is gone. The sentence
"there is no more peaches in the world", "the white earth is really clean" , seems not enough to calm the regret.
is even more confusing.
turned out to be long before the incident, she had tried to make changes.
It's just that the voice is too weak.
has not had time to let more people hear it.
before the official results of the psychological cause investigation. Brother Yong feels that too much speculation can only be counted as reckless to the deceased. The only certainty of
is the news announced by the agent to the police:
Shirley had suffered from severe depression during her lifetime.
in this case.
is better to understand than standing in line.
Rather than grieve your wrists in vain, it is better to let go of prejudice and start with the simplest question-what is depression
?
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3 billion .
This is the latest global total number of depression patients released by the World Health Organization.
has the patient's own evaluation that depression is a " slow way of death ".
You might think that these 300 million people will be concentrated in the entertainment and art circles.
Indeed, the knives, guns, swords and halberds of the entertainment industry, and the fanaticism of artistic creation are more likely to grow demons.
But if Brother Yong tells you, it is hidden by each of us?
There is a kind of depression called " hyperfunctional depression ".
Patients suffering from this kind of depression may not be as helpless as many clinical patients.
But again, life will be seriously affected by depression.
They are called " smiling depressed patients ".
often shows these 7 signs on them:
cares about time. Even if all the goals are reached, I still feel that all my time is wasted.
often criticizes himself. Feeling that I have not achieved much, self-expected too much, pushing myself to the limit.
thinks too much. Regardless of the severity of the matter, he will constantly overthink.
don't feel understood. Because you can keep your job and fulfill your duties smoothly, you will always be underestimated by others.
is depressed. Most of the time I feel frustrated or indifferent, even when doing interesting things.
responds to negative emotions in unhealthy ways, often by hurting oneself for recreation.
spend too much time amusing. In addition to those unhealthy habits, you may also be addicted to video games, TV shows, or other things.
In 2013, American writer Andrew Solomon gave a speech on TED. The name
is called: " depression: the secret we each hide ".
During the speech, he calmly shared with everyone his personal experience of depression. This is what he said
-
"The opposite of depression is not happiness."
is vitality .
when I heard this sentence. Brother Yong buzzed in his mind.
is the first scene in "The Life of the Disgusted Pine Nut" .
The huge pine nut is carrying snacks, covered in sunlight, sitting alone on a bench by the water.
At that time, what was she thinking about?
pine nuts are not without hope.
On the contrary, her tragic fate is not worthy of her hope.
Since the little sister is weak and lying in bed, her father has pinned all his expectations on her.
seems that no matter what she does, she can't get a smile from her father.
slowly formed a pleasing personality. As long as
is nervous, he will uncontrollably make faces that make his father laugh. The habit of
runs through her life. After growing up,
broke with the family and wandered alone.
She has experienced countless men and countless injuries.
Only one treats her sincerely.
is this one.
also pushed her away because of timidity and weakness.
She has not tried to integrate into society.
can be tossed and turned several times, when he dragged his tired body back home, only two portraits of his sister and his father were left in front of him.
So, so be it.
What else can you miss?
pine nuts lack love.
was not given by her, but by her.
But regarding the eternal question of "love", the answer is inherently different. What's more,
is aimed at the special group of depression.
is more sensitive and slender.
In the second season of "London Life" , the heroine father said to her-
I feel that you know love better than anyone, so you love so painful
In the TED talk, Andrew told us this-
Depression is an accessory to love:
In "Wonderful Flowers" , Ma Dong enlightens the player like this-
, the more he lacks love, a touch of sweetness can fill him with the three golden sentences of
.
is all conclusions, all worldviews.
You may want to ask, where is the methodology? What exactly does
treat them well?
Based on the experience of getting along with depression patients, Brother Yong would like to try to answer with these few words:
What they want is not rough or cautious.
is a trickle.
is not much, but constantly.
if you really want to love them.
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put on the arms of love and welcome the bitter kiss of life. The psychological preparation of
is done.
but physiological? Among the many subtypes of depression, there is a more extreme variant.
Bipolar disorder , the scientific name "bipolar disorder".
In "Wonderful Flowers Conference", a girl named Liu Cola told about her experience of suffering from bipolar disorder.
When you are depressed, you want to commit suicide every day. When you are manic, you will feel like you are standing on top of the world, with super vigorous energy
. A large part of
is also doomed by genes.
is like Ian in the American drama "Shameless Family" .
grew up from the messy and chaotic South District of Chicago, and developed a strong survival skill.
You will think that he is the sunniest and most vital.
But when the hidden spiritual danger from his mother struck, he still had no power to resist.
became energetic, pulling his partner from the stars and the moon to chat with poetry.
will become depressed, and even get up has become more powerful. If
is careless, the beast in your heart will rush out and make an irreparable mistake.
can only rely on the short interval of drug coma to find fleeting peace.
disease is still difficult to survive.
is more difficult. After
's illness is under control, he has to face the chaos he created in the past.
Nominated for the Academy Awards, "Ignorance" tells such a story.
At that time, Adong was emotionally broken and in a trance. He missed and killed his mother who was suffering from illness.
After that, as if the shackles on his mother were passed on to him intact.
was diagnosed with bipolar disorder, received treatment, and was discharged.
is logical.
back to society?
applied for a job, and people heard that he came from " Qingshan" (Hong Kong Mental Hospital) , but politely put his files at the bottom of a pile of documents.
A Dong looked anxiously, to prove that he stillPlayed a slurred word game.
In fact, bipolar is bipolar
(bipolar disorder is bipolar disorder)
and bipolar disorder is bipolar disorder
(bipolar disorder is bipolar disorder)
I can go to bipolar orderly, okay
Emotions)
result?
nodded, curled his lips, and forced a smile in embarrassment.
is embarrassed, smiles, and even gives way.
This is a courtesy given to Adong by everyone who knows the truth. The suffocating kindness of
flooded that subdistrict. What is behind
kindness?
is A Dong chatting with neighbor children on the top floor, which can make the mother of the child panic to the point of madness.
for people with bipolar disorder. All the suggestions and help around
can't be tolerated.
seemed to hit the cotton with a punch.
is hard to vent and hard to understand.
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Actually my life is very...It is the abyss
Anyway, in the abyss of darkness, I pretend to be cheerful and face everyone
. There is a two-sided life
is different from appearance. Am I lying...
What Shirley said when she hosted the show "Night of Bad Criticism" on October 4. The original intention of
is similar to the nature of Hollywood "stars read evil tweets".
focuses on self-deprecating and deriding.
To put it more bluntly, it is a music.
And Shirley participated in the issue a few months ago, and Brother Yong also watched it.
is not difficult to find that she is focused and nervous when reading every bad review.
think seriously and respond seriously.
to say the least.
Faced with negative news, the girl is far less rigid than the outside world looks.
According to Brother Yiyong, Shirley is very brave.
She has dared to admit her vulnerability in public.
and admitted that it was already the first step towards self-help.
Concealing does not mean cowardice.
calling for help does not mean moral kidnapping.
This is just a choice. The basis for choosing
is related to trust .
to others, and to yourself.
look back at some of their lives. The ending of
"Pine Nuts" fell on the first blooming flowers and thick green grass.
At the end of "Ignorance of a Thought", Adong and his father came to the water, quietly staring at the floating branches and leaves and dust.
In the most recent season of "Shameless", Ian, who loves trouble, reunited with his lover in prison.
Andrew stood in front of thousands of people, sharing a new life.
My life is full of vitality
I put myself in various emotions more safely
including negative
said so much. Brother Yong
is not suggesting to everyone which way of living is better.
wanted to state this fact simply.
That is, you are not alone.
looks at the problem completely on the opposite side of depression, and it is often extreme.
tried to put it into a part of the body.
Let it coexist with your breath, become a characteristic of you.
is indistinguishable from tall, short, fat and thin.
has a few more words that Brother Yong wants to tell bystanders.
"It doesn't matter", "It doesn't matter", "It will pass" is not very nutritious. Even
may have the opposite effect.
help them, we must first understand them.
Don't deny their obsession.
What they need is not so complicated, just two sentences:
Even if your life's merits and demerits are equal, you will not find any great meaning.
I will be with you by your side.
