Text | Microscopy Story, Author | Macondo, Editor | Zhuoran Some time ago, the topic "Young people began to get sterilized for love" became a hot search topic, reflecting that there are indeed a group of young people who uncharacteristically choose to get sterilized. Many people

Text | Microscopy Story, author | Macondo, editor | Zhuoran

Some time ago, the topic "Young people began to have sterilization for love" became a hot search topic, reflecting that there are indeed a group of young people who are uncharacteristically choosing to have sterilization.

Many people mistakenly believe that sterilization is "castration", but it is not. But it is unavoidable that sterilization does mean the loss of fertility thereafter.

What is the reason why these young people choose to "turn the blade inward" and choose this path?

In this issue of Microscopy Story, we will visit three men with sterilization and learn about the stories behind their sterilization.

The "gentle knife" that breaks the shackles of tradition

"I am 25 years old and have already had a sterilization."

This is a sentence Wu Chenhan posted on WeChat Moments. In an instant, it received more than 50 likes and more than 20 comments. Many friends sent Wu Chenhan private messages asking him, "Why do you want to cut yourself off if you can't think about it?" Wu Chenhan replied that if you really couldn't think about it, you wouldn't get a sterilization.

Wu Chenhan had the surgery in a hospital in Shanghai. During the consultation stage, the doctor used a scalpel to operate a model and demonstrated it to Wu Chenhan. As usual, Wu Chenhan was asked to think carefully after returning.

The procedure demonstrated by the doctor looked very painful. After Wu Chenhan returned home, he was a little hesitant about whether to undergo the knife. Later, I simply handed over the money in one fell swoop without giving myself any room for negotiation.

Wu Chenhan chose local anesthesia. During the operation, he could see the doctors and nurses and hear them speak. Wu Chenhan was not worried about the results after the operation, but was a little worried about whether the operation would be successful. The whole process was very fast, and there was no sharp pain like you might have imagined when looking at the model. The surgery cost only a few hundred yuan, and I was discharged from the hospital quickly.

Picture | Reference price of ligation surgery

Since then, Wu Chenhan has used practical actions to explain the word "alone". In his own words, "It's like a new look." Many people mistakenly believe that surgeries like

are meant to "castrate" male genitals and turn them into contemporary "eunuchs." This is a fallacy. Both men and women have ligation surgery. In women, the fallopian tubes are cut off, while in men, the vas deferens, which transports sperm to the seminal vesicles, is cut off, so that sperm cannot be released at the same time as semen, thus achieving the purpose of contraception.

For Wu Chenhan, he didn’t want contraception, but he didn’t want to get pregnant at all. In his opinion, sterilization was not for everyone, but it was for him. Wu Chenhan is a DINK, which is the fundamental reason why he chose to undergo vasectomy.

He is 24 years old and a baby of the new century. Born in a small town in northern Anhui, his parents divorced due to emotional discord when he was 4 years old.

His mother married him into a newly formed family. His adoptive father was not friendly to him, and his mother was also dependent on others and had no say in the family. Wu Chenhan spent his childhood in such an environment. He watched the movie "Harry Potter" when he was a child, and he felt like he was little Harry staying at his aunt's house.

After graduating from high school, Wu Chenhan went to Suzhou to work. Later he opened a restaurant and bought a house in Suzhou. This journey was not easy, and Wu Chenhan realized that if he could not give his children a stable and comfortable life, then he should not bring them into the world. He is a staunch DINK who knows that he cannot be a qualified father.

Later, while drinking with a friend, the friend reminded Wu Chenhan that he decided not to have children because he was incapable.

Wu Chenhan thought about it, and it was indeed the case. Not being able to afford it was one of the reasons why he chose to be a DINK. The catering industry has been declining in the past few years, and coupled with the monthly mortgage payment, it has almost cost him. If you raise another child, your life will be even more burdensome.

Wu Chenhan will get married next year. His girlfriend is from his hometown. The two met while working in a factory in Suzhou. Now this restaurant is run by two people who pool their own money and run it as a partnership. My girlfriend is also a DINK. Maybe it is for this reason that the two of them can get together.

Only when her mother saw Wu Chenhan’s WeChat Moments did she know that her son had done such a thing.She called immediately. This was the second call from her mother this year. The first call was that she heard that he had opened a store and became the boss and came to him for living expenses.

’s mother’s meaning was very clear, including why she was not discussed with her about such a big matter, why she had to give up her children, what to do when she gets old, and so on. Wu Chenhan's meaning is also very clear. He has grown up and there is no throne in his family to inherit. When he is old, he will go to a nursing home.

Mother and son were arguing on the phone. His mother started crying. Wu Chenhan originally thought that her mother was using her tears to morally kidnap her, but her mother blamed herself and apologized to him, saying that she had not taken good care of him, that she had cheated on him during the marriage, and that she wanted to leave with someone else, but did not consider it. his feelings.

Before her mother hung up the phone, she repeatedly told Wu Chenhan to take good care of herself. The unprecedented care made Wu Chenhan feel like she was a stranger.

After Wu Chenhan returns to normal life, he does not need to think about raising children in the future. When he thinks of these things, he walks with a relaxed pace and works briskly.

Wu Chenhan does not recommend others to imitate him. Not everyone is suitable for this choice. But for Wu Chenhan, this choice is like a threshold in life. Once you cross it, there will be a smooth road ahead.

Ligation, this thing is actually very "cool"

Ligation, although it is a method of contraception for both men and women, is also very different. In addition to transporting sperm and other reproductive functions, the male vas deferens has almost no other functions; while the female fallopian tube connects the uterus and ovaries. If a woman wants to be ligated, the surgical site will be deeper and the wound will be larger than that of a man, and it can easily cause intestinal adhesion and ectopic pregnancy. and other complications.

Therefore, male sterilization is "more cost-effective" than female sterilization.

Xiao Tao chose to get sterilized because he loved his wife so much. He is 28 years old and has been married to his wife for more than three years.

In the past three years or so, my wife has experienced two miscarriages, and her body has become weaker and weaker. She becomes sick every two days and becomes sick every three days. Doctors warned them that if they miscarried again, their bodies would completely collapse.

In order to prevent his wife from having another baby, Xiao Tao chose to have a sterilization. The wife originally thought about having a sterilization surgery herself, but Xiao Tao learned about it and thought it would be more appropriate for the man to have a sterilization surgery, and the wife was not in good health.

Xiao Tao does not feel sad because of the sterilization, nor does he feel that there is anything missing in his life. He and his wife both believe that life can still be wonderful even if they don't have children.

Picture | Blogger shares experience

They have always paid attention to contraceptive measures after marriage, but even if the success rate of condoms is 99%, there are still 1% loopholes. As Buddhist young people who were pregnant two years ago, they were not afraid of having a baby and faced it bravely. They began to buy various toys, decorate the baby's room, and look forward to the arrival of the little life.

Looking at those colorful dolls, little socks, and little shoes, the haze of miscarriage has been lingering in their hearts. Therefore, after the second miscarriage, they resolutely went for a sterilization surgery and decided not to have children.

At the beginning, the wife was hesitant. She felt guilty because she could not give Xiaotao a complete and healthy child. Xiao Tao could see his wife's thoughts and gave her an example. One of his colleagues was pregnant and still working in the company. One time, he leaked urine unconsciously and peed on the ground, which was seen by his colleagues. Everyone pretended not to see it, but the colleague blushed instantly and was very embarrassed.

Xiao Tao said to his wife, I don’t want you to experience this kind of thing.

Xiao Tao was lying on the operating table. Before the operation, all the hair on his lower body was removed as required, and a lot of tape was wrapped around his groin area. During the operation, a feeling of soreness spread from the lower body, mixed with a fishy smell, and it felt like part of the body had been hollowed out.

Due to nervousness, Xiao Tao's genitals were constricted. The doctor was unable to operate, but kept comforting Xiao Tao and asking him to relax.

The surgery made Xiao Tao feel ashamed. He thought, if his wife is pregnant, leakage of urine, obesity, depression, etc. may occur, will the wife also feel ashamed?

“I don’t want my wife to go through this."Xiao Tao was full of this idea at the time.

Picture | Comparison table of male and female sterilization from Weibo @六楼 Mr.

After the operation, Xiao Tao and the others changed the baby room into a study room again. Life seemed to have returned to its original state. When they first got married.

They bought a lot of books at home. On weekends, they would read books and watch movies at home, and go out for dinner at night. They learned to manage their finances and maximize their limited funds. , consume less, and plan for future retirement.

This kind of life is what Xiaotao and the others want, instead of having their lives rushed because of pregnancy and children.

Xiaotao loves his wife. It's a cool thing in life.

"Vas deferens" carnival

Before the operation, the doctor asked Liu Ping seriously and repeatedly, "Have you thought about it clearly?"

He happened to be in the hospital just now? , Liu Ping met a middle-aged couple who had undergone a vasectomy many years ago and now wanted to have a child.

Liu Ping came to the hospital and sat in front of the doctor. Of course, he had thought it over carefully. The doctor asked Liu Ping to sign an informed consent form and then undergo an infectious disease test before proceeding with the operation.

Regrets would not happen to

or Wu Chenhan or Xiao Tao. They are different. Liu Ping did the sterilization entirely for himself. He is a sexual minority and has the inherent life attribute of being "unmarried and infertile".

Liu Ping and his partner lived in Shanghai, and the partner also had sex a few years ago. Even when he had a sterilization surgery at the age of 27, his family did not object, but respected the child's choice. Under the influence of his partner, Liu Ping also had a sterilization surgery at the age of 28.

In theory, they did not use contraception. Choosing sterilization is more like a declaration of breaking out of the confinement of reality.

Liu Ping has a tattoo on his neck and a big earring. He often hangs out on Huaihai Road at night. He would drink until dawn and then sleep with his partner at home all day long.

His family was not as tolerant as his partner's parents. When he was nearly 30 years old, his family even urged him to get married. Once, his father came from his hometown. He rushed to Shanghai and wanted to take him back to his hometown and let him get married. But Liu Ping still went his own way and refused to get married.

Picture | Blogger shares experience

After drinking, Liu Ping passed by Jing'an Temple. , he was suddenly very tired, thinking that if he had followed the arrangements of his family, his "vas deferens" would also be very tired, busy transporting sperm, busy giving birth to life, and busy carrying on the family line. The wonderful idea of ​​

took root in Liu Ping's head. Until one day, Liu Ping chose ligation surgery to cut off his vas deferens and let it rest forever.

On the Internet, some people say that sterilization is a way for the DINK people to yearn for poetry and distant places. Liu Ping thinks this is purely hypocritical. The sterilization is not for poetry and distance, nor is it to beautify the three views of life, but simply not to be bound by reality, but to live the present moment more comfortably and comfortably.

More than a month after the ligation surgery, Liu Ping called his father in his hometown and told him about it. His father was silent on the phone for a long time, and then told him, just do whatever you want, and you won't feel comfortable if I force you to do it. I don't want to make you feel bad.

Liu Ping was on the phone, sobbing silently. He didn't want his father to know that he was crying. He has been in Shanghai for almost ten years and has never cried.

Liu Ping knew in his heart that he was on the right path.

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