"The lover does not want to possess the loved one like people possess an object; he prays for a special type of self-containment. He wants to possess a freedom as freedom."-Sartre "Being and Nothingness"
"Love "And the Elixir" is a love movie co-starred by Anne Hathaway and Jack Gyllenhaal. tells the story of Anne Hathaway , who plays the role of Parkinson’s disease, Maggie. She wanted to spend her life “chillly” before she became seriously ill, but she met Jamie, a drug dealer who sold Viagra. There are many funny and warm things that make people feel the beauty and preciousness of love while relaxing watching the movie. The
film is based on the transformation of the American pharmaceutical industry in 1997. In that year, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration approved pharmaceutical companies to advertise on TV, and the drug was transformed into a consumer product. People's need for medicine is no longer the doctor telling you what to eat, but me telling the doctor what I want. This change in the business model of the pharmaceutical industry has stimulated large-scale investment in advertising by pharmaceutical companies, showing a radical and impetuous social atmosphere. And the director strives to demonstrate strong emotional impact through the contrast between the dark side of the profit-seeking mentality and the weak side of emotions in this profit-oriented business environment, and make people have a deeper understanding of the elixir of “love” Understanding.
Below, I will use as the basis for the emotional development of Maggie and Jamie in the film, from the perspective of the two protagonists, combined with the reality, and talk about how to maximize the effectiveness of the elixir of "love".
1. Accepting Maggie before Jimmy: Reject self-pity, accept reality, and maintain an optimistic and positive attitude.
After Maggie suffered from Parkinson's disease, her life has changed drastically. Shaking hands made it difficult to engage in favorite photography work, because Trey was ruthlessly abandoned by his wife Trey because of illness. Parkinson's disease affects life everywhere, eroding self-esteem bit by bit. She thinks that she is not worthy of love, especially when the illness is onset, she madly asks Jimmy:
"Why are you with me? Is it because of what you want to prove? Prove that you are not arrogant? Prove that you are loyal to something for the first time A thing? Prove your sympathy or that you are a good person and be with a sick girl. "
Maggie's lack of self-confidence is not only a torment to herself, but also makes Jimmy careful in giving. In love, we sometimes lose ourselves, magnify our shortcomings, and rationalize the other's shortcomings. Especially when we have obvious defects in ourselves, we will become more cautious and hesitant in the face of love, and even reject any kindness in a antagonistic posture, which hurts ourselves and the other side.
Maggie’s transformation happened when she happened to attend a gathering of Parkinson’s patients. After listening to the various self-deprecations of her patients, she relaxed in laughter, and gradually accepted her reality as a Parkinson’s patient. She walked on the street and had nowhere. Smiling fearfully and saying to Jimmy, "I love you, I love you!", the happiness of love really came. Accept your own shortcomings, admit your own imperfections, and believe that you have the ability to bear this heavy love. is an awakening of self-worth and the beginning of self-goal realization.
Maggie is like thousands of us who are in love. We need to remember that in the face of our own shortcomings, any self-pity and self-pity will not seek happiness in favor, face up to ourselves, face positively, only confident people In order to make love a panacea for suffering.
2. Jimmy before receiving Maggie's response: Bravely giving is a prerequisite for reaping love
Jimmy is a playboy, but when he fell in love with Maggie at first sight, he began to pursue and pay. Faced with Maggie's slander and self-ridicule, Jimmy accepted it completely, accompanied Maggie with all his heart, and approached Maggie step by step, so that she gradually opened her heart and accepted the love bravely, and Jimmy himself left. Game life, a state of inaction, when he tremblingly said "I love you" to Maggie, he also found peace and satisfaction in his heart. Only by giving bravely, it is possible for love to germinate between each other; only by giving bravely, there will beIt is possible to overcome hesitation and estrangement; to give bravely, even after losing in love, you can be frank and open without regrets. We often miss the pure and sincere love in our school days. In fact, we also miss the indomitable and proud self in love at that time.
If you want to travel, don't carry too much luggage. If you want to fall in love, don't be afraid to hear the sound of heartbreak. Be a brave person in both body and mind. While the body is still young and the mind is still transparent, facing the wind, walking, loving, even if this is not your direction, but don’t let yourself stop in place, lamenting the shortness of youth and life Impermanence.
3. Maggie breaks up with Jimmy: idealism and realism in love
In the two-thirds part of the film, when Maggie finally took her own step and bravely accepted Jimmy’s company and love for herself, Jimmy hesitated After communicating with the family of the same Parkinson patient, he fell into self-conflict. On the one hand, he really loves Maggie now. On the other hand, he cannot accept the changes that Maggie will take in the future. "This disease will take away everything you love about her, her body, and her smile. , Her mind, this is not a disease, this is simply a Russian novel." Jimmy had to withdraw from the ideal of beautiful love. Faced with the unknown brought by Parkinson’s disease, he escaped reality and took Maggie in vain. Seek medical attention everywhere. However, when Maggie said loudly: "You want to heal me so much because you are unwilling to accept the fact that you have to take care of me for the rest of your life." The conflict between reality and ideals between the two love is fully revealed.
is like "love and bread" is a topic that has been discussed for a long time, it implies the conflict between realism and idealism. Choosing between "love" or "bread", in fact, the process of making the choice itself will be exhausting. We all desire to have both at the same time, just like Jimmy hopes to have Maggie's love, but hopes Maggie is healthy Maggie, things in the world are always difficult to make. We struggled in every choice, wandering around, wandering again and again .
graduation season, break up season. In the era of the information explosion, we have seen many scandals of abandoning wives and children after they have become so popular, coupled with the awakening of self-consciousness, we choose to face reality, become exquisite egoists in love, and end a relationship for our own future. . Choice has nothing to do with right or wrong, but after many years, will we miss this unsuccessful love, will we still miss the person hidden in the backpack photo?
4. Maggie and Jimmy compound: Two thoughts on managing love
①. The balance in love is always equal
Maggie left, Jimmy was promoted, but he was not happy. After seeing Maggie's video, he understood In my heart, I rushed out to find Maggie and confessed deeply, not "I love you" but "I need you", the two embraced each other deeply. The true love of must be paid and obtained together. The two need each other and grow together. At the same time Maggie gave Jimmy the feeling that he was needed, thinking that he was good enough and that he was worthy of care. Being needed is also a kind of happiness, and being loved by someone needs it, and effort becomes meaningful in an instant. The balance in love is always equal.
②. It is love, not possession. I want you to be free
Maggie said sadly: "I need you more than you need me." What Maggie longs for is Jimmy who is free, not Jimmy who is bound by responsibility. She needs to accept Jimmy's love without any guilt. When Jimmy said that even if you will leave me first after all, I will say goodbye to you calmly, and Maggie discards all worries and accepts this love calmly and openly. It can be said that running a love with a simple sense of responsibility is painful to each other. What I need at is to be your lover, not the burden of life that you have to follow public order, good customs, and moral ethics. I don’t want to To possess you, I just want to get the free you with free love in this equal relationship.
Lin Yihan, author of "Fang Siqi's First Love Paradise", delivered a speech at the wedding: "I have been with B in the past few years, and the biggest thing taught me is actually only two words, which is equality. When I am with B , I am his girlfriend, but not his "girlfriend". I am his fiancée, but not his "fiancée". I am willing to be himWife, but I am not his "wife". I sit back and enjoy his love, but I will not take him for granted.
5. In conclusion, the
film will eventually have lovers who are married. As a love movie, it may seem a bit cliché. However, I hope that every viewer can get the comfort of his own soul from the relationship between Maggie and Jimmy. I hope everyone will be more courageous, more confident, and more calmly to manage or welcome a relationship. Finally, I will give you a paragraph at the end of the film:
Rand said, I have imagined who I will be when I grow up countless times. Some things you want most never happen, but some things you never expected. Happened. If you meet 1,000 people, one may not necessarily move you, but one day, if you meet someone, you can change your life. (And then you meet that one person and your life is changed. Forever.")
