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lively throughout August's "Little Joy", finally ushered in the finale.
The children were admitted to their ideal universities; Fang Yuan's family of four looked forward to Fang Duoduo's birth; Qiao Weidong and Song Qian really remarried; Liu Jing recovered and the family moved out of Beijing. At the end of the
story, the Fangyuan family, Qiao Weidong family, and Ji Yangyang family moved out of Shuxiang Yayuan.
"There is an empty coffee table left, it seems that nothing happened."
Life is like this, it seems that nothing has happened, and it seems that everything has been experienced again.
Fangyuan, Tong Wenjie, and Fang Yifan are the most ordinary husbands, wives, and sons in countless streets.
They are ordinary middle-aged people and ordinary college entrance examination candidates. The life of
is the dumplings made on the New Year's Day, the hysterical quarrel, and the sigh when the family next door is suffering.
In their lives, there are crying, joy, misunderstanding, and compromise; there is a deep love and a sense of responsibility; there are full expectations for life, and there are also free and easy indifferents after frustration.
writer Jian Zhen said that life is like a quatrain, flat and flat. On the way
, there will be filled with joy, and there will be frustrated cotton silk, we are in a hurry, living our own little days.
The world of adults
It takes more courage to let go than to move forward.
In "Little Joy", the plot includes workplace, family, marriage, parent-child, and several adults must take care of all aspects of life.
Fangyuan, who lost his job, cried bitterly late at night. When he was young, he imagined that he could be a generation of knights, but he didn't want to. He became a "Yue Buqun" in middle age. There is a scene in the
play. Fangyuan, who has repeatedly failed to find a job, met a takeaway boy at the door of KFC. The boy was eating an overtime meal and said frankly, "It would be a waste to not eat." When
learned that the takeaway boy’s monthly income is "10,000 children and eight thousand", Fang Yuan wondered: In fact, being a takeaway boy is also good. After struggling and choosing,
started to run Didi after working in a circle. The so-called maturity of
may be like Fangyuan, after being frustrated, he finally accepted his "unwilling" and compromised with his ordinary self.
Song Qian is the most controversial character in the play, a gold medal physics teacher, a single mother, a stereotype, a clear arrangement of the lives of herself and her daughter, high demands on herself, and high demands on her daughter Qiao Yingzi.
Qiao Yingzi suffered from depression due to prolonged high pressure and depression.
Qiao Yingzi, who was standing on the bridge, shouted to the anxious Song Qian: "I just want to escape from you!"
Song Qian was shocked, sad, and mixed feelings. Why would a daughter who gave everything for herself want to escape herself? ? Why did I do my best to make my favorite daughter suffer from moderate depression?
Many people say that Song Qian is a suffocating character. She controls her daughter from what time to what she eats, what kind of university she goes to, and where she lives.
From discovering that Qiao Yingzi ran away from home, to diagnosing moderate depression, Song Qian was deeply in pain in just a few days, and she silently let go from the pain.
She tore off the papers she was going to make for Qiao Yingzi, put aside her many years of grievances, and had a marriage consultation with Qiao Weidong, trying to get along well with Qiao Weidong.
Song Qian put down not only the restraints and demands of her daughter, but also the paranoid and rigid herself.
The adult world is in turmoil, thousands of ordinary people, ups and downs in the upstream and downstream of life. The heroic dream of
has gradually faded in the frustrations. We began to admit from the bottom of our hearts that we would also fail and be eliminated.
In this world, letting go requires more courage than moving forward.
admits one's frustration, let go becomes something that can be done, let go of stubbornness, let go of prejudice, let go of the shortcomings in life, and then move forward invisibly.
is like Fangyuan, letting go of his legal work. By chance, he meets a director and can do the dubbing work he likes while playing Didi.
like Song Qian, let goThe rigid self, in exchange for a harmonious family, happy and worry-free daughter.
's life is to pass customs again and again. The screenwriter of
"Little Joy" is Huang Lei, and many people say he has "fireworks".
He said that smoke is very romantic, and fire is also very romantic. He puts poetry in a pot and stews it with vegetables. Everyone has their own tastes for what they want to eat.
has no ups and downs in the whole drama, no villain that makes people hateful, only the details of life.
Huang Lei said: "The little joys in life come from passing the level again and again." When
was young, parents often said, "After the exam, you can play whatever you want." The original intention of
is true. It's not to coax us. Because in their hearts, after the exam, we passed one level.
In this year's college entrance examination, many college entrance examination students walked out of the school gate after the exam, the "devil pace" hit the Internet again and again.
Some people cheered, some screamed, and they all ran out of the school gate in joy.
because they passed.
No matter the grades are good or bad, only you can understand how difficult they are to study hard for ten years. And now, they are about to start a new journey. Outside the school gate of
, some parents held up banners, some stood in a row by themselves, applauded and cheered for their children, some even cried.
They also passed. The ten years of
children are also their ten years. For ten years, worrying about trivial matters for the children and busying for the family, finally at this moment, they are also free.
life is like this, busy in this state, and then running non-stop to the next state.
Isn’t it just the little joy that accumulates? After
finished the exam, I can finally "Ge Youtan" on the sofa, eating snacks, and watching favorite TV series;
can finally "unload" after giving birth to the baby, pregnant in October, insomnia, stretch marks, swollen legs and feet, The pain of not being able to make-up all disappeared;
retired and can finally retire. Some people may have been in a position for more than ten years, and have done the same job for more than ten years.
can finally plant flowers and grass at home comfortably, trim fences and cook tea, utterly express the elegant rhyme of words and express short-term life.
Huang Lei said: "When you accumulate enough little joys, you do not regret, do not fear, you will have great joy."
In Huang Lei's view, "big joy" is "big parting", it is to say goodbye to this world The ending, the egg at the curtain call.
Whose life is not difficult?
You have to find your own little joy
Zhihu, someone has made such a timetable:
21:42 The waiter in the restaurant is just getting off work;
22:01 Sanitation workers are still cleaning the trash can
22:49 The takeaway boy also took a supper to the various districts;
23:00 white-collar workers who drove from the east of the city back to the west were taking a nap on the subway;
23:43 The drivers on the night shift have already arrived;
01:14 The middle-aged talents at dinner party have just arrived home;
02: 26 porters have begun to move goods into the car;
05: 47 mothers three months after giving birth are taking care of the baby who suddenly woke up;
05:47 can hear the building The sound of opening breakfast stalls;
07: 36 bus stops are crowded with office workers who are full of attendance this month;
08: 16 the freshly ground soy milk in the breakfast shop has been sold out;
24 hours a day, each of us is in our own Gerry walked in a hurry on the schedule.
Spanish poet Andrade said:
“Life is to grow up with a flower bitten by your teeth, learn to breathe in danger, every step you take, the skin will burst in a glare of light.”
Life is impermanence, The combination of depression is a symphony of perfection and imperfection.
Shi Tiesheng's life is a concerto full of injustice and sadness.
Born in 1951, paralyzed both legs in 1972, from Yan'anBack to Beijing. Later, he suffered from kidney disease and developed into uremia. He maintained his life by dialysis three times a week.
died of a sudden cerebral hemorrhage in 2010 at the age of 59.
Han Shaogong commented on him: "The warmth of the heartache of thousands of people, allowing people to touch the eternity in the moment, enter the horizon in the particles, and smile broadly in the eyes of the hardship and pain." Some people say at
, read Shi Tiesheng again. I can understand the article, but I am no longer young.
flew into a disaster and had many fate, but Shi Tiesheng said, “This is fate, and everyone is the same. In this process, we encounter pain, transcend limitations, and feel happiness.”
got into a wheelchair at the best age, and he was grieved. , Suffering, almost suicidal, but understand in it that "no difference will not make the world."
Life is not like this, in life, grow up in epiphany, and learn to be joyful in growth.
So Shi Tiesheng when he was a teenager was full of resentment, full of resentment towards the world and his mother. On the other hand, in middle age, he began to have a hearty smile and loved life more than anyone else.
He said in "Breaks of Sickness", "Who said that I have never died? Before I was born, the sun rose and set countless times, the long time was swallowed by the long nothingness, and it made a comeback in the name of my birthday."
Originally depressed, why don't we struggle too much, it is better to change the law and find some joy.
Even if life is like dust, I hope the years are like songs.
A complete life
is the interweaving of joy, anger, sorrow, and joy
Some people say that life is like this, not as good as poetry. Turning around and hitting reality, it can only be the case.
What is reality? Unbearable, injustice, and injustice are reality, and luck, decency, and achievement are also reality.
Like Liu Jing's sudden cancer in "Xiao Huanxi", Tong Wenjie was almost "hidden rule" by her boss, and Qiao Yingzi suffered from depression due to family.
Huang Lei said that he likes to look at life with the utmost kindness and to treat everyone in life.
Liu Jing’s prototype was originally his neighbor who died of illness. He wrote this role into the play, gave her a new life, and gave her a close friendship.
Life is not a TV series, maybe we are not so lucky.
does not heal so quickly, and may not be able to heal after being ill;
and his friends are not so easy to untie, and even old and dead;
encounters a bad boss at work, it is impossible to leave, because you still have to survive .
But so what?
Life is a huge wave of time pushing us forward, walking non-stop.
Japanese writer Osamu Dazai said: "When life is easy, I will write desperate poems. When life is in distress, I will write the joy of birth."
When we look back, the dim lights will always be filled with little joy that belongs only to us. This is how life can be enjoyed.
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