Look at this worthless smile, who would have thought that she was once a literary youth who didn't want to get married or have children, but just wanted to fight for her career!
But now Wan Qian not only has a good acting career, but also has a happy and stable family. Some mothers ask for advice humbly online: How does Mrs. Wan Qian manage her career and family with both hands?
In fact, how can there be two hands to grasp, married people can still focus on their careers, often there is another person in the back to solve the family's worries. In an interview with
, Wan Qian said that when she needs to work, her husband will naturally reduce his workload and do everything well at home. This sentence alone is enough to make too many mothers envious.
is similar to Wan Qian, as well as Qi Wei Lee Seung-hyun and his wife. A few years ago, these two were notorious for being "outside the female lead and inside the male lead".
Lee Seung-hyun took his daughter to a variety show, from braids, eating, playing with him, to developing the character of the child, there is nothing he can't handle. Only in those few years, Qi Wei's career has advanced by leaps and bounds.
Lee Seung-hyun said in an interview: Men's career lifeline will be longer than women's, I can stay at home with my children for a few years, and then restart my career, but Qi Wei has already given the most golden time to give birth to a daughter...
When Li Chengxuan encountered "full-time difficulties", Qi Wei would also tell him: "You take care of the baby at home, I can pursue my dreams, but I want to thank you." It's a little boy~ and according to the previous live broadcast, he will have the surname Qi Wei!
Previously, Lee Seung-hyun quickly officially announced several variety shows, and he also performed hard on Phi Ge. One cannot help but sigh that the role transition of the couple is also very smooth~
It is not difficult to see from the examples of these two couples that more and more couples are no longer limited to the traditional family division of labor mode . Whoever makes money and who takes care of the baby has more flexible choices.
's increasingly clear consensus is that marriage is a whole, no matter how the roles change, it is the family's big goal to live a good life!
But in fact, we are also very curious. Ordinary people will also encounter the problem of family division of labor similar to that of celebrities. How do you deal with it? Will there be character problems? Ask the mothers to chat today.
In my family, the division of labor in the "male lead inside and female lead outside" was a helpless move at first.
Baby was born less than a month ago when my mother-in-law was diagnosed with advanced cancer.
My husband and I are both single-parent families, so I thought about his resignation to take care of my mother-in-law, and don't let myself leave any regrets.
During that time, it was really hard. I had to take care of the children and the elderly. At night, when I was feeding the baby, he would get up and support my waist, and then go to wash the breast pump after feeding...
Later, after the maternity leave ended, I had to go to work, and my husband had to take on more housework.
but he takes it all well. After all, it takes 1w+ to find a child-raising sister-in-law in Shanghai. After calculating the family's small accounts, he is equivalent to earning money!
In addition, my family is a boy baby. Dad has many advantages as the main force of parenting . The child does housework with his father at a young age. He is a little warm boy~
The baby is going to kindergarten this year, and my husband also plans to find a job. We will soon be a dual-earner family!
I think the division of labor in the family requires sufficient communication and understanding. do not have the mentality of who does more and who does less. It is a good thing for everyone to participate and contribute to our small family~
My husband and I both do it Business, but after the epidemic, his small company suddenly couldn't run. And I am in the medical industry, but I am so busy that I am so busy. 70% of my clients are abroad, and many meetings are held in the middle of the night, and I have to go to the factory, rush materials, and follow orders, which is too tiring.
and there are two children at home, who have to pick up and drop off every day. The eldest was at a time when he was dying to accompany his homework; the second was in kindergarten and just started elementary school this year.
At that time, the two of us discussed it, and we simply asked him to suspend his business and take the baby at home for a while. This way I can make as much money as possible without so many worries.
Up to now, our family has been operating in this mode for two and a half years. Except for the occasional complaint from my husband that I need to appease, everything else is fine.
and a self-proclaimed academic bully, when he devotes himself to raising children at home, he especially wants to prove himself. My eldest 's grades have obviously improved. My husband is a big contributor. I want to praise him every day.
Recently, I received another order from abroad. If there is no problem with the visa, I can go out and sign a contract within the year.
This feeling of being able to go out and earn money with confidence is quite cool. I really hope to continue the current family model, but I haven't asked the man what he thinks, haha~
My husband and I were both from small county towns. We went to Guangzhou to work hard together, but I had to quit my job because I had too much reaction during pregnancy.
After the child was born, the family's expenses in Guangzhou increased, and they spent tens of thousands of savings just for one semester of kindergarten.
So even though the child was doing well in kindergarten, we made a difficult decision - separated: I went home to bring my baby to reduce the cost of living, and he worked in Guangzhou to earn his family.
After going home for 3 years, we all felt that this division of labor was very suitable for the current state of our family, so we decided to have a second child.
Of course, when a person is very happy with two babies, there is also unspeakable sadness and helplessness, especially when taking two babies out, it is really difficult.
But these heartaches will be healed when my husband comes home. Every time the family reunites, he will take the initiative to bring the baby to buy clothes and food for me and baby, but he himself is reluctant to buy even the rotten shoes a pair.
When I feel bad and need to read a book to recharge, he also supports me without a word. These actions,
, have kept me up to this day, making me feel that the separation of the two places is not terrible, and it is not terrible to be a full-time mother. This is just a slightly special family division of labor among thousands of families.
maintain a good family atmosphere under such a division of labor, there are two tips: one is not to have too much negative energy, and the other is to teach teammates well .
Two years ago, I also found a job where I can take care of the family while going to work. With our joint efforts and perseverance, now that I have bought a house, my husband can be less tired and go home more often. ,everythingare developing for the better.
I originally had no full-time plans, but I couldn't get along with my mother-in-law. After the maternity leave, the old man was clamoring for me to go back to my hometown. The original company was not willing to let me go back to work. Together, we had to take care of the baby full-time at home.
At first, I would also be apprehensive, worried that it would be difficult to live a full-time life, but my husband never said that "you only spend money". After marriage, only wrote my name when buying a house and a car.
Later, I slowly adjusted my state, and I realized that whether it is to bring a baby or go to work, there are pressures that I have to bear, and there is no more useful difference in this division of labor. The most important thing is that two people understand each other and work together.
I now regard raising a baby as my "job", reading parenting books, learning parenting knowledge... Of course, I occasionally "catch the fish", eat what I like, buy what I want, and reward A small gift for myself, and told my husband that he should give me a year-end bonus hahaha.
Now the state of my family has reached a balance point. He does not have high requirements for me to do housework and take care of children, and I do not have high requirements for him to work and make money.
Since the division of labor in the family is a joint decision of two people, then considerate each other and bear the result together is the only correct solution.
After reading these stories of family division of labor, have the sisters noticed that although the division of labor mode is different, they have one thing in common, that is - decide together and share the responsibility.
And behind this, there needs to be a lot of communication and understanding.
sisters, how is your family division of labor? Will there be conflicts? How did you solve it?
Welcome everyone to tell your story in the comment area, and give you more reference for family division of labor and how to get along with husband and wife~
