Don't do small things for good, do not do small things for evil. ——From "The History of the Three Kingdoms·Shu Shu·Biography of the First Master"
The most unbearable thing for parents is to see their children being bullied and excluded. Faced with such a situation, what is the correct approach for parents?
Before Qin Hao was on the show, he cried because his daughter Mi Li was bullied. The daughter of
was timid and just transferred to a new school. The classmates did not say hello to her and ignored her.
is even often bullied by a little boy. The cause of
was that a little boy accidentally hit his daughter once. The daughter of
is very smart and immediately reported to the teacher. The teacher immediately asked the boy to apologize, and the matter was quickly resolved.
did not expect that this incident became the fuse for her daughter to be targeted.
Since then, the boy will hit the rice grains intentionally or unintentionally every day.
In a dance class, the little boy deliberately invaded his daughter's position and pressed her into the corner of the wall. The most distressing thing about
is that the daughter did not even resist, she shrank weakly, pressed against the wall, and waved to her mother with a smile. When
heard this, Qin Hao on the side collapsed instantly, hiding his face and couldn't help crying.
both wanted to get justice for their daughter, but Mother Qin on the side felt that they were making a fuss:
"Children, you have to suffer a little frustration, and you will pass it after you endure it. The important thing is to educate the child well."
Finally, Qin Hao asked helplessly:
"When you have a child, you are always bullied at school, and you talk to teachers and parents, and you are still bullied, then what do you do?"
Yes! We never know how much she needs parents at the moment her child is bullied.
"School violence" is something that many children face, and it is also a topic that parents cannot leave behind.
will make the child fall into an endless abyss because of a wrong step.
Earl College talks about our views on this topic:
First of all, we can understand the feelings of Qin Hao and his wife, and I even believe that many parents will deal with this problem in the same way. .
Parents took their children to find other parents for theory, and after venting their emotions, they dragged their children away.
Indeed, as parents, children are the softest part of our hearts.
We do not want our children to be wronged, we want to give them the best protection. However, over-protection makes children irrespective of true and false, turning black and white.
We think that what we do for our children will be their disaster, with endless troubles.
Secondly, the child will mistakenly think that he has a high status in the family and feel that parents have the protection of parents when encountering any difficulties, thus losing the ability to deal with things independently and eventually becoming a "mabao".
Finally, parents focused on the wrong point. When a child is bullied, the most important thing to care about is the child's emotions. For children who are bullied, if they do not deal with it in time, they will have negative feelings such as low self-esteem and timidity; for children who are bullied, without proper education, the children will become more arrogant and grumpy and other bad behaviors. .
As children grow older and come into contact with society, they will meet all kinds of people, and they will experience more unexpected things in the future. What will the children do then?
In the popular TV series "In the Name of Family" these days, Jianjian Dad was rated as "Model Dad" by the majority of netizens. Jianjian fights with the children, and her father's approach is worth promoting.
The little fat man bullied Ziqiu and went up to help. The three children scuffled into a ball. The little fat mother came to the house to argue, but it didn't play a positive role.
and pointed father's words not only made the little fat man realize his mistakes, but also ended a children's war. He also offered to ask the little fat man to come to the noodle shop often to eat noodles, which perfectly calmed the children's emotions.
As parents, we bring our children into the world, yesI hope they have a good life, not to let them be bullied, nor to let him learn to always fight back with violence.
We want our children to have the upbringing of not beating, but we must also have the aura of not being bullied.
Earl College believes that what our parents can do and what we should do in the face of children being bullied should be to prevent problems before they happen, and teach them feasible solutions.
You cannot decide others, but you can protect yourself.
When a child is bullied, Piaget College suggests the following three methods:
Method 1: Let the child "fight back"
On the way the child grows up, conflicts and conflicts are inevitable.
Instead of shielding children from wind and rain and taking care of everything, it is better to teach children how to deal with it.
"Teaching children how to fight back" is not a simple power contest, not a win-or-lose game where you win and I lose.
Instead, let the child have the courage to overcome difficulties, train the child's strong heart, and exercise the child's ability to behave and deal with things in society.
Method 2: Let the child say "no" out loud
teach the child to say "no"! Look at each other with your eyes straight, with your chest akimbo, and an "I am not easy to mess with."
then said fiercely:
· "Stop! Don't bully me anymore, or I will hit you!"
· "You hit me again, I will fight back!"
· "You said someone else What is it, what you are!"
parents lead their children to practice cruelty a few more times, so that the child can "return" with confidence next time.
Under normal circumstances, under the deterrence of language, ordinary children's fight will be quickly stopped.
Method 3: Be a solid backing for your child
Please be a parent that your child can rely on in his heart. When your child is bullied or hurt by bullying, you are willing to talk to you, so that you will not raise someone who hurts others because of depression. child.
When the child tells his parents that he has been bullied and beaten, parents must pay attention to it, and gently ask why the child is being bullied, and tell him not to be afraid. You are the most precious to your parents, and whoever bullies you comes back to your mother. "revenge". (The revenge here is not to use violence to control violence, but to give children a sense of security.)
After the incident, we can get to know the situation with the teacher and be responsible to other children and even our own children.
We want our children to know that no matter what happens, parents will always be their strongest backing.
Parents' positive response will give their children unlimited courage.
strives to make the children strong, and then face the world gently. This may be a compulsory lesson that every parent needs to teach their children.
The Juvenile Rebellious Behavior Correction Center of Earls College stated that if you find that your child is facing bullying on campus, being bullied by classmates, unwilling to communicate with family members, psychological problems and other adolescent behaviors, and you can’t do anything about it, you can ask our psychological tutor to call Psychological hotline for professional help.
Earl College helps you break out of the "reincarnation" of the old model,
easily start a new life!
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