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I don’t know, am I doing it right or wrong? For the sake of a promise, I kidnapped myself above the moral standard of marriage.
Sometimes, some things are not what we really want to do in our hearts, but the reality is that we have to do it again. We are constrained by ourselves and live very tired.
I got married 5 years ago. There was no premarital examination even when married. As a result, after half a year of marriage, it was found that her husband was ill, chronic nephritis. Although this disease is not too serious, it is also very troublesome and will not be easily cured. After
was ill, he asked me if he would abandon him. I feel that since he is married, a certificate is a responsibility. Although there is no love and deep feelings, I cannot leave when he is sick. I am proud to say, how is it possible, you rest assured that I will not abandon you. As if a promise, my husband was very moved and treated me very well. We are very active in seeing a doctor.
I met him through introduction and we got married for one year. We are both older young people, and we feel a little bit of pity for the same disease in our hearts. In fact, the relationship between me and him is not very good, and there is no feeling of love. It can only be said that before marriage, I feel that when the age is reached, the conditions are suitable and I can make do with it.
Actually, we both had bad tempers and often quarreled before we found out that he was sick. The louder the noise, the worse his temper, which often drives me out of breath.
However, there is one point that he is better, which is why I promised him. When he is not quarreling, he treats me very well. He has nice words and caring care. Sometimes, I will pretend to be pitiful, like a child, which makes people feel distressed.
I also thought about breaking up, but always when I was most angry, I chose to forbearance. This forbearance is 5 years. Originally, when he first found out he was ill, he was arguing. I also thought about divorce, but because of his body, I was afraid of being scolded, so I comforted myself and said in my heart that only when we have troubles can we have feelings. Maybe After experiencing this, he will love me more.
So, just hold on like this.
has been treated for half a year, but no improvement. My husband's temper is getting worse and worse, and the grievances I endure are more and more. It may be that the patient is in a bad mood, has a bad temper, and is very angry. I also try not to care about him. There is one more thing about
, I have to say that our lives are also affected by our mother-in-law. I was blocked by my mother-in-law all day. Many things were not free. Even the life between husband and wife had to restrict us, saying that it was for his health. We also understand this. If she doesn't say it, we will also restrain it. However, she always makes me uncomfortable when she takes care of this matter. With my grievances and emotions, the conflicts between my mother-in-law and I are also increasing.
Sometimes, when I can’t hold it, I see my mother-in-law and want to let go. But when I thought of that promise, I couldn't bear it.
Some time ago, my former boyfriend and I accidentally contacted, so we chatted a few more words. I told him about the unsatisfactory things in life, and he was still the same as before, and he would enlighten and persuade me. Slowly, as we get more contact, the feeling between us seems to have changed. We can all sensitively feel this feeling.
I know, I shouldn't. I don't want to get stuck. But I am too depressed and wronged, I always want to find a place to breathe. And he, like the window I opened, I am used to standing in front of the window and breathing.
I have been restraining myself, do not go to him, can not fall into, but I hope he can come to me. This kind of contradiction and entanglement is the same torture as an unfortunate marriage.
A few days ago, he finally couldn't help but say what I wanted to hear in my heart, but tried to avoid it. He said that if I wanted to, he would take care of me at all costs. He said that if I insist on not letting go of marriage, he will respect my choice and will help me when I need it. He asked me to think about my future. If there is no love, it is irresponsible to keep a marriage without affection for a so-called promise.
I checked my husband's disease again, and some people said that if it is not done, it may last a lifetime. I reallyIt's a contradiction. There is no clear answer to whether to divorce or continue to date with his ex-boyfriend. These days, I am troubled by this problem and have often insomnia. What should I do? There is something to say about the siege of
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abandon the promises and ex-boyfriends. You have to ask your own heart. For this marriage, if there is no influence of these factors, what would you choose? What would you choose if you were not sick for him? If these factors that affect your choice do not exist, and you still feel that there is no love or emotion, and want to let go, then even if there are factors, you can choose according to your heart.
After all, these can't be the yoke that kidnap you must guard this marriage. However, if you do not have the influence of these factors, you may continue to live, so now, please be cautious and don't let go. Feelings will gradually develop. Marriage is not only a combination, but also the fulfillment of promises. Therefore, I always feel that you are too much affected by some factors, so you are entangled. If you accept your fate, you may not have so much trouble. As for what you should do, you still need to decide for yourself.
But anyway, you are a married woman, some behaviors need to be eliminated. Don't give yourself any excuses, reasons and opportunities for making mistakes!
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