The Republic of China fantasy TV series " please " starring Ren Jialun and Li Qin has come to an end, but it still makes people memorable.
This drama has a novel setting. The male protagonist Lu Yan is the general of ancient Shu who has been sleeping for thousands of years for love. When he wakes up, he is taken by the heroine Yu Dengdeng and taken to the cottage to be "the aunt of the village". As the plot unfolds, the two The beautiful sadomasochism of the past and present life also made the audience call out "It's hard to calm down".
Yes, the heroine Yu Dengdeng is a female bandit from the cottage, "robbery men, robbing money and sex".
In the play, Yu Dengdeng has outstanding appearance, good kung fu, strong leadership ability, and is quite domineering. Lu Yan, on the other hand, is an ancient god of war with super powers. He can teleport, stop time and space, form and break formations, and has boundless mana.
is such a well-matched setting of strong men and women, it is like a clear stream in the popular combination of tyrants who fall in love with silly and sweet in recent years.
In real life, when both sides are career-oriented strongmen, it is easy to have a situation where they don't understand each other and interfere with each other. Both sides are unwilling to give in, and the situation will naturally become stalemate.
So when both men and women are strong, how can they live in harmony? Perhaps we can spy on Yu Deng Dengyan's emotional road.
· Respect each other's identity and positioning
At the beginning, Yu Dengdeng, as the head of Qingquan Village, can be said to be the backbone of the entire village, and most people recognize her ability very much.
Although Lu Yan wanted to find out Yu Dengdeng's identity, he stayed in Qingquan Village and waited. At this time, he still didn't like Yu Dengdeng, but he didn't think that there would be any problem with a woman in charge of the cottage, and he never interfered in the affairs of the stockade. Everything obeyed her arrangement and respected the people in the stockade. rule.
never asks much other than what he wants to check.
Although Lu Yan is not a nosy person, he likes to show off his abilities everywhere. But in addition to character reasons, it is also because he respects the identity of others very much.
The American interpersonal master Carnegie once said: "Respect others, let others feel that he is very important!" Therefore, when getting along with people, we must respect the identity of the other party, whether it is a friend, relative or lover.
Yu Dengdeng is the head of Qingquan Village, and in Qingquan Village, she should be given the respect she deserves. When
arrived in Yingdu, Yu Dengdeng issued a military order in front of Director Bai to catch demons for a limited time. Lu Yan knew that Yu Dengdeng encountered difficulties and was ready to help. But he didn't show his ability too much, but only appeared as "Yu Dengdeng's husband" to stay by her side and help her make suggestions.
Here, Lu Yan also taught Yu Dengdeng some small spells, so that even if she is not by her side, she can independently catch demons and protect herself.
And Yu Dengdeng is the same. When he arrived in ancient Shu city, Lu Yan was the prince of ancient Shu and also the general of ancient Shu. Lu Yan's position in ancient Shu is the same as Yu Dengdeng's position in Qingquan Village.
So here, Yu Dengdeng just stayed by Lu Yan's side as the future general's wife. As for what Lu Yan and his old department were going to do, she would never talk too much.
will follow Lu Yan's arrangement when encountering things, never act coquettishly, be arrogant, and become a burden to him.
In ancient Shu city, Lu Yan is the master, and he is the one who gives orders.
· Space for each other to play
The most unexpected thing about Lu Yan Yu Dengdeng is that they can give each other space to play in a very tacit understanding .
atWhen interrogating the prisoner, it was obviously something that Lu Yan could ask with one move, but he silently stood aside and did nothing, quietly watching Yu Dengdeng interrogate him in his own way.
He knows that Yu Dengdeng's so many years as a cottage boss is not for nothing, and she also has some small tricks of her own. The space given to her at this time can make her more confident and confident.
And Lu Yan was standing aside, smiling helplessly and indulgently, watching her "nonsense".
Between couples and couples, it is very important to give each other enough space to play. No matter which one is too powerful, always thinking that they can do everything well can throw the relationship out of balance.
must make the other person feel "needed" and give him a chance to reflect his self-worth.
When Yu Dengdeng is in danger, Lu Yan will help her without hesitation and protect her.
Yu Dengdeng said "I don't give a chance to save the hero", but he was still very sweet because he had a sense of security. And Lu Yan also responded very cooperatively, "Next time, definitely".
That's the connection.
When he was in Baile Village, Lu Yan Yudeng rescued the "fool" who was bullied by the villagers. Yu Dengdeng was responsible for speaking harshly, while Lu Yan was responsible for casting spells to disperse the crowd.
Yu Dengdeng knew that Lu Yan's mana was powerful, but he was reluctant to talk to people, so he reached a tacit understanding of "I'm in charge of talking, you're in charge of fighting" 's action mode.
Lu Yan is also very accepting of this mode of action, so this kind of scene can be seen in many of the two's actions.
give each other room to play in order to get along better.
Trust each other and cultivate tacit understanding
The importance of trust and understanding is fully reflected in the copy of Ancient Shu City. Here, they met Lu Yan's former subordinate Weidu, and saw all kinds of strange things in the city.
At this time, Yu Dengdeng began to be suspicious of Wei Du, and Lu Yan was still immersed in the joy of reuniting with his good brother. Yu Dengdeng expressed his guesses to Lu Yan. Although Lu Yan did not want to suspect that Wei Du had become bad, he also believed that Yu Dengdeng would not climb and bite indiscriminately, and acquiesced to her series of temptations to Wei Du.
Yu Dengdeng competed with Wei Du, deliberately provoking Wei Du, but when Lu Yan came, he pretended to be weak, pretended to be injured by Wei Du, and deliberately quarreled with Lu Yan, putting on a show of "arguing with jealousy".
Surprisingly, Lu Yan didn't feel that Yu Dengdeng was making trouble unreasonably, but instantly understood her intentions and acted with her to deceive Wei Du. In the next time, he stayed with Weidu every day, pretending to cooperate with Weidu's plan, and bought Yu Dengdeng time and opportunity to visit secretly.
This is the tacit understanding. The formation of a tacit understanding requires mutual trust and long-term cooperation between the two parties.
This is also the division of labor pattern that Lu Yan has formed since Dengdeng as mentioned above: whoever plays at home will play, and the other person is responsible for side assistance. The same is true for
in real life. When both sides are career-oriented strongmen, there is no need for one to sacrifice for the other, but the two sides walk hand in hand and shine on their respective home grounds.
It's not difficult to fall in love, but how to live in harmony and reach the end hand in hand in a long life.
For business-oriented couples who are strong enough on both sides, only by understanding each other, trusting each other, respecting each other, and cultivating their exclusive tacit understanding, can they go a long way.
Although the finale of "Please Jun" is not satisfactory, I believe that after many, many years, or in another time and space, Lu Yan and Yu Dengdeng will meet again!
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