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1, personality clashes just an excuse
Song Hye Kyo Song Zhongji recently divorced, leaving even the hubbub.
All kinds of rumors flew all over the sky. Some people said that Song Hye Kyo had derailed (it was not confirmed); others said that Song Zhongji had a very close relationship with Park before, and even more lies.
Song Zhongji once said that he doesn't like spending money from women, but he has been living in sister Qiao's house after marriage. I also said that the secret to skin care is not to smoke, but I was beaten again.
He first confessed to sister Qiao, "What I want is not to date or fall in love with you, but to marry you. I want to marry you". After the divorce, he declared that "I had mediation to divorce Song Hye Kyo. ".
In South Korea, most applications for divorce mediation are filed by irresponsible parties, meaning "It is your fault, I want to divorce you", which undoubtedly pushed Ms. Qiao to the forefront.
Needless to say, Song Zhongji is the scum man himself.
2, the sunk cost of marriage is low, and the opportunity cost is high
Marriage accounts for a large part of our lives. We ordinary people will not be like Shuangsong, flash marriage and flash away.
is because our sunk cost is relatively large, while the opportunity cost is relatively low.
To put it simply, we don’t have many high-quality replacements, and the cost of getting married was quite high.
is now in love with a lot of red and green, or three catties and twos are enough to crush the father's generation. Ordinary people can only live their lives through gritted teeth, where they dare to divorce.
is different from Song Hye Kyo and Song Joong Ki. They have beauty and money, and they can match too many people.
are both stars who reverse sentient beings, held in the palms of hands by thousands of people, they are idols worshipped by people.
Take Song Hye Kyo for example, whether Hyun Bin or Li Bingxian get along, they are rich handsome men, and they will not be too bad for her. Song Zhongji has a superior family background. Although he made his debut and became famous late, he was loved by a certain big man. Life is like flying in a helicopter.
Two people with a sense of superiority cannot walk together. No one wants to bend over to please another person.
What's more, this one fails, the next one is still waiting. For them, marriage is just an experience.
And we ordinary people will peel off after divorce. Even if you get divorced, you can only get married with a similar person.
has a good saying, why do most people not divorce? Because of poverty, we can only make do together.
3, the higher the expectation, the higher the disappointment
Many people have high expectations for marriage.
After hearing a lot of fairy tales about princes and princesses, I will take it for granted that if the financial resources are equal and the looks are matched, the two can grow old together.
However, there is no good marriage in this world.
Just like Lin Chiling said, the reason why many people are unhappy in marriage is that they have too much expectations for marriage, but often there is as much damage as there are expectations.
I believe that Song Hye Kyo has been unmarried for a long time, not only because of her career ambition, but also because she has a lot of expectations for marriage.
According to Maslow’s demand theory, once a person meets the most basic survival needs, he will have advanced self-realization needs. The marriage of Shuang Song has long lost the function of an economic community, and the spiritual demand it carries is even higher.
often plays the heroine of idol dramas, and it is easy to form an illusion that all men should love themselves, and they are the little princesses of the stars holding the moon. They hug and hug high, being coaxed and cared for.
However, the truth is that everyone is a common man, and he will want to pay in return. No man will pay attention to you all the time, and you will not always be the darling under the spotlight.
As the saying goes, the higher the expectation, the higher the disappointment.
4, fatal attraction before marriage, lethal lethality after marriage
watched a TV "Mist", the male protagonist was deeply attracted by the strong professionalism of the female protagonist.
Later, the heroine knocked out the fetus in her belly because of participating in an important interview.
's tragic and selfish approach made the hero hate it. Two heartsBirth gap, gradually alienated. Is
the heroine changed?
does not. She is still the ambitious and fighting spirit Gao Huilan. But before this attraction has become a fatal destructive force.
is like Song Hye Kyo and Song Joong Ki. I believe that they are both deeply attracted by the characters in the play and forgot to keep their eyes open to see the real counterpart. Perhaps indulging in the applause at the center of the stage, or marveling at the beautiful halo of the other party.
When we are in love, we often fall into the moon halo effect, magnifying the strengths of the other person, thinking that as long as we have love, we can change everything.
However, when they really walked together, they discovered that the other party was also an ordinary person, and they also had all kinds of bad ailments such as greed, anger, ignorance, desire and laziness.
When we only see each other's label and halo, we ignore the real individual. When I found that there was a big gap, I began to doubt the original decision. Is
- really this person?
- Can I find something better?
If we see the truth and don’t have a perfect partner, we might think: How can
- improve the current relationship? How can
- be more intimate?
Different ideas will produce different endings.
Of course, everyone has their own choices and must be responsible for their own choices.
What we have to do is not to expect too much of a person, nor to think too much of a person.
The relationship between people is fragile, and the relationship between husband and wife is only one of many relationships. When two people are found to be incompatible, what should be considered is how to rebuild love.
After all, there is no perfect partner at all, only couples who work together.
hopes that we can all make the right choice, and then work hard to make the choice right.
