Running a marriage is not easy, especially after having children.
If you are busy with work, housework and taking care of children every day, do you also want your father to share a little bit?
But it requires a woman to use the right method,
Otherwise, you will only get cold wars and quarrels.
is like this for ordinary families, and it seems that it is difficult for stars to escape this fate.
Gisele Bundchen , a world-class supermodel, started on the runway at the age of 14, walked 42 shows in New York at the age of 17, and was a hit at Mcqueen at the age of 18. After that, Bundchen began to shuttle in the shows of ChristianDior, Celine, PRADA, Chanel to Bvlgari, Lanvin, and Valentino. In 2000, she signed a long-term contract with Wei Mi for tens of millions of dollars.
People's impression of Bundchen still remains at the opening ceremony of the 2016 Rio Olympic Games , she once again conquered audiences all over the world with the iconic "horse walk" in a flashy dress.
Emotionally, Bundchen has been the focus of the entertainment park for a long time because of his 5-year relationship with Xiao Lizi. At that time, Xiao Lizi spent 4 million to buy a diamond ring in order to gain Bundchen's heart, but she failed to impress her. Bundchen said she didn't need these, she just wanted a child. This answer frightened Xiao Lizi, after all, he has no plans to get married.
In 2005, 25-year-old Bundchen started a relationship with rugby star Brady with the help of a friend. Although the relationship between the two did not go well, in the spring of 2009, the two entered the hall of marriage hand in hand. In December of the same year, their first child Benjamin was born, and their 12-year-old daughter Vivian was born.
In 2015, Bundchen, like most women, was unable to balance family and career, and decided to quit the runway to focus on taking care of two children while running his own personal fashion project.
Having children has a big impact on a woman, and even more so on a supermodel. I believe that many people have seen that photo, Bundchen is putting on makeup in the dressing room while breastfeeding the child. Breastfeeding made Bundchen's figure completely out of shape, her breasts shrunk, and both breasts were one size, which was absolutely a devastating blow for a model. She decided to get back in shape through fitness and surgery, which she soon regretted because she didn't want to affect her child's health. After
retired, her career continued unabated. While starting her own underwear brand and cosmetics brand, she also invested in real estate, appeared in variety shows, etc., and still did not have time to spare.
In the years after the child was born, she moved with her husband many times, and the heavy responsibility of taking care of the child was always on her own. Even after the season ended, her husband was busy with business activities and training, and had no time to take care of her and the child.
Although the husband seldom pays attention to the children, the two have different parenting philosophies. Brady, an athlete, lost his mind when he learned that his younger son didn't like sports.
's former golden boy and jade girl, a godly couple envied by others, can only end in divorce in the end, and the custody of many luxury houses and children has become the focus of their contention.
Why is there so much widowed education? Even the stars are no exception?
After the birth of a child, women are very fragile physically and mentally, unable to cope with the heavy responsibilities of work and childcare. They are so busy every day that sleeping has become an extravagant hope.
When women's roles and lifestyles undergo major changes, they will become dissatisfied with their marriages if their husbands are not able to help them or lend a helping hand. A study by
found that 67% of wives were dissatisfied with their marriage after the birth of the child, and of course 33% of wives were still satisfied. The key lies in the husband—whether the husband has kept up with the changes in his wife and shouldered the heavy responsibility of family and childcare together.
Men don't feel that they are unimportant, children really cannot do without their fathers
Summary of the famous American parenting magazine "Parents"The uniqueness of fathers with children
1, the parenting styles of fathers and mothers are different
2, fathers prefer to play with their children
3, fathers encourage children more effectively
4, fathers tend to use more complex language.
5, fathers are more binding on their children.
6, fathers can improve the socialization of children.
7, fathers can make children better develop their potential
8, fathers taking care of children can help reduce wives' depression.
There are so many benefits for men to participate in parenting, why can't they be seen in real life?
1, men enter the role slower
Women go through the pregnancy and childbirth process, giving them enough time to get ready to be mothers, so they enter the role of mother faster. Men lack the link of pregnancy and breastfeeding. The link between them and their children only starts after childbirth. The parent-child relationship needs to be cultivated, and this cycle usually takes 2 years.
2, taking care of children is a woman's business
Many people mistakenly believe that "women are born with babies and babies", which is very wrong. Children are shared by husband and wife, and it is the responsibility of both husband and wife to take care of and raise children. After
became a mother for the first time, coaxing to sleep, breastfeeding, holding babies, and feeding are not all learned step by step, how can they be born with them. Don't say that men are careless and clumsy when they bring their babies, it's even more nonsense. As long as a man is attentive, milking, burping, and changing diapers can still be done with ease.
3, men should focus on career
Many men think they should focus on career, but can you really afford a family with your little salary? No family can barely sustain the family without the husband and wife working together. Since women help you take on the career part, don't always use "busy career" as an excuse to ignore the growth of children. .
4, the results of the interaction between husband and wife
There is also a special situation. Men are willing to participate in the team of taking care of children, but they are constantly accused and criticized by their mothers or people around them in the process of learning to be a father. Can choose to "give up".
Men don't have the opportunity to practice, naturally they can't do it well, and naturally they have less opportunity and time to take care of their children, and women start to complain that men are useless.
