On November 9, the TV series "Alley People" was updated to episode 22. In the latest plot content, teacher Zhuang Chaoying had a conflict with her daughter Zhuang Xiaoting due to issues such as whether to go to her grandma's house and whether she was going there too late, and the

On November 9, the TV series " Alley People " was updated to episode 22. In the latest plot content, teacher Zhuang Chaoying had a conflict with her daughter Zhuang Xiaoting due to issues such as whether to go to her grandma's house and whether she was going there too late, and they beat Zhuang Xiaoting. Fortunately, Lin Dongzhe's protection prevented Zhuang Xiaoting from being beaten. I can see that this scene has generated a large-scale discussion among the audience. Especially the female audience rebuked Zhuang Chaoying.

Correspondingly, many female viewers are very sympathetic to the character of Li Jia in "Alley People" and believe that she is an inspirational role model for women. She knows what she wants and can achieve it through her own efforts. When my parents from the Northeast were brought to Shanghai, they could figure out the direction of their relationship with Zhuang Tunan, know what kind of fiancé to choose, etc.

sympathizes with Li Jia and looks down on Zhuang Chaoying, which has reached a general consensus among some female viewers. However, this consensus, in my opinion, is nothing more than the evil mother-in-law thinking model. Looking at the work "Alley People", if we insist on finding villains, then the father-in-law and mother-in-law are the biggest villains. Especially the mother-in-law takes on more dramatic tasks as a villain. Although she is a woman, her mother-in-law is the most patriarchal and knows who is most useful to her. Under this situation, I actually think that the female viewers who sympathize with Li Jia and look down on Zhuang Chaoying will sooner or later become such evil mothers-in-law.

Let's first analyze where the mother-in-law's evil is reflected in "Alley People". On the surface, her evil is mainly reflected in the sacrifice of her daughter, and at the same time, it is also reflected in the oppression of her eldest son. If you look at it from the perspective of Huang Ling , the evil of this mother-in-law is also reflected in her inability to balance a bowl of water and always favoring her younger son's family. If you have a son, you have to sacrifice your daughter. This is a common characteristic of family elders of past generations. Those female viewers who are gritting their teeth about this evil mother-in-law might as well go home and see their own mothers - I believe that as long as they have older brothers or younger brothers, they can understand this to some extent.

The fact that the elder brother has to take care of the younger brother is also very important in the traditional Chinese concept. The eldest brother is a father, which does not mean that the eldest brother can shout and order his younger brothers every day, but it means that the eldest brother should take care of his younger brothers just like his father. This kind of care is selfless. The banker's father-in-law and mother-in-law asked Zhuang Chaoying like this because of the traditional concept that the eldest brother is the father. Therefore, from Zhuang Chaoying's perspective, he could not see any problem. It is worth noting that in this TV series, Zhuang Chaoying's younger brother is often "absent". The eldest brother is a father, and there is another counterpart, that is, the younger brother should not take what he deserves for granted, but should have reciprocal feedback.

Based on this, we look at this matter again. The problem lies with the younger brother, and it seems that it does not entirely lie with Zhuang Chaoying and his parents. The group of female viewers who looked down upon Zhuang Chaoying wished that Zhuang Chaoying could quickly draw a clear line with her parents-in-law. What kind of mentality is this? The corresponding mentality of this mentality is to sympathize with Li Jia and feel that Li Jia used her own ability to bring her parents from the Northeast to Shanghai. That is what a daughter should achieve and is the real inspiration for women. This is just the female gender perspective of a transgender "Zhuang Chaoying". Apart from gender, what’s the difference between the two perspectives?

These two perspectives, whether it is the female perspective (Li Jia's perspective) or the male perspective (Zhuang Chaoying's perspective), are just the perspective of "sacrifice" for parents. Li Jia, in order to allow her parents to come to Shanghai from the Northeast and obtain a Shanghai household registration, she needs to work harder. In school, she is even more active and demands progress. Emotionally, she cannot easily accept Zhuang Tunan, but finds a Shanghainese. People, then, obtained Shanghai household registration.From this perspective, is it inspirational for women, or is it motivational for women for the sake of their parents?

From Zhuang Chaoying's perspective, it is for the sake of her parents, her younger brother, and the harmony of the entire family that she sacrifices some of her family's interests, contributes part of her salary, contributes part of her housing, and contributes part of her private and emotional life. etc. These contributions are also given directly to my parents.

Obviously, both Li Jia and Zhuang Chaoying are just sacrificing their perspective and "sacrifice" some personal interests for their parents. Li Jia and Zhuang Chaoying are essentially the same people. So, let’s take a look at the female audiences who sympathize with Li Jia but trample on Zhuang Chaoying. What are their levels? It’s just that you can’t get out of the female perspective. Why can't you jump out? Because I am a woman.

The basic ability of a person is to jump out of the gender perspective to which he belongs. If you are a male audience member, you should step out of your own male perspective. If you are a female audience member, you should step out of your own female perspective. Standing in the perspective of one's own gender and shouting for one's own gender perspective is not a rational behavior. On the contrary, it is imperative to step outside yourself and look at things anew. Without this ability to jump out, sooner or later you will become like the father-in-law and mother-in-law in "Alley People". Once you can step out and think about family life issues not based on your own gender, many problems will be solved. This is very important to some female viewers.(Text/Ma Qingyun)