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A few days ago, Ma Yili appeared for the first time since divorcing the article. The photo shows that he is in good condition, dressed casually, showing intellectual beauty, and his temperament and acting skills are always online.
At 43 years old, she did not give up because of her marriage failure, but adjusted her state in time to make herself better. Such a woman is admirable.
is that sentence. When God closes the door for you, he will definitely open a window for you.
Although Ma Yili's marriage is not happy, her career is in full swing now, plus two lovely children, she is a winner in life.
Looking back at her ex-husband’s article, on the first few days of the divorce, some netizens saw the article borrowing wine from friends to relieve their sorrows. In the photo, the rough and sloppy look is not at all that handsome and radiant article.
Looking at the current status of the article, and comparing Ma Yili's current state, I have to sigh: after the divorce of , to make yourself better is the biggest revenge against the ex-husband.
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"Titanic" director James Cameron has had five marriages. What impressed me the most was his emotional entanglement with his third wife, Catherine Bigelow.
Catherine Bigelow is a talented film director. Soon after they dated Cameron, the two got married.
But unfortunately, after getting married, the two had friction due to their different opinions and thoughts, and their feelings appeared to be cracked. And this marriage only lasted two years and ended in a hurry.
20 years after divorce, the two met again at the 82nd Academy Awards.
And this time the awards, the most eye-catching is the final competition between "Hurt Locker" and "Avatar". The directors of these two films are Catherine Bigelow and James Cameron, the former husband and wife.
After some competition, Catherine Bigelow lived up to expectations and won the Best Director Award. She gave her ex-husband a severe blow, and it can be regarded as a perfect end to the relationship between the two.
For Catherine, after the divorce, she did not deliberately retaliate against her ex-husband. Catherine chose to forget. All she did was to work hard, to hone herself, and to improve herself. Everything went with the flow. Finally in 20 years After that, I handed in a satisfactory answer.
With a perfect turn, she hit everyone who had looked down on her.
makes the ex-husband regret it, which is probably what most women love to see after divorce, and the best revenge is to make themselves better.
Compared with making yourself better, there is another kind of person who takes the opposite path.
After the divorce, she would always talk about the fact that her ex-husband abandoned her. She gave up on herself and washed her face in tears all day long. In the end, her ex-husband’s life did not change, but she herself became more and more deeply involved in this relationship. .
If this is the case, then it means that you have entered a misunderstanding. No matter how much you hate the person who abandons you in your heart, if you want to understand a truth, no matter how you curse him, abuse him, or spit on him, you can’t change it. The fact that you are divorced.
If so, why not look forward? It is no good for you to struggle with the past.
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The famous poet Xu Zhimo, he had emotional entanglements with three women in his life, the first was his wife Zhang Youyi, the second was Lin Huiyin, and the third was Lu Xiaoman.
can be said that his life revolves around three women, but what he is most sorry for is his wife Zhang Youyi.
In 1915, 15-year-old Zhang Youyi married 18-year-old Xu Zhimo, but they did not know each other before marriage, let alone love. After
got married, Xu Zhimo was not good to Zhang Youyi, and even called her a soil bun.
Zhang Youyi gave birth to Xu Zhimo's first child when he was 18 years old, and gave birth to his second child when he was 22 years old, but at that time Xu Zhimo was fighting with Lin Huiyin and even divorced Zhang Youyi for Lin Huiyin. .
Although Xu Zhimo is a great poet, he is very irresponsible in terms of feelings. zAfter 4z
's divorce, Zhang Youyi traveled to Germany with a broken heart. Studying while working and learning fluent German, her serious life philosophy fits the strict work style of Germany, she has found confidence and a support point in life.
Later Xu Zhimo also mentioned in a letter to a friend that Zhang Youyi is an ambitious and large number of women. From his words, it can be seen that he owes Zhang Youyi something.
Fortunately, Zhang Youyi is strong and used her ability to make her ex-husband look at her with admiration.
If Zhang Youyi has been noisy after the divorce, it will definitely not end like this.
When you are stung by life and love, using harm to consume each other is the worst choice, which can only cause both sides to lose.
To forgive others is to forgive yourself. Give others a way, and you will find that your path is also bright.
So when a person says he doesn't love you anymore, you don't have to cry bitterly, you don't have to entangle yourself, and you don't have to be afraid of changing your inherent lifestyle.
In a sense, we like a person, we will always find another person to replace, and this premise is to make ourselves better.
If you are in full bloom and the breeze comes, when you no longer feel sad and happy because of the coming and going of others, it is the best rebirth and happiness for a divorced woman.
Liu Ruoying as Zhang Youyi
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Then, after the divorce, how can a woman make herself better?
Let yourself be financially independent first.
Su Hei once said, “A truly happy woman must have the following conditions: financial independence, emotional stability, independent thinking ability, and a fulfilling spiritual world. From here, we can see the importance of economic independence. Sex.
Therefore, after divorce, a woman wants to make herself better, first of all, to make her financial ability better.
can start with interest as a starting point, start with the little things within her own capacity, and feed first Get yourself, and slowly develop in the direction of financial freedom.
Carefully observe, you will find that a financially free person, her troubles will be much less than those who are destitute.
because when a woman is financially independent, she can control Own resources are more, so when encountering things, the ability to solve problems will be stronger, material abundance can make us live more decently.
Therefore, after a woman's divorce, the top priority It is to solve the economic problem first, the economic problem is solved, and everything else will gradually get better.
adjust your emotions
women are emotional, especially when they encounter some major blows, they may not be able to control their emotions. .
A woman, there is no need to sink into a divorce and give up on her own. Losing him may be a good start for you.
Falling in love is a fate, so separation is also a fate, if you can figure this out , Maybe the road will be better.
University of California, Davis research found that if you work hard every day to cultivate an attitude of gratitude, you can improve mood, boost energy, and even get a healthier physical condition.
So, in the process , You have to abandon some negative thoughts, don’t feel that your marriage has failed, and then just like the sky is falling down.
marriage failure has nothing to do, the most important thing is that you recognize this person, since he can lose, then Explain that this person is not the most important to you. It is better to lose earlier than to lose later. Long-term pain is better than short-term pain.
After the divorce, you have to abandon some "I can't do anything, I can't do anything well". Express, but tell yourself "I can do it, I can, I will definitely be able to find someone better than him."
When you have this mentality, you will find that your life is full of brilliance.
re Meet some people and integrate into a new circle. The
circle is very important to each of us. If you are surrounded by millionaires, then you are with them and your incomeEntry is not too bad, so it is easier to change your status quo if you are close to those with positive energy.
After a woman is divorced, it is easy for a woman to touch the scene in a certain period of time. If she sees the previous environment, it is easy to recall the scene of two people together.
So in this situation, you can change your living environment, re-acquaint some people, integrate into a new circle, and make your life full.
When a person gets busy, he naturally ignores other things. After a long time, I gradually forget it.
is written at the end:
women must understand that marriage is not your all-reliance. If you want to dominate your own happiness, you must know how to practice love into a kind of ability that you can afford and let go.
Marriage failure is not terrible. The terrible thing is that after this, you become self-deprecating, decadent and sinking.
If this is the case, not only will your ex-husband not pity you, but also despise you. In this world, no one has the obligation to like you all the time.
On the contrary, if you behave yourself after the divorce, not only will your ex-husband look up to you, you may even look back for reconciliation. In this world of
, what kind of result you want is your own choice.
For a divorced woman, no matter how the outside world changes, focusing on being herself and making herself better is the best revenge against her ex-husband.
