People in different age groups have different needs and attitudes towards love.
When we were young, we only wanted love, but we ignored the importance of bread.
At the age of 20 years, he doesn't know anything, he has never experienced social beatings, and he doesn't know how hard life is.
single-mindedly just wants to pursue love, and is unable to extricate himself from one relationship after another.
is willing to give up for the sake of love, and willing to give without reservation for the other party.
The romance of young people is to be with the person they love, even eating a roadside stall is very happy.
It was only when we reached the age to talk about marriage that we realized that love is not the whole of life.
felt the difficulty of life, realized that it is difficult to make money, and saw the sad marriages of those around who "only pursue love and don't care about conditions".
They finally realized that love is important, and bread is equally important.
This reminds me of the drama " Naked Marriage Era ".
11 years have passed, and the story in this drama seems to be more and more profound now.
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The love between Liu Yiyang and Tong Jiaqian is out of the material foundation
Do you still remember that line in "The Age of Naked Marriage"?
"I have no car, no house, no money, no diamond ring, but I have a heart that loves you." Why is
so popular in the first year of this show?
is because at that stage, people's income, life, vision, and Internet development are still in their infancy and exploration stage.
Back then, as long as some money was enough to support a family, people didn't have that much ambition.
, especially the young men and women in the small town, were instantly confused by this line.
And those boys who don't have a house, a car or a deposit think that this sentence speaks to their hearts.
"Yeah, I have no money, no house, no car, I can have nothing, but only I love you."
And this line also sets the tone for the show "Naked Marriage".
really, give up bread for love. If
is in the moment, the boy who said this sentence will not be sprayed by netizens, and my name will be written upside down.
Liu Yiyang and Tong Jiaqian are considered childhood sweethearts and have known each other for many years.
And Tong Jiaqian lives in a native family that is well protected by her parents. She is a bit willful, goes her own way, and has a bad temper.
But in her heart, she pursues love and longs for romance.
Otherwise, she would not fall in love with Liu Yiyang, and give up those suitors with better conditions around her.
A little girl who falls in love is always easy to be blinded by love and reduces her thinking ability.
Until Tong Jiaqian became pregnant unexpectedly, the two of them had to face the reality.
It's just the first time to meet his parents, what is Liu Yiyang's performance?
evasive, cowardly, afraid to admit the truth.
In the end, Tong Jiaqian maintained Liu Yiyang's dignity and explained to his parents: "I am pregnant with his child, I must marry him."
In the end, Tong Jiaqian loved and paid the most to Liu Yiyang.
And what does Liu Yiyang have? He only has empty checks and promises that are rarely fulfilled.
The three elements of love proposed by psychologists include:
passion, intimacy, and commitment.
Liu Yiyang's feelings for Tong Jiaqian are only short-lived passion, intimacy after the child is born, and promises that have never been fulfilled.
can say this:
Before getting married, Tong Jiaqian's love for Liu Yiyang was out of material basis. She didn't care whether Liu Yiyang had money or not, she only loved this person.
But after getting married, everything changed, Tong Jiaqian's love was gradually worn out in the tormented marriage life.
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Liu Yiyang's love is the most worthless
If you look at Liu Yiyang and the family behind him from the current perspective, you will find that no matter who marries him, the ending is the same.
either broke up in marriage, or was "assimilated" by a bad family like Liu Yiyang, and turned into a bad person.
First: suffer for face
"The poor need face", this sentence is vividly reflected in Liu Yiyang.
There is such a scene in the play:
Liu Yiyang's parents tentatively mentioned: "We will help you share the money for your childbirth." , we have."
Under Tong Jiaqian's questioning and anger, what did Liu Yiyang say?
He said:
"You said that I am so old, and I will have children when I get married. I will ask my parents for money for you to have children. I can't keep my face."
But he didn't think about it. Past:
requires money for pregnancy, money for childbirth, money for confinement, and money for all household expenses.
Liu Yiyang did not care about Tong Jiaqian and her child's life for his own sake.
also violated his original rhetoric: "I, Liu Yiyang, want to give Tong Jiaqian the best life and the happiest marriage."
satirized.
What's another scene?
After he lost his job, Tong Jiaqian's mother helped him find a job, and clearly said, "Do it first, and then change it later when you find a suitable job."
And what about Liu Yiyang?
For the sake of face, if he is dead or alive, he is just a muscle.
Finally, Tong Jiaqian said to him, "We only have 500 yuan left. What are you going to do with the baby's milk powder?"
Just like that, Liu Yiyang was still reluctant to bow his head and refused to accept the job his mother-in-law asked for.
Is this what a normal man would do?
Second: lack of sense of responsibility, immature
The most typical example is:
When Tong Jiaqian was about to give birth, Liu Yiyang even went to "gambling cars" and was finally arrested.
Tong Jiaqian in the delivery room, all the spears accumulated between the parents of both partiesThe shield was completely ignited at this moment.
Liu Yiyang is immature and has no sense of responsibility.
No normal man would do such sloppy and irresponsible behavior.
Wife is about to give birth to a child, and she is not with her, so she goes racing.
knew for a long time that his family conditions were very average, but he was unwilling to face the reality, instead of looking for a job to make money, he looked at the masters and the masters. Is a man like
reliable?
marrying a man like Liu Yiyang, what are the plans?
Third: Unclear, overprotective parents
how did he do it?
and muddy, favoring parents.
Besides, shouldn't the young couple live alone after getting married?
He could actually accept living with his wife and living next to his parents.
Liu Yiyang's parents, grandma, Liu Yiyang and his wife.
A family of five lives in such a small space. How can there be no contradiction in a state like
? How did
endure such a life?
The man who can't carry it is really unreliable.
A reliable man who can comfort his mother on the top, comfort his wife's emotions in the middle, and educate his children well below.
Men play a key role in reconciling conflicts in the family.
You will find that Tong Jiaqian's marriage to Liu Yiyang was wrong from the beginning.
In the breakup scene of the last two people, Liu Yiyang still didn't realize his mistake.
He knew that he said coldly: "Details beat love".
But he didn't think about his own problems, he didn't think about his own faults.
can see that Tong Jiaqian still loves Liu Yiyang deeply even after breaking up.
She gave this man a chance, but he didn't know how to cherish it.
In fact, the most suitable candidate for Tong Jiaqian is "Du Yi" who she grew up with.
Reasons:
knows the basics, is familiar with each other, and the two families are in a good relationship;
Du Yi has the ability, career and income are very good;
Du Yi loves her enough to be Tong Jiaqian's licking dog willingly.
placed in the current marriage and love market environment, no one will choose Liu Yiyang, only Du Yi.
If someone is standing in front of you at this moment, and tell you:
"I have no money, no house, no car, and my family conditions are not good. After marriage, I live with my parents. Will you marry me?"
I think , you can't help but yell at him three words: neurosis.
Love without bread, unfulfilled promises, no futurePersistence is the most worthless and meaningless way to get along.
Today's topic:
Do you think a man like Liu Yiyang can marry?
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