" Dear Life ", Wu Congrui is a obstetrician and gynecologist with a high emotional intelligence. She helps so many women deliver babies every day, and enjoys the joy of new life with them. Mother.
However, she has been married to Feng Yuanhang for five years, and just after she was pleasantly surprised to find that she was pregnant, her husband Feng Yuanhang did not seem to show much joy to this little life in the gestation.
Shortly after, Wu Congrui accidentally fell while participating in an operation, resulting in a miscarriage. After the miscarriage, she once fell into obsession with having children, which led to a more serious conflict with her husband, and eventually the two ended in divorce.
At the same time, Du Di's ex-boyfriend Li Junxiao also approached Wu Congrui intentionally or unintentionally. Li Junxiao's previous proposal to Du Di failed because Du Di refused to give up promotion and go home to have children, so he and Wu Congrui had more common language. The two of
hit it off and got closer and closer, so that Wu Congrui gradually developed a good impression of Li Junxiao.
Du Di noticed Wu Congrui's favorable impression of Li Junxiao. When talking about the talk show,
Liu Nianbai talked about postpartum depression and the hardships of women giving birth, which aroused the resonance of female audiences, and also made Wu Congrui, Du Di and others fall into their own thoughts. What Wu Congrui was thinking about was when he would meet such a strong man to have children with her, and it would be better to have more children, while Du Di was thinking about the relationship between Wu Congrui and Li Junxiao.
Du Di said to Wu Congrui:
I was thinking that in a family, a man's understanding and support should be the basis for a woman to have a happy child... But Li Junxiao is not that kind of person. Li Junxiao is not a person who can understand and support women.
Du Di's remarks can be said to be very pertinent and sincere. One is his girlfriend for many years and the other is his ex-boyfriend who has been in love for five years. Both of them are well known to Du Di. She didn't want Wu Congrui to suffer again from the hurt she had suffered.
, but Wu Congrui said this to Du Di:
It was because your character was too strong before, so he felt that you did not need to understand and support.
When Du Di tried to persuade him further, Wu Congrui quickly found an excuse to leave.
Obviously, Wu Congrui was unwilling to listen to Du Di's thoughts and advice. She felt that Li Junxiao didn't understand women, just because that woman was Du Di, and it was caused by Du Di's own character. The implication is that if that woman is replaced by her, Li Junxiao will understand and support her.
Wu Congrui's words fully reflected her understanding of men and love, and also laid the groundwork for her future emotional path.
Can Li Junxiao really understand and support Wu Congrui?
Li Junxiao is a person with trauma from his original family. His family was poor when he was a child, and his parents died early. He was brought up by his sister, and his sister was a woman with a relatively low level of education and a narrow-mindedness. This also led to Li Junxiao's failure to accept special health and correctness in his early years. guiding concept.
Li Junxiao, an adult, has low self-esteem and is sensitive. He will instinctively blame his own poverty for those unsatisfactory things, and his biggest dream is to honor his ancestors.
After Du Di rejected Li Junxiao's proposal, Li Junxiao targeted her everywhere, instigating Wu Congrui to compete with her for patients. He did this, on the one hand, because he felt that Du Di did not marry him because he thought he was poor; on the other hand, because Du Di hindered his process of multiplying offspring and honoring his ancestors.
This shows how narrow-minded and selfish this man is. What he didn't understand and didn't support was not that Du Di's personality was stronger, but that Du Di's strong personality was destined not to compromise and sacrifice for him.
What if he is with Wu Congrui?
is right, he seems to be able to chat with Wu Congrui very well now, and the two people's three views are more compatible, that is because at this stage they have the same needs for having children. What about
after this stage? After the child is born, Li Junxiao will focus on his career and continue to work hard for his grand wish to honor his ancestors. He will take care of him.Of course, I feel that taking care of children and taking care of the family is a woman's duty, and I take it for granted that a woman should sacrifice her career for the family.
, but a girl like Wu Congrui who grew up in the palm of her hand, how could she be willing to accept her husband's attitude and attitude towards her? She would definitely be dissatisfied with Li Junxiao, and her dissatisfaction, in Li Junxiao's eyes, turned into disgust for him.
Li Junxiao and Du Di are still inferior. Wu Congrui's family is much better than Du Di. In front of Wu Congrui, Li Junxiao will only feel more inferior. With Wu Congrui, there will be more conflicts than with Du Di. At that time, he would not understand and support Wu Congrui at all.
Wu Congrui is a woman who is very unclear in her relationship.
Although Wu Congrui has a high emotional intelligence, to be honest, she is really confused and unclear when she looks at men and relationships.
She has been married to Feng Yuanhang for five years, five years, for such a long time, it is impossible for her to not understand what kind of person her husband is. But when her husband suddenly had a sterilization, she chose to divorce without asking the reason.
Of course, Feng Yuanhang's approach here is also problematic. He shouldn't hide everything from his wife, because we can see that he loves Wu Congrui very much. A man with a personality like Feng Yuanhang is a typical avoidant personality. With such a person, you have to take the initiative to ask him before he can tell the truth.
, but Wu Congrui, who has lived together for five years, didn't realize this. On the contrary, when it comes to Li Junxiao, she is full of tolerance.
It wasn't long before Li Junxiao broke up with her best friend, and he came to show her goodwill, and repeatedly urged her to fight against her best friend. Any woman who is a little more sober will definitely think about this man's attitude towards relationships and character issues. But Wu Congrui did not.
Not only did she fall in love with Li Junxiao, but she also believed that everything between him and Du Di in the past was Du Di's fault. It was Du Di's strong character and refusal to go home to have children that led to their breakup. Look, how incomprehensible this is?
Men and women, in love and marriage, have always been based on the principle of equality and voluntariness. Li Junxiao, as a man who regards inheriting the lineage as his life goal, wants to get married and have children at the right age, we can understand, but this cannot be the reason for him to force Du Di, let alone the reason for him to target Du Di.
He can resent Du Di for refusing to go home to give birth to her today, and he may resent Wu Congrui tomorrow because Wu Congrui refuses to go home to bring the child so that he can have no worries. This is determined by his selfishness and narrow-mindedness. Yes, it has nothing to do with whether his lover has a strong personality or a gentle personality.
As for Wu Congrui, from what she said to Du Di, it can be seen that she has no such awareness and cognition at all, so her future relationship is destined to be hurt.
So, here, I also have to remind girls, when you deal with feelings, you must make yourself sober. Only when a woman can understand clearly in her relationship can you not lose yourself because of various worldly requirements, and not aggrieve yourself because of those narrow concepts. Only in this way can you live out your true self in marriage.
About the author: meets Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write. She focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television and the analysis and answer of questions in the emotional field. I hope my words can accompany you warmly.
