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Qi Tong and his chair, in fact, Li Li. May I read thousands of books and travel thousands of miles with you.
Statement: This article has a total of 1,946 words and was originally published by @桐黎书话. It may not be reproduced without permission. The first Zhang Ailing novel that
read was "Agarwood Crumbs·The First Incense", so the protagonist Ge Weilong was particularly impressed. Reading it a few times again, while sighs Weilong's destiny, she also gets the following 3 inspirations from her experience.
01 Don't give yourself a chance to fall into the mud.
Weilong is a beautiful girl, smart, innocent, and a little vanity.
In order to stay in Hong Kong to study and finish school, Weilong walked into the house of his aunt Mrs. Liang for the first time, and wanted to get the support of the social flower aunt.
At first, she had a bad impression of Mrs. Chen's house, thinking that it was full of " the lewd air of the late Qing Dynasty" .
She knows that Mrs. Liang’s social circle is mixed, but she still believes in her self-control wishful thinking: " as long as I behave and stand upright, I am not afraid that she will not treat each other politely. Outsiders gossiping, do what they say, I Read my book. In the future, when you meet someone who really likes me, you will naturally understand and will never believe those boring rumors. ”
Just like that, Weilong took the initiative to step into the social vanity fair of Mrs. Liang's house.
But she overestimated her resistance to temptation and underestimated her vanity. After
moved to the room that Mrs. Liang had prepared for her, she found that there were many beautiful clothes in the closet. She was as smart as Weilong. She obviously understood what Mrs. Liang meant, but she could not help but " locked the door and secretly I tried to wear one by one, and I knew it was wrong to put it back, but I couldn't help but comfort myself, " is also good for ".
Weilong’s family is already in decline, this cabinet full of beautiful clothes is nothing less than a Fandora’s box for her, full of temptation, and let her feel the happiness of a drunken fan for the first time.
This indicates that Weilong begins to compromise.
is surrounded by sensual dogs and horses, and is living under the eaves of others. Weilong half pushes and half-situated to help her aunt socialize during the day and study hard at night.
Later, when Sui'er persuaded her to find a boyfriend, she no longer refused as straightforwardly as before, but simply considered: "Who among the friends of aunt ? It's not a slick dance. The male-like young man is the elder of the six men in Sannomiya. Otherwise, it is the British soldier. Officers above lieutenant and above are still unwilling to deal with the yellow race! ”
The happiness of money has made Weilong addicted, she If I can't give up, I want to marry a rich man to maintain such a life.
This is obviously contrary to the female student Wei Long who moved into Mrs. Chen's house to study at the beginning. When
took a wrong step, he couldn't stop. The abyss of material desire drove Wei Long to sink step by step, until he completely became Mrs. Chen's puppet in the social arena.
is Weilong silly? No, Weilong is not stupid. On the contrary, she is very smart, but she is not deeply involved in the world and her vision is too narrow. This cleverness has become her own cleverness- too overestimates her resistance to temptation and underestimates the greed of human nature.
are like those young people who pay for flowers and credit cards. The first time they tell themselves: I will do it once. But the joy of shopping comes too easily, vanity is addictive, once there is a second time, until the final bankruptcy.
Those who are near Zhu are red, and those who are near Mo are black. The ancients did not deceive me.
This enlightenment for us is: don't overestimate your resistance to temptation.
What we have to do is not to let ourselves out of the silt without getting stained, but to avoid the risk of falling into the silt from the beginning.
02 Don't try to sacrifice yourself to touch a man
Weilong is heart-stricken when he meets Qiao Qiqiao for the first time.
" she felt that her arms were like hot milk, poured out of the cyan jug, she couldn't control her, she poured out all of her ."
Afterwards, Qiao Qiqiao pushed forward step by step, causing Weilong to start struggling.
sheI gave up my previous idea of looking for a rich and reliable man to marry, and forgot Qiao Qiqiao’s half-sister said Qiao Qiqiao’s words: " is outstanding and unsuccessful ", regardless of Sui'er's warning ", he doesn’t have any abilities except for playing, and he will suffer in the future. "
At the same time, because she is a little innocent and confident: she is confident that she is young and beautiful and loves Joe Qiqiao, so she can let him The prodigal son turned around.
So when she saw Qiao Qiqiao and Suier hugging each other, she knew that he was bothered and emotional, but she chose to numb herself and ignore it.
So when Qiao Qiqiao told her that there was no way to give her marriage, but only a short period of happiness, she still mothed into the fire, thinking that she had a chance to win.
God knows, the hardest thing to change is the heart of a man who doesn't love you.
How many girls, like Weilong, think they can change men with their love and sacrifice. But in the end, the so-called sacrifice and dedication only moved oneself.
Don't use all of yourself to please a man who doesn't love you, and don't make sacrifices wishful thinking. If you are too self-confident, you will become stupid.
03 Don't give reasons for your depravity.
The young and beautiful Weilong married Qiao Qiqiao as he wished, and it became a tool for Mrs. Liang and Qiao Qiqiao to socialize and make money.
So, betraying her hue and choosing to watch her fall soberly, is Weilong really just because she loves Qiao Qiqiao?
Weilong said to Qiao Qiqiao: ", I love you, what's up with you, there are so many weird things, I can't blame you for ". There may be part of the reason for
.
However, because he loves Qiao Qiqiao, he is willing to betray him to support him. This is more the anesthetic that Weilong gave himself.
So, what else caused Weilong to fall continuously?
is that she really wants to get a ticket to the upper class. It is because she is used to the luxurious life of drunk and gold fans and has become addicted. She needs money to maintain such a "decent" life.
Yi Shu once said: No matter what , a person's depravity is always unforgivable. The more no one loves, the more you must love yourself.
It's easy to cheat yourself, easy to find excuses, but you still pay the bill in the end.
is like Weilong, no matter what the reason is pushed, she still can't go back, she has to pay for herself. The enlightenment that
gives us is:
fall is fall, do not give reasons for your fall. When faced with choices, think more about long-term benefits, grit your teeth, and don't let the most jealous fall. The above is the entire content of today's article. For more ideas, please share with me in the comment area.
