strength, which means that we have a tougher attitude in the face of life's difficulties. But ah, strength is one's own protective color, but it cannot be imposed on family members. It's true that
is strong, but if it crosses the line, it is control and interference.
