In 2009, Master Shengyan passed away in Fagu Mountain. His lay disciple Lin Qingxia wrote an article in memory of Master Shengyan, writing:
has a few mantras, because of the most unbearable pain in my life. And a smooth transition. The world is impermanent and unsatisfactory. I often give these words to my friends, and they also appreciate me for overcoming the difficulties in their hearts. These few mantras are: face it, accept it, deal with it, let it go.
When you encounter something, you should not avoid it. The best way is to face it. Then you have to accept the fact that has been made and deal with it properly. After dealing with it, don’t let it occupy your heart, you have to let it go . Master's wish is to improve the quality of people and build a pure land on earth.
"Facing it, accepting it, dealing with it, letting go of it" is the most difficult thing is to truly "accept it". The most common problem in interpersonal relationships in this world is that people are accustomed to transcending the boundaries of what they do in the name of "good for you", and the stress response they bring is "not accepting." In order to protect ourselves from similar injuries, in our long-term life, we use our own opinions and prejudices to form a thick shell. In most cases, you can avoid it, but you can't avoid it, just face it, deal with it, and after processing it, you still struggle. From beginning to end, the most difficult level is to "accept it".
There is a Buddhist "undifferentiated wisdom" story like this: "There is a grain of salt, it wants to know how salty the sea is: "I am a grain of salt, I am very salty. I wonder if the water in the sea is as salty as mine? "An expert answered the grain of salt: "Dear salt, the only way you want to know the saltiness of sea water is to jump into the sea. "The grain of salt jumped into the sea and merged with the sea, so he was fully aware of the saltiness of the sea. We can't fully understand a person or thing until we become a part of him (it)."
In communication training, we often talk about "empathy", which means empathy-in layman's terms, it means putting yourself in the position of the other party, thinking and making decisions. It's like a temporary role-playing. We can empathize, experience and face each other with empathy, but ask ourselves-can you fully accept each other's values and attitudes? I'm afraid not, because we know that empathy is short-lived and the shell of the heart does not need to be opened. So there is a saying that empathy does not solve problems. What it can do is only empathy. If you are compassionate enough and know how to communicate and comfort, the greatest effect of empathy may end here.
Liao Yimei said about love: In my whole life, it is not uncommon to encounter love and sex, but it is uncommon to encounter and understand. The next energy level that
understands is acceptance. We entangle and hesitate in accepting ourselves and others every day, and grow our own "pericardium sutra". The training of Vipassana in Buddhism is to feel and observe the flow of one's thoughts, to accept letting go without controlling it. One thing happened, and various circumstances around us changed, so that our all-around self-paced plan was completely impossible to realize. The usual response is to avoid it and delay it. Anyway, you can always find something "more meaningful" to do, to get back the feeling of yourself that "everything is under control"-it's not good, the black hole of mobile phones, jump in, Post a few cute pictures in the circle of friends, comment on it playfully, inspire the text in the group, and slowly the feeling comes back.
Maybe we are one step closer, we face it. This matter is not as you wished. You are in complete control. Other stakeholders have other ideas and priorities. You must cooperate with that, not do it. You say okay, quickly deal with it, quickly determine the interface and boundaries of the matter, draw the boundaries, and will not delve into why they want to do this, you just "face it, deal with it, (hurry) let it go". When we face complex problems, we cannot get the origin of the optimal solution, we cannot let go of our own prejudices, and accept the position and observations of the other side. More cases of
also include "accepting yourself". I often delay reimbursement, because subconsciously, reimbursement is always not more interesting and worthwhile than other challenges and technical things, so I came back from a business trip. "Let it go first", the result of the delay is that every time I face the pile of more and more troubles, the subconscious red alarm screams, all of which are "no-acceptance" to the image of my "wise martial arts". -Suffer", hurry up to find something more important to do-of course, you can always find it-this is psychologicallyCalled "Structured Procrastination"-by looking for "more meaningful" things, avoiding all kinds of threats to the "Almighty Self". You see, it's like a trivial matter like returning from a business trip and filling out the reimbursement form in time. It is difficult to leave the "accepting it" link, let alone the psychological trauma that you don't want to face?
In "Infernal Affairs 2," Huang Sir instructed Han Chen's woman Mary to find someone to kill Ni Kun. The video was played by Ni Yongxiao at the police station. Police discipline made him unable to accept himself, even if the superintendent decided to stand on his side on behalf of the police. , Also could not boost his confidence: "Murder and set fire to the golden belt, repair bridges and repair roads without corpses", this is his own fateful judgment, so until Ni Yongxiao used the car bomb to kill him, playing Hu Jun His boss, Captain Lu, was killed before he "accepted it." When Ni Yongxiao threatened Zeng Zhiwei with a gun, he violated the police force's rules-a headshot. At this moment, he accepted his "gangster practice." In "Heroes 2", Shi Tian played Long Si, unable to face the fact that he was set up by his criminals, fled to New York and lost his beloved daughter. He was mentally disordered and completely unable to act. Until the dangerous stimulation of Xiao Ma's rescue in the shootout, he returned to normal, then he could let go of "handling it."
Master Shengyan’s twelve-character mantra, face it, accept it, deal with it, and let it go. The most difficult thing about
is to practice the method of "accepting it", because that means letting go of ego attachment, greed, hatred, delusion, and suspicion.
- The first draft was on the night of 11/22, flight CA1309, and the final draft was on the morning of 11/24, waiting for flight CA1310
