"I am fighting against life, why don't I know"? You must have asked this question, and even thought it was absurd. But in fact it is true, because we have been learning how to change since we were young, and we have long been accustomed to being self-centered with the world, so we have lost our inner awareness and can't feel the confrontational relationship between ourselves and life. Of course, this confrontational relationship does not necessarily appear as a specific "battle", but our mentality is always in a "confrontation mode." In the confrontation mode, what we feel must be its reactionary force.
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Don’t accept everything that life gives us, but to fight against life.
If you do not accept everything that life gives you, we are fighting against life. We are full of requirements for life. We want luxury cars and mansions, financial freedom, human status, reputation and status. As long as
still has the idea of "want more", it represents dissatisfaction with the status quo, which is confrontation.
> Not satisfied with the status quo, this is confrontation.
We attach a lot of conditions to happiness, thinking that only what conditions are met can we be happy.
When there is no money, you feel that you are happy when you have money. When there is 100,000 yuan, I feel happy with 1 million yuan. When you are sick, you feel healthy to be happy. When you don’t have a private car, you feel happy if you have a car.
You see, we have never been satisfied with the status quo. So I can't keep happiness. Conditional happiness is always fleeting.
This is to fight against the status quo. The desire to change the status quo is to fight against the status quo. Not submitting to the status quo is the source of pain.
surrendering to life will create miracles of life. Of course, surrendering to the status quo is not doing nothing, but an art of staying in harmony with the status quo. Only by accepting the status quo, the status quo will change. This is wisdom.
Hawking did this.
The scientific giant Hawking sitting in a wheelchair has only a few places in his body that he can move. Compared to a normal person, he is suffering for 10,000 reasons. However, he achieved complete surrender, and we can see that he truly accepted life completely. In this complete acceptance, he created a miracle of life and a miracle in the scientific world.
>Always see the deficiencies of others, this is confrontation.
There are many standards in our minds, so we can always find the shortcomings and mistakes of others, and fail to see the cuteness and perfection of others. When we see these things, do we have a sense of happiness in our hearts? We only experience uncomfortable feelings because love does not flow freely. When we lack love, the power of love is blocked. We are mad at the mistakes of others, while others don't know it.
All existence is perfect, we have seen the error, and we are antagonizing existence. We forget that existence is the essence of reason. When we see the shortcomings of others, we also stimulate the desire to "want to change and reverse", which is a genuine confrontational psychology.
> Judging the world everywhere, this is confrontation.
There are too many people walking on the street, watching a movie is too fake, and buying something is too expensive. Regarding everything, we all have opinions to express, and our minds are filled with judgments of "this is, this is not, this should, and this should not". Judgment is confrontation. There is a saying in
called "put down the butcher knife and become a Buddha". The "butcher knife" mentioned here is actually a metaphor. Judgment is a butcher knife. When we put down the judgment, we put down the butcher knife so that we can see the world. It was heaven.
In the judgment, we can not feel happiness. To judge the world is to oppose the world, to put the world out of our hearts.
> dissatisfied with oneself, this is confrontation.
We are not even satisfied with ourselves. We always want a more individual self, which leads us to compare with others everywhere. We have to own what others have, and we have to be better and more than others. We have been competing with others to be better and more unique than others. This is a veritable confrontation.
When we go to participate in fitness, yoga, and training, we just want to be a better version of ourselves. This is understandable, but first of all, don't forget to accept the true self, the true self. Happiness does not come from comparison, it just brings pain.
Happy people are all people who accept themselves completely, including accepting their imperfections.
Nick Huzhe did this.
Nick Huzhe was born without arms and legs. He only had a little foot with two toes below his left hip. His sister nicknamed it "little drumstick." The father was shocked when he saw his son like this, and even couldn't help running outside the hospital delivery room to throw up. His mother couldn't accept this cruel fact, and didn't dare to hug him until he was four months old.
But he accepted it all, so he changed it all. It all started from his submission and acceptance of reality.
In 2003, graduated from university with a double bachelor degree in accounting and financial planning.
published the inspirational DVD "A Greater Goal for Life" in 2005 and was nominated for the title of "Australia Youth of the Year".
2008 to present. Served as the president and chief executive officer of the international charity organization "Life Without Limbs".
In 2009, the inspirational DVD "Charming and Flirting" was published.
2010 Published the autobiographical inspirational book "Life Without Limitations".
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His classic passage is:
" The saddest thing in life is not to lose limbs, but to have no hope and goal for survival! People often complain about nothing but can't do anything, but if we just remember to think If you have or lack something, and don’t cherish what you have, it will not change the problem at all! It is not our opportunities, but our attitudes that really change our destiny. "
> Want to control life, this is confrontation.
We want to live according to our own ideas, even set the track of life, and make a perfect plan to try to control life. In fact, this is kidnapping life.
Life has its own logic. Life follows the law of integrated operation. Life itself is the embodiment of the Great Way of Heaven and Earth. Only when we see this will we know how to adapt to life.
control is confrontation. In confrontation, we will inevitably be crushed by life. A wise man has no life, because a wise man is "lived".
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Why do we adopt the "confrontation mode"?
The reason why we adopt the confrontation mode is because we believe that only in this way can we obtain everything we need in life. This belief comes from inheritance and education. So that we don't know that we are in "confrontation mode."
We have been used to confrontation since we were young. We have been educated since childhood what kind of people we want to be, what dreams we want to achieve, and what changes we want to make. In fact, this is all telling that the subconscious mind is now imperfect and the status quo needs to be changed.
In addition, we can feel power in confrontation, and we feel that we have a sense of control over life in confrontation. Only by controlling life can life develop according to our track.
In the end, all confrontational behaviors have become subconscious behaviors. We unknowingly adopt confrontation strategies, and unknowingly endure the pain caused by its reaction.
We think that life should be like this. no. The original face of life at is happiness, freedom and peace, and full of love .
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Dismiss the confrontation mode— say "YES" to life .
We think that confrontation can get everything we want. Although we have adopted a confrontational model, our original intention is still to want happiness, but in the wrong way. We just want to get love, happiness, freedom, and peace through confrontation.
In fact, to obtain these, there is no need to use confrontation. What we should learn more is surrender and acceptance. This is a required course in life. There is an American movie in
that is worth watching. The protagonist is Jim Carrey who was once called "American Stephen Chow". The movie's name is "Mr. Good", which is a fineA spiritual film made by the heart. In the
movie, Jim Carrey fell into self-isolation because of the divorce. He alienated his best friend and didn’t even attend the wedding of his friend; he deliberately kept a distance from the company’s boss and was unwilling to approach the company; he always refused to request from customers; he refused to sell to him; he Rejecting the invitation of others...
In short, he almost responded with one word to everyone around him: NO. He said "no" to others everywhere, which made his life worse and worse, and almost lost the joy of life.
In fact, he has always been playing the role of a "victim of life". He hurt everyone around him, and eventually he was hurt.
Until one day... a friend of
tried every means to get him to participate in a large spiritual growth course. The central idea of the course is to teach you how to say "YES" to life, and to treat everything that life gives you with a full acceptance.
When he was forced to learn to say "YES" to the people around him, he changed and magic happened...
He saved his friends, became friends with his boss, and helped all his customers to obtain Amazing performance, got a salary increase and promotion, and finally returned home with beauty.
Although this is a movie, it is a portrayal of real life. There are many real stories in the real world that are more exciting than movies.
Life will never be better because of our confrontation, on the contrary, life will be better only by accepting everything that life gives us.
We are always losers in the confrontation with life, so we can never get eternal happiness in confrontation. The reaction force produced by confrontation with life is the root of the destruction of happiness. What you give to life, life cannot give you anything in return. The
confrontation mode is an out-and-out masochistic mode, a mode of self-seeking pain. Only when the confrontation mode is lifted, the power of love from the source will flow freely in life.
"The Taoists move on the contrary." We just need to do the reverse and face life with a mentality of surrender, acceptance, permission, and tolerance. Life will inevitably feed back to your good side.
Letting go of the desire to change, letting go of the desire to control life, accepting the imperfections in life, letting go of the judgment of the world, letting go of these "butchers" in hand is to release the confrontation mode. Fully accept everything that life gives you, let the change happen naturally, and life will become extremely easy.
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