#Summer Creation Contest#
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After the opening, the people who were suffocated began to fight for themselves carnival! Men and women are scrambling to visit, and they all consult like this:
teacher, my other half has cheated...
teacher, my other half has been cold and violent for a long time...
teacher, my other half has been a giant baby for a long time...
teacher, my other half has not been motivated for a long time...
Yes, they both want a divorce! There is only one purpose for consulting: how to do it, so that my benefits can be maximized!
During the visits of these people, I found a very interesting phenomenon:
These people, and the person next to me who is about to divorce, have never really understood each other and listened to each other! Even, when they face the person next to their pillow, they never express themselves!
Under this very interesting phenomenon, the phrase "expectation is the predecessor of resentment" in the book "Intimate Relationship" written by Christopher Meng is vividly interpreted.
The book "Intimate Relationship" very specifically points out the truth about the relationship between a man and a woman from establishing a relationship to bonding:
The intimate relationship between a man and a woman has the greatest energy and the strongest tensor, so the conflict is also the greatest and the most heartbreaking.
Under such circumstances, if two people do not know how to correct themselves and insist on their own "right", divorce after marriage becomes inevitable.
However, no one marries for the purpose of divorce. In order for our relationship to develop harmoniously and healthily, we need to know some predictable truths before we actually combine.
These truths, next I will elaborate in detail in the form of advice, combined with Christopher Meng's "Intimate Relationship". I hope that men and women in relationships can be deeply inspired and stop being illiterate in relationships.
4 sobering advice on marriage and love, heart-pounding and realistic! It is not easy for people to understand:
Sentence 1: Don’t establish a relationship too quickly
As marriage and love become more and more open, some men and women will immediately have an intimate relationship as soon as they meet each other.
or some men and women are still in a completely unfamiliar state. I only know the other party's name, work, and appearance. It is simply eating a meal and watching a movie ...
or even the face. Seeing a few times, the emotional relationship established by chatting software ...is established to establish a relationship. It must be slow, especially in intimate relationships, and learn slower and slower.
Otherwise, you will use the fact that we already have an intimate relationship, we already have an emotional relationship, how should you make rules for an unhealthy relationship...
The book "Intimate Relationship" says that "you should" is the worst word.
You should, it seems that there is nothing wrong with it, but it is mixed with too much moral kidnapping, which will make people lose the ability to observe whether the other party believes in this relationship as they did when they did.
The emotional relationship that is often established more easily is extremely sensitive and fragile, and cannot withstand the weather. Because, between each other, there is a lack of substantive communication and authentic understanding.
Hormones and the beauty of mind fantasy, after all, cannot constitute the conditions for a perfect combination.
Sentence 2: Don't rush to get married
I'm married to a hallucination, and after the medicine wears off, I think he sucks! Have you seen, heard, or experienced the most familiar state of this sentence in the book "Intimate Relationship"?
If you are in a hurry to get married, you will lose too much time to do a matching test on the following points:
①The habits and work styles of the two families are incompatible;
④The burden and responsibility of the original family, has there been a consensus to bear it without complaint or regret?
⑤Is the concept of mutual progress and common wealth and poverty synchronized with each other in mutual achievement and assistance?
If the above problems are not well prepared and planned before marriage, then the idea of getting married for the sake of being together and trying to solve it after a temporary marriage are all self-righteous low-IQ behaviors.
There are some problems, you must make explicit arrangements before marriage, so that you can give yourself the best stability and stability.
In essence, you are not responsible for yourself, so why does the other party pay for your fake generosity, pretending to be considerate, and paying without thinking?
After marriage, all your confusion and tears are the water in your mind before marriage. It's just that it's easy to get water in, but it's hard to let it out.
In addition to using your own experience as a lesson for others, you are probably just a sinner who doesn't know how to love yourself.
Sentence 3: If you don't have the ability to make money, you will be looked down upon after all.
Women, often because they don't make money or make too little money, turn from a little baby who is said by men "I raise you" to a wronged ghost who "is like you".
Men, often because they don't make money or make too little money, turn from the happy star of "I only care about you" in women's mouths to the "worse" in women's mouths.
Money is not everything, but if you combine with others, you must have the ability to make money and the ability to save money. Otherwise, no matter how good you are, compared to the main exporters of survival and life, you are a person who has no right to speak.
Without equality, there is no head-up. Without looking up, there will be encounters of humble pandering and domineering, indifferent and low-browed encounters because of bird's-eye view and looking up.
This taste is not good!
In order not to suffer from such a feeling, we must not only improve our ability to make money at all times, but also pay attention to our attitude towards the people in front of us, so that the sense of balance and existence value can make the relationship continue in a healthy way.
There is a reminder in the book "Intimate Relationship" that says, how you treat your partner, your partner will treat you.
But don't forget, before you say "what if" to yourself, think a little more about how you are not in your partner's situation.
So for the sake of a healthy relationship, for the sake of human nature not to bewitch people, don't turn yourself into a useless person who stops growing, this is the best attitude you have towards your partner.
Sentence 4: Keep your principles and bottom line at all times
In real life, we often see some people who yearn for a healthy emotional relationship while self-destructively breaking through their bottom line and principles to cater to the relationship.
Do you think that breaking your bottom line and principles again and again will really make the other party feel grateful and guilty, and give you the last respect, care and attention from now on?
No, you will only make your lover ignore your feelings more and more, and hurt you more and more.
Infidelity, violence, denial, use, malicious lies, traps...these, when you discover them for the first time, you are doomed to have only two choices:
①There is only one chance to forgive, and if you use it up, it will be gone. If the other party commits the crime again, you will choose to end it.
② End directly.
If you don't maintain your bottom line and principles in this way, your lover will not cherish you in the state of knowing your mistakes. Or, you won't have hands free for gifts by throwing out the trash.
Once the decision is over, stop procrastinating. Compared with getting together and entanglement, simply turning around is the last decent thing. After all, if a person loves you, he will naturally not touch your bottom line, will he?
There are so many reasons in life, it is nothing more than the entanglement and resentment in your inner world, which are constantly offset and arise again.
There may not be rewards for giving, but if you love yourself correctly, you will feel the joy and achievement of self-sufficiency.
The relationship between a man and a woman needs to be established slowly, and the process needs to be carefully understood and managed.
Marriage and love occupy most of our lives, so we must not be blind or careless!
come on!
Love is the purgatory for human beings in this world. Be it love or friendship, only by meeting the right person at the right time can we achieve a positive result!
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Topic Discussion: What do you think are the most common problems in intimate relationships? Welcome to leave a message and interact.
