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"Princess Diary" was the first North American movie that had a box office of over 100 million, giving people the illusion of "you are the heroine" and fulfilling all girls' dreams of love and a beautiful future.
is also this movie, so that Anne Hathaway became famous and became a hot actress at the time.
looked at it 18 years later and found that in addition to love, more importantly, life brings us challenges all the time, and courage is the best choice to deal with challenges.
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"The Princess Diaries" can be said to be a live-action version of Cinderella.
Cinderella becomes the coveted princess through love and a prince, but the protagonist Mia (Annie Hathaway) is the princess herself, but she doesn't know it.
In the impression, the princess should be fair and beautiful, dignified and elegant, but Mia wears an explosive head, black-rimmed glasses, dare not speak in public, and is often bullied by her classmates.
Her fate was rewritten from the death of her father, when she was only 15 years old.
Mia’s grandma found her and told her that she was the princess of Genovia, a small European country. The sudden change of
's identity left her at a loss and resistance, and then made a series of incredible funny behaviors.
finally found the courage to face everything in his father's letter, put aside the eyes and prejudices of others, let go of the timidity in his heart, bravely accept the arrangements of fate, and become a real princess.
To become rich overnight may be the dream of many people, and becoming a princess is the dream of many girls.
Mia helped all girls realize the fairy tale of the ugly duckling transformed into a white swan.
However, her inferiority complex and fear of the responsibility and pressure behind the princess made her escape for a while.
Study at ease, fall in love smoothly, and live a stable life. This was her vision for the future life, she just wanted to live quietly in a corner of the world.
, like most of us, "just want to hide in the crowd."
We don't want to be the best and most dazzling one, but we just want to work steadily, live peacefully, and live this life in peace.
But the reality of society has pulled you back from your dreams.
challenge, never be kind to anyone, only the courage to face difficulties can contend with it.
Even if you are a princess, what about it, it will not show any mercy to you.
Blindly shrinking back and forbearance can not be exchanged for the sympathy and love of others, it will only make their bullying of you worse.
is like Huang Bo said, when you are weak, you are surrounded by bad guys.
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is understandable. Everyone has an escape mentality. They always want to stay in their comfort zone and don't want to change easily. Because of change, it heralds pain and a departure from a familiar environment, which brings many unknown risks.
However, her life experience and her inherent responsibilities made her have to accept all this.
When she accepted a series of arrangements made by her grandma, her explosive head turned into straight long hair, and her eyebrows changed from caterpillars to slender and charming, from rashness to intellectual elegance.
She was forced to accept all these changes. The change in appearance of
shocked her, that she could become so beautiful!
After being praised by others, she suddenly became very confident, especially wanting to be affirmed by her best friend Lily, but Lily gave her a blow. She became more inferior and helpless.
We always care about the opinions and perspectives of others, especially the people who care most, but ignore our own true feelings. That's why we are more willing to maintain the status quo and do not want to change easily.
At this time, her driver said something to her: No one can make you sad without your consent.
Mia seems to have suddenly understood that people are living for themselves after all, and must make themselves strong, not to mention that they are a princess.
"If you want to be a princess, you have to believe that you are a princess. You should behave like the princess you imagine. In addition, you have to look forward and take your time, and smile to life."
is alive, you are first of all you Yourself, and then the other identities that society gives you.
she no longer fights against grandmaIn her transformation, she gradually accepted others' perspectives and opinions on her.
Faced with other people's bad reviews and opinions, she no longer evades, but rises to difficulties. Such a change requires courage.
She understands that maintaining the status quo is easy, but it is difficult to change.
People lack courage, the most essential reason is lack of goals, lack of support in times of difficulty, not knowing what they want, let alone what they have.
is like a ship drifting at sea. Your balance will change course at any time because of the opinions of others. You will go wherever it pushes you.
But when a person has a clear goal, he will no longer be swayed by the opinions of those around him. He has his own clear goal, has his own direction of efforts, and naturally will also have the courage to move forward.
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lacks courage and another important reason is laziness. The internet term is "late stage lazy cancer".
"Procrastination Psychology" has a good explanation:
people comfort themselves by procrastination and convince themselves that their abilities are greater than their performance. They even maintain the belief that their potential is Excellent and limitless. By procrastinating, you will never force yourself to face the limits of your abilities.
is typical, a giant in language and a short in action.
is like seeing a girl you like, just blindly in love without taking action, then you will never get her, even if she also has a good impression of you, but because of your inaction, will not change, eventually Stay and fly with others.
is like seeing a person who is not as capable as you succeed in starting a business, but you are just a sour ridicule instead of real actions. In this way, you will always be just a worker, and others have already become famous.
When you have the courage to take the first step, you have succeeded.
writer Gladwell pointed out in "Alien":
1 million hours of training is a necessary condition for anyone to change from ordinary to world-class event.
This is the so-called "10,000-hour rule".
has no action 1, and there are no more 0s behind it.
Change requires courage, but the most essential reason that hinders you from changing is your mindset, which is the escape after encountering setbacks.
No one succeeded at one time. Edison invented the electric light for more than 1,600 experiments, and the Wright brothers experimented 4 times before inventing the airplane.
Failure is the mother of success. Only by summing up experience and learning from failure can one go further and go longer.
Zhong Cheng Dongqing in "Chinese Partners" once said that when you realize that failure is just a detour, you are already on the road to success.
Change requires courage, but courage is more than just bravery.
Bravery may be a reckless action, but courage is an empowerment to one's actions after careful consideration. The
society is changing at any time, and it will not postpone the change just because you are not ready.
is like when Mia was not really ready to accept her princess status, she was suddenly besieged by reporters who got the news, and she had to accept the predicament of living under the spotlight.
Courage may not be invincible, but timidity does not help at all.
She is no longer the ugly duckling who is bullied, but the princess who bravely resists the evil forces that bully her classmates.
When you are strong, everyone becomes happy.
Everyone did not feel a trace of disgust because of her resistance, but admired her behavior, and more of them were surprised and praised.
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Before the change, Mia had a secret feeling for Josie, the handsome guy at school, but her low self-esteem made her dare not confess, look at him directly, or talk to him, she can only use fantasy To satisfy their longing for love.
The coward in love is most afraid of the result after failure.
"The Road Few People Walk" said:
love means the expansion of self boundaries, that is, the expansion of self into unfamiliar areas, and then a different and brand-new self. This process isThe process of self-improvement. When experiencing unfamiliarness, we may feel insecure, fear, and fall into anxiety. When facing these things and moments that break the original boundaries of ourselves, what we need most is courage.
In a sense, true love will bring about mental maturity, which requires courage and more risk.
Even if there is no result, even if it fails, at least I have tried hard, and I will not regret it in retrospect.
When someone is too persistent about something, it is easy to ignore other people and things.
When Mia was still small and transparent, she put all her eyes on Josie, ignoring the silent attention of the other person.
He is the brother of best friend Lily-Michael.
She plucked up the courage, let go of the wrong love, let go of the past, and proactively apologized to Michael, invited him to her 16-year-old dance party, and ordered a pizza that said "sorry". At the
ball, Mia bravely announced that she had accepted the arrangement of fate and accepted the title and mission of the princess. Michael finally accepted Mia's apology. During the dance, they came to the garden, resolved the misunderstanding, and kissed affectionately.
Liang Jingru’s "Courage" contains such a lyric, love really needs courage to face the rumors, as long as you have a positive look, my love is meaningful.
In love, my courage needs your affirmation to charge. Your timely charging can keep my love for you full.
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Courage is not being fearless, but being in awe and still facing difficulties. Courage is that although I am still afraid of darkness, I have light in my heart.
Only by forcing ourselves can we stimulate the courage to grow; only through training can we truly grow; awakening in consciousness can truly stimulate courage.
Courage is not without fear, but with judgment that is more important than fear.
Brave people will not live forever, but cautious people simply cannot survive.
In essence, it takes courage to be a successful person, a happy person, and a different person.
The shelter of family and friends will disappear one day, and one day, you will face all the storms yourself.
Only when you really become strong and start practicing from your heart can you build your own armor.
Through the storm, you are no longer the same you.
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Today’s topic: Which moment do you think moved you the most in "The Princess Diaries"?
