The role of Zhang Zhizhi in the TV series "Dear Myself" is interesting. There is a problem with the education of the children and the marriage with Liu Yang. She has been trying to please others. The appearance of the mother-in-law completely exposed their marital problems. In fact, all the problems are that Liu Yang doesn't pay enough attention to her. Ji Ji felt that Zhang Zhizhi's marriage was too casual. Today we will talk about Zhang Zhizhi's marriage.
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Liu Yang and Zhang Zhizhi had problems with the couple, and the appearance of their mother-in-law was a catalyst for their conflict. The mother-in-law always wanted them to have a second child, preferably a boy. She got a recipe for Zhang Zhizhi to drink.
Zhang Zhizhi was unwilling. The first time she wanted to decline, her mother-in-law refused to give in, and the bowl fell to the ground and broke. The mother-in-law played a fine upper body, and the husband came over and began to blame her. Then the mother-in-law said that there was still medicine residue and let her drink. She was unwilling to ask her husband for help. Husband told her to drink quickly, don't have trouble. She can only drink. During the night, I had diarrhea three times. The next day I was not energetic, and my mother-in-law still let her drink in the morning. Because she had to go to work and her mental state was not good, her mother-in-law still forced her. At this time, she asked her husband for help. Husband took her request for help as air.
At this time, she is even more difficult. Her mother-in-law's embarrassment to her is mainly the attitude of her son. Liu Yang's attitude is acquiescence. Your mother-in-law can treat her mother whatever she wants, and the daughter-in-law must be kind to her mother.
does not want to have a second child, but Liu Yang does not want to. At this time, as a son, she should explain to her mother herself. He knew that he could not give birth to a son, and the root of the problem was not in Zhang Zhizhi, and Zhang Zhizhi did not need to take medicine. But in order to make his mother happy, Zhang Zhizhi must endure this pain. In this matter, Liu Yang did not have a man's responsibility at all. For his own problems, he chose to escape and threw the pot to his wife.
Whether a man treats her daughter-in-law well depends on how he handles the conflict between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If the man's heart is there, then his wife must bear the grievance. After this kind of grievance is long, problems will arise in the marriage.
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It's difficult for mother-in-law, and her husband can't figure it out. Zhang Zhizhi's marriage is too casual. When Chen Yiming proposed to Li Siyu, Zhang Zhizhi told Liu Yang that he married you without even having the wedding. No diamond ring, no flowers. Liu Yang immediately retorted that you don't like those things. Which girl doesn't like those things. If Zhang Zhizhi didn't like it, she would not envy Li Siyu. When he said this, Liu Yang didn't feel any guilt at all.
The wedding they lack, the diamond ring they lack, and the ritual sense of marriage. Zhang Zhizhi married Liu Yang casually.
Looking back at Chen Yiming and Li Siyu, Chen Yiming’s proposal failed, and Li Siyu’s counter-proposal, Chen Yiming did not agree. But their marriage proposals are full of ritual.
Chen Yiming's proposal to Li Siyu was carefully prepared. If there was no accident that day, Li Siyu agreed. Her anti-marriage proposal is the same. Although simple, it took a lot of energy. The sense of ritual is the importance of the other party. In the marriage of Zhang Zhizhi and Liu Yang, there was never a sense of ceremony. Rather than saying that Zhang Zhizhi doesn't like those things, it is better to say that Liu Yang doesn't value Zhang Zhizhi.
Zhang Zhizhi never asked for those things. Liu Yang took it for granted, and her mother took it for granted. It is too easy to get, and I will not cherish it at all.
Zhang Zhizhi asked Liu Yang for help and did not resist directly because she loved Liu Yang. That was Liu Yang's mother. She gave Liu Yang's mother respect and face, but they didn't care about her feelings.
A person who really cares about you will not always make you wronged. During this relationship, Liu Yang wronged Zhang Zhizhi, and Zhang Zhizhi also wronged Liu Yang. Don't let grievances become a habit, men will have an inch.
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Liu Yang and Zhang Zhizhi had a conflict, and Zhang Zhizhi kept giving in. Even to please. Liu Yang did not approve of her daughter's education. But he blindly criticized and satirized. His attitude towards Zhang Zhizhi was full of impatience. If the husband and wife discuss it carefully, Zhang Zhizhi's may not insist on his own opinions. Liu Yang's compromise was that he didn't want to care about these things at all. While compromising, I feel pressured. Full of complaints to Zhang Zhizhi. To put it bluntly, Liu Yang is an irresponsible father.
Chen Yiming is different from Li Siyu. Sister Ziru decided to bear the loss by herself and don't think about losing money. Siyu felt that he could save a lot of money, so he agreed. Chen Yiming told Li Siyu that this would not work. The two people have different opinions, but they have rare patience. Li Siyu accepted Chen Yiming's suggestion. She will feel it when you really think about and consider the other person.
When two people are together, they have their own tempers, and they will quarrel, but the attitude is very important.
In this relationship, Liu Yang has always considered himself. Zhang Zhizhi's view of educating children is wrong, and he blames Zhang Zhizhi. Zhang Zhizhi has no time to take care of the children, and she still blames Zhang Zhizhi. When his mother came without saying hello, he still blamed Zhang Zhizhi.
Only an incompetent man will always blame his wife. Zhang Zhizhi has been in courting and grieving. I don't know how long she can persist.
If you love someone else, don’t marry her casually. The wedding is not important, what is important is his heart for you. The sense of ritual is not important, what matters is his attitude towards you.
