After the broadcast of "In the Name of Family", Ling Xiao came back from abroad, and there was constant scolding. The original relationship between brother and sister turned into a wife chasing action. Many people could not accept Ling Xiao's poor performance. Li Jianjian was with him It is better to marry He Ziqiu.
However, Ling Xiao is different from He Ziqiu after all. Although He Ziqiu was abandoned by his mother and had to succumb to him as an adult after being threatened by his biological father, the relationship between He Ziqiu and his biological parents was relatively simple, while Ling Xiao was too complicated.
Ling Xiao has complete parents, but his father, Ling Heping, is busy with work all day long, and for the family, he is the shopkeeper. The mother of
, Chen Ting, brought two babies by herself and suffered the pain of "wandering husband-style parenting". In order to reduce the psychological burden, she threw her daughter to her son to take care of. She locked the door and went out to play cards. As a result, her daughter choked and died.
Chen Ting, who lost her daughter, couldn't control her emotions and put all the responsibility on Ling Heping and young Ling Xiao, but it was not enough. In the end, she abandoned Ling Xiao and went away.
is the age under the knees of her parents, but she has to endure the breakdown of the family. Although his father Ling Heping was present, he was impatient with his children, and more often left him at Li Haichao's house.
So compared to He Ziqiu, Ling Xiao looks like his parents are complete, but in fact he has to endure a heavier torment in his heart. Coupled with the death of his younger sister, this is a shadow that his life can never erase.
Ling Xiao is actually the poorest child in the whole play, but he has to hide all his thoughts, because no one can replace those pains, and no one can really understand. His character is destined to have too much happiness. Words.
Fortunately, he is surrounded by Li Haichao, Li Jianjian and He Ziqiu. During the more than ten years of growing up together, Li Haichao regarded him as his son. Li Jianjian and He Ziqiu became a family with no blood relationship.
This is also when Ling Xiao was angry and shouted at Chen Ting, "Because they kissed me". This "ki" contained too much grievance and bitterness for Ling Xiao.
Why does Ling Xiao like Li Jianjian, because she is a life-saving straw that appeared in his life. While being abandoned by his mother, Li Jianjian took him home and treated him without principle.
can understand that Ling Xiao will fall in love with Li Jianjian. In his growing years, Li Jianjian has become a kind of faith for him. Eliminating Li Jianjian, he never wanted to approach other girls. Nine years after
left, he was relying on Li Jianjian's information from the moon to support his life. After all, facing a mother who would be crazy from time to time, even normal people would be tortured into depression.
Especially when the photo of Ling Xiao with Li Jianjian and He Ziqiu was cut into pieces by Chen Ting, Chen Ting had become a demon in Ling Xiao's heart. But even so, he chose patience and compromise.
why? Because that is his mother.
As Xiaocheng said, she is our mother, what can we do? A 17-year-old girl still understands the truth, so Ling Xiao, 27, naturally understands it better.
because you can't change your parents.
Why we always clash with our parents when we are young, but in the end we grow long and choose tolerance.
That is because we are all mature and understand that the hardest thing in this world is to change an adult. If you can't change him, then learn to adapt.
Ling Xiao grew up in a complicated environment, so he matured earlier than Li Jianjian and He Ziqiu, and realized the hardships of his parents’ marriage and the complexity of human nature.
If he were He Ziqiu, he would probably not be able to go to Singapore, let alone stay for 9 years. Because there is a shadow of losing his sister in front of Ling Xiao, and he regards going to Singapore as his own salvation.
It's just that he is too young to understand Chen Ting's selfish nature, so the wounds of the original family that were healed have added new scars, and this time is far more serious than when he was young.
Ling Xiao is not incapable of resisting Chen Ting, but while he is cured by Li Jianjian's family, he has a kind heart and correct three views. Therefore, as an adult, he knows how to restrain his emotions in front of his mother.
And this excessive restraint caused his depression and led to his severe sleep disturbance. Didn't Chen Ting find out? Of course not, but Chen Ting is a selfish woman. In the first marriage of
, she may indeed have been ignored, because Ling Heping was not responsible enough in the marriage, blindly evading problems, and eventually the conflict broke out in full and had to end up with a divorce.
Chen Ting went to Singapore to marry a second husband who was in good condition and had a new child. However, she forgot that there was a son Ling Xiao who was left unattended in her hometown. People like
think of others only when they use them, so her husband died in a car accident and her daughter was young and helpless. At this time, Chen Ting remembered her adult son.
"Toxic" parents are the permanent pain of their children.
Chen Ting is undoubtedly poisonous. Every time she appears, people around her will feel uncomfortable. So even though Anna Mae abandoned He Ziqiu, she had her difficulties and was acceptable to everyone.
But even if Chen Ting is lying in a hospital bed and unable to move, it is difficult to win the sympathy of the audience, because she is too "work" and has serious problems. And there is something empty and broken in her heart, which must be filled by her children.
If the child is willing to give unconditionally and fill the hole with a steady stream of love, then she is content, and if the child disobeys her wishes, then she will start looking for life to toss the child.
Ling Xiao was so firmly controlled by Chen Ting in her palm. Ling Xiao encountered conscientious torture when she went to Singapore. Although Chen Ting left herself for many years, she had raised herself for several years after all. The mother was in trouble, and the son could not care about it.
Similarly, when Ling Xiao wanted to leave Singapore, she was also struggling in her heart. His sister was not an adult, and her mother was always a demon. So Ling Xiao couldn't do whatever he wanted.
Chen Ting never played cards according to common sense, so Ling Xiao was very nervous in front of her, and over time she formed a conditioned reflex. Once she rebelled, she would get worse, and obedience would give her time to breathe temporarily.
Chen Ting, who has no sense of responsibility, has already lost her heart. It seems that she has healed from the psychological trauma of setting up a new family in the past few years, but that is just a superficial phenomenon.
Once she loses her trust, no matter what she committed to her son in the past, she will bind Ling Xiao with morals and ethics, and cling to this life-saving straw.
She never feels that she is a miss, she always makes excuses for herself: I have difficulties.
Chen Ting repeatedly uncovered the scars deep in Ling Xiao's heart, and Ling Xiao also had to take on the responsibility of taking care of her mother. So even though Chen Ting recovered and settled in China, Ling Xiao still couldn't resist.
But he would use silent actions to express his anger, such as kissing Li Jianjian in front of Chen Ting, or asking Li Jianjian to sleep with him in front of Xiao Orange...
Many people say Ling Xiao was too cowardly and didn't know how to fight for his own interests.
slapped angrily on the table when Chen Ting invited Feng Xixi to the house to match her with Ling Xiao; it was irresponsible to drink alcohol to escape reality if he was forced to do so.
can think from another perspective, if Ling Xiao and Chen Ting break up, will the morality kidnap him again in order to be with a woman regardless of his mother's pain? From every angle, the spectators are reasonable.
However, we cannot choose our own parents, and it is difficult to change our parents. There are many times when there is nothing we can do about what our parents do, and there is no better way except for compromise.
If the script has a perfect ending in accordance with popular thinking, wouldn't it violate the truth of life?
It is true that Ling Xiao is not perfect in many ways, but there are a few people in the world who are perfect. Even if you marry a man like He Ziqiu, will you be happy? It's really not necessarily. Because everyone has different requirements for feelings.
The problems of the original family, and the expectation of parents to take the initiative to change themselves and restrain their words and deeds are just a luxury. It is actually very good for parents to stay the same.
And the older the person is, the worse the self-restraint.
This is what many people think that people should look away when they are old, but there are still some elderly people who are arguing about a seat on the bus, deliberately for a few cents when buying vegetables.Take other people’s food more...
people’s nature is to obey their own heart. People who cannot restrain their morals and conscience when they are young. It will be more difficult to change with age. People often say The "old kids" in China mean that old people, like children, do things on their own instinct.
Therefore, it is basically impossible for Ling Xiao to change Chen Ting. Although the suicide of Ling Xiao and Chen Ting’s sudden awakening in the TV series are regarded as an explanation for the audience, it is really difficult in real life. in this way.
Because of the hidden illnesses brought by the original family, in addition to making yourself stronger and trying to reconcile with the original family, other methods are really too difficult. Although Ling Xiao's persona was scolded by many people, it was actually very realistic.
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