forgot her little daughter's passport at home, which delayed the original plan, and Ma Yili cried bitterly at the airport. Although the children were a little disappointed with the postponement of the trip, they did not blame Ma Yili. Seeing their mother crying, the children looked at each other and didn't know what to do for a while.
Recently, the word relaxation is quite popular, it comes from a small story shared by a blogger. The
family went out for a trip with great anticipation, but only when they arrived at the airport did they find that their mother's certificate had already expired, and there was no way to board the plane. I thought that other people who had already boarded the plane could travel normally, but all the luggage was in the mother's name, and it was required to be returned according to regulations.
When many people encounter such a thing, they may blame themselves like Ma Yili, or blame others for not checking in advance. Isn't this a waste of time?
But no one in the family showed impatience. They just called the family normally to inform the family of the sudden situation, and discussed how to deal with it together. The whole atmosphere was very relaxed.
back to Ma Yili. Before the age of 40, there have been remarks in the circle that Ma Yili is very difficult to cooperate.
is very meticulous about details. Everyone is careful about matters related to Ma Yili, for fear of scolding Ma Yili accidentally.
Ma Yili actually knows all these remarks, but she thinks it's all because others are not serious enough and not good enough.
After she was 40 years old, Ma Yili suddenly didn't like her former self.
When her daughter is older, she will tell Ma Yili, "Mom, you have really done a great job. Our family is pretty good, isn't it?"
This made her start to reflect, strive for perfection in everything, isn't it cute at all?
Later, she started talking about these changes to her friends, and everyone felt that Ma Yili was soft, real, and human, and began to relax a little.
Now, she joked on the show that she was too harsh in the past, and frankly admitted that her harsh requirements for certain things in the past caused the pressure on others, and also brought harm to herself.
Ma Yili may have fallen into the dilemma of perfectionism self-presentation in psychology. She is always playing a perfect self, neither showing her flaws nor admitting that she is too tight.
is too tight and easy to break, too rigid and easy to fold .
I think a more accurate understanding of relaxation is more like the term psychological resilience in psychology, which refers to a person's ability to respond effectively to stress or stressful events, so as to achieve emotional balance. .
Wu Yue once said, allows everything to happen .
Life itself is a cyclical process of continuous loss and continuous gain. The people you meet and the things you experience have their meanings. It is in the loss one by one that people grow into a stronger self.
I am Ruochen, really drags down a person, it is never busy work, but mental tension .
I hope you and I can encourage each other to live a relaxed and moderate life. If you agree, please give me a like.
