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Recently, Anne Hathaway's latest American drama "Modern Love" was released. She played a bipolar disorder in the play, and her excellent acting skills have won many praises.
Anne Hathaway is an American actor that I admire very much. The British movie "One Day" starring her has always made me remember.
"One Day" tells a love story that spans 20 years: the heroine Emma has a crush on Dexter since college, but Dexter stays at the stage when her lover is not full, Emma hides her true feelings for Dexter. , Their communication has become relaxed and casual.
They make an appointment to meet on July 15th each year to talk about life. This agreement lasted for 15 years, during which the lives of the two people had tortuous reversals. The male protagonist fell from glory. He indulged in the glitzy Vanity Fair, and finally lost the way forward; the female protagonist became wise and strong after the tempering of life, she grew into a better self, enough to match the once brilliant man the Lord. The movie
gives us such a revelation: should do everything possible to make yourself better under any circumstances. Only in this way will true love get closer and closer to us. It took 15 years for
to complete the transition from friendship to love. The heroine's love for the heroine has never changed. Why can't she be brave to confess earlier? Next, I will interpret the realistic meaning of this movie by analyzing the heroine’s identity and her growth process: In the third part of the article, I will talk about three suggestions for girls to establish a correct outlook on love.
01 There are three reasons why the heroine Emma does not dare to insist on true love: she is ordinary and unattractive, she has an inferiority complex from a working family, and her long-term unwillingness after entering the society. . The handsome and handsome Dexter is a well-known playboy in the school, and Emma is a humble girl. Dexter became interested in the unfamiliar Emma, and even thought about it.
Later, they hugged and kissed Emma's residence, but Dexter stopped at the critical moment. Dexter explained: It is more appropriate for two people to be friends. Emma smiled and agreed, and they cuddled up and talked and laughed all night like best friends. For the next 20 years from
, Emma has been deeply in love with Dexter but dare not confess, the reason is: she feels that she is not worthy of Dexter.
First of all, Emma thinks she looks ordinary and has no charm to attract Dexter, which leads her to adopt an evasive attitude towards love.
Emma, who just appeared on the stage, wears glasses, a sparse hairstyle, a rustic dress, and a humble look on her face. They are university alumni, and Emma knows everything about Dexter, and Dexter doesn't even know Emma's name. It can be seen that Emma has been paying attention to and admiring Dexter for a long time. But she looks mediocre, and has never entered the school's grass-level figure Dexter's eyes. Therefore, although she has a crush on Dexter, she is only secretly thinking about it.
Then, when the two of them were preparing to spend a romantic spring night, Emma left temporarily under the pretext of brushing her teeth. In the bathroom, she said to herself: "Concentrate, don't mess up." Through her words and deeds, we can see that Emma is nervous. They are not confident and worry that they are not attractive. And her hesitation and lack of self-confidence caused Dexter to lose interest. The euphemistic refusal of
Dexter left a psychological shadow on the delicate and sensitive Emma: Since then, thinks she lacks charm and closed the door to love, and no longer expects Dexter's love.
Secondly, Emma was born in a working family, and Dexter comes from a middle-class family. The difference in class has become the gap that lies between them.
After graduating from university, Emma, a poor girl, went to London alone. She could only rent a dilapidated house. Although she wanted to be a writer, in order to survive, she had to go to the restaurant to work as a waiter.
Dexter, with a superior family, has no pressure for survival or employment. The first thing he does after graduating from university is to travel to India, enjoy life, and witness the wider world. Emma is naturally aware of the gap like
, and she carefully guards the insurmountable boundary between the two people. Regarding emotion, although the heart is unwilling, but also helpless.
Once again, after entering the society, Emma has been living a low-level life for a long time. She is already very anxious just to survive, and she has no time for real love. Although
graduated from a prestigious school, it is not easy for a girl with no background to survive in London. Emma has been a waiter for many years. During the tiring process of serving the dishes, she was often restless and complaining.
Although she did not lose her passion for life, compared with Dexter, who became popular in the TV industry immediately after graduation, her situation is obviously far worse. In contrast, Emma, who was already inferior, had no more thoughts about Dexter.
In short, 's ordinary appearance, humble family background and unsatisfactory social situation have aggravated Emma's unconfident psychology. Faced with Dexter, who has outstanding appearance, good background, and successful career, Emma's sense of inferiority has expanded infinitely. She would rather fall in love with a boring man who she doesn't love, but with the same conditions, than being rejected by Dexter again.
02 Ordinary girl Emma’s road to self-reliance: relying on her own strength to gain a foothold in London, become a respected teacher, never forget her dream, and eventually become a best-selling author
Austrian psychologist Adler in his famous book "Inferiority complex" "And Beyond" says:
"Every one of us has different degrees of inferiority complex, because we all want to make ourselves better and live a better life." Emma, an inferiority complex, has never stopped working hard to make herself better .
Emma struggled deeply in the quagmire of society for a long time after graduation. There was pain and confusion, but she did not give up. With her own abilities and persistence in her dreams, her life is gradually on the right track.
The hardships of entering the society at first made Emma grow up quickly and his thinking has become more and more mature. She learns the rules of survival in society and makes herself better and better.
In the first step, she relied on her own strength to gain a foothold in London and stayed in the big city
she wanted to graduate from university. Emma came to London, where she was unfamiliar with her life, and wanted to fight her own world in the big city. From her choice of London, it can be seen that Emma is a thoughtful and unwilling girl.
Brightly lit London is not friendly to young Emma. Her major is English literature, but she cannot find a suitable job in London. In order to stay, Emma is willing to become a waiter. It can also be seen from this: Emma is a strong-willed, tenacious girl.
In the second step, Emma kept learning, got rid of the profession of waiter, and became a teacher with more social status. The boring life of
day after day did not kill Emma's combat effectiveness. The reality of living in London for many years told her: Instead of sighing for the unattainable dream, it is better to face the reality and improve the situation in her life within her own ability.
Later, she passed the teacher qualification examination, became a teacher, and finally stabilized. From then on, we found that Emma's smiling faces increased, and no more complaints. The determination of the teacher's identity is a turning point in Emma's destiny. This may not be able to remove Emma's low self-esteem from the root, but she has more confidence and determination in the future.
The third step is that Emma, who has never forgotten her original intention, finally achieved her life goal of being a writer.
From the very beginning, Emma's dream of becoming a writer is to become a writer. Although the cruel reality has given her many blows, at the same time It also gave her a lot of life experience and spiritual touch. For a writer, the life experience at the bottom is a constant source of creation. After
became a teacher, Emma, who had tolerated for many years and was indomitable, had time and energy to create her own literary works. Her book was published and her dream for many years was realized. She became more and more beautiful and full of charm. Later, Emma went to Paris, a mecca of art, with a musician boyfriendFriend.
So far, Emma, a girl from the slum, has completed a perfect counterattack. Through her own efforts, she is enough to match the excellent Dexter.
03 Emma’s growth experience gives us inspiration: what kind of love should be established, and 3 suggestions for girls
① look at yourself comprehensively and overcome the influence of inferiority complex on emotions
Inferiority complex is common, and everyone will be different for various reasons Degree of inferiority complex. The inferiority emma played the role of a spare tire in this relationship. Until Dexter's career was frustrated and divorced, he lost all his aura and proud capital, and Dexter showed his sincerity to Emma, and their relationship had a turnaround. At that moment, Emma completely tore off the label of inferiority: she has become a well-known writer, but Dexter is middle-aged in embarrassment and has nothing.
In fact, if Emma can look at herself comprehensively and objectively, she will know how important she is to Dexter for a long time. Although Dexter has a glamorous appearance, only Emma can share his loneliness and depression. The degree of understanding between Emma and Dexter can be regarded as a spiritual partner. If Emma can look at the affection between them more rationally, maybe they don't need to miss it for so many years.
In real life, we will also see the negative effects of inferiority complex on relationships and marriage.
Tong Liya is a stunning beauty, but because of her low self-esteem, she actually feels that she is not good-looking and is not good enough for Chen Sicheng. Even if her husband did something sorry for her, she endured her, and her marital status was once worrying.
Later, Tong Liya changed her hair style and adjusted her mentality. She was completely reborn and treated her feelings more calmly. She no longer let her inferiority complex be swayed, and she no longer suffers from gains and losses.
②When you encounter true love, you have to be brave enough to say that
missed a lot, because of mutual temptation, instead of confession. On the night when they met at their classmates’ wedding, Emma and Dexter, dressed in blue cheongsam, had a long conversation on the balcony. Dexter handed Emma an invitation letter and he was getting married. Emma was in a low mood. At the moment of hugging, she held back the tears in her eyes, but offered blessings in her mouth.
Emma and Dexter's eyes are full of nostalgia and sadness, their kisses have long crossed the border of friends. That's not true love, so what is it?
At that time, as long as one person bravely expresses the love in his heart, their relationship may change afterwards, and they will avoid many detours. However, they both chose to be silent: instead of pursuing vague love, it is better to hold on to real friendship.
In the classic Japanese movie "Love Letter": The male Fujii has a crush on the female Fujii when he was a student. He has many opportunities to confess, but he swallows it every time. Many years later, when the female Fujii tree saw the male Fujii tree painted her portrait, she suddenly realized that, at that time, the male Fujii tree had passed away for a long time, which was embarrassing.
In the process of chasing love, even if you have a good heart, you still need to express exactly through language. Otherwise, unnecessary misunderstandings and mistakes will occur. If you love him, tell him, not say nothing.
③Never stop working hard, make yourself better enough to match that person
Emma was not so good at first, but she made herself better and better through her efforts. When Ai turned her head to look after her, she had enough confidence to meet her.
From waiter to teacher, from teacher to writer, Emma is moving forward and growing. We saw the struggle history of a civilian girl. What hinders us from moving forward is never the present dilemma, but the barriers in our hearts.
If we meet someone who is better than ourselves, we will try to make ourselves better enough to match the TA. Just like the heroine Xiao Shui in the Thai movie "The Little Thing of First Love", she was just an ugly duckling at first, but she worked hard to make herself better and better, becoming a beautiful white swan, and finally When you first love, love is complete. When
first broke the relationship between Kunling and Jay Chou, netizens agreed that Kunling was not worthy of Jay Chou. For this reason, Kunling received many attacks. However, in recent years, we have seen that Kunling’s career is booming, and her aura is getting stronger and stronger, which is completely different from the weak girl in the impression..
Just imagine, if Emma is not enterprising and still works as a waiter in a restaurant, how can she and Dexter meet again in the future?
04 Conclusion
This movie ends in tragedy. Emma and Dexter finally married two years later. Emma died in a traffic accident, leaving Dexter in distress.
But the ending does not affect our interpretation of the heroine Emma: We have felt the confusion, hesitation and overwhelming emotions of an ordinary girl in the face of emotions. We have seen the path of growth and endeavor of a poor British student after graduating from university.
missed for more than 10 years, together for 2 years, really made us feel very resentful.
"If we weren't so stubborn then, we wouldn't be so sorry now."
Be a better version of yourself, don't entangle, don't hesitate, and be brave to love! Only in this way can life be less senseless and more happiness and beauty.
encourage!
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