If there is a violent incident at home, analyze the cause first and use it as a reference to prevent the recurrence of the violent incident. There is a violent incident at
, and sometimes it is because of my own problems. When the other party is reasoning with you, nothing makes sense. The other party is anxious, angry, and can't find a way, so he has to beat you up. Anyway, you are a cow, and the other party is arguing with you as if playing the piano to a cow, and finally you have to use a whip; when you get hurt, you will naturally beg for mercy and obey. This kind of person was beaten because he was stubborn and spoke too sharply, so he was beaten.
Sometimes it is not a conflict between the two parties, but the other party's heart is not balanced, and want to find a partner to vent.
No matter what the situation is, it is not right to hit someone. The party who was hit should first analyze the cause and then prevent it. As for how to prevent it?
After a violent incident, some people just tolerate it blindly, and if they can bear it, there will be nothing wrong at the time. However, the more you tolerate, the more the other party thinks that he is justified, as if the party who forbears it is at a loss. Therefore, the more you take it, the more violence will be next time.
Therefore, once a violent incident occurs, after the violent party becomes calm, talk to him frankly and ask him why he did it. Fighting is just a momentary vent of grievances, and it cannot solve the problem. After hitting someone, the internal problems still exist. The two parties have a cordial talk to find a solution to the same problem next time.
If two people have a cordial talk and cannot agree, find a third person to be the peacemaker.
The peacemaker must be someone who can be trusted by both, and then he should be righteous to the two, and the family must be the most important thing. If you go to the police station or go to the court, the problem will be very troublesome; The mirror is still broken, it can't be as good as ever.
If you go to court, you would have been a close relative, but in the end it would be a stranger, which is really not worthwhile. In the
family, there will inevitably be frictions between people, but it is very bad to hit people with hands, and it will knock down family and affection. If it is the one who was beaten, you should also conduct a self-examination, and then talk to the other party, or ask your trusted relatives and friends to come forward to help solve the problem. Don't go into the police station or sue the court in a huff, making things very stiff and difficult to recover. . Everyone lives under the same roof, why bother?
——Excerpted from Master Shengyan's "Drum Bells"
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