's story about love, it's not just love
He, Kidman, a rude big guy, has a few odd jobs, doesn't know a few big characters, has an unbearable childhood and a mother who always embarrassed him.
She, Margaret, a retired agronomist, has an elegant temperament. She has moved her whole life collection of books to a nursing home. She loves reading, but lacks a person to listen to and communicate with.
He became attached to her on a park bench, she read for him, gave him a dictionary, he would give her the little flowers in the garden, and carved her a cane with his own hands, until he was willing to take care of her in her old age.
She turned him into a warm person, slowly learning to understand her mother, accepting and welcoming her unborn child; he became the last support for her life journey, allowing her to discover beyond the books A warmer humanity.
Kidman has no father and can only live with his crazy mother, but the mother doesn't seem to like Kidman, and even complains that her life was ruined by Kidman's birth.
It seems that because of his miserable childhood, when Kidman reached middle age, he still had nothing to do and could only do odd jobs.
The imprint of his original family is too indelible. Because of his inferiority, he rejected the idea of having a child proposed by his girlfriend again and again; while drinking in the bar, he was mocked in public by the cultured repairman again and again, which made Kidman feel bad for himself. Very lack of confidence, he has never been able to accept and recognize himself.
But all this changed after marrying Margaret. He gradually learned to think about problems that he had never thought about before, and he had a new understanding of his mother, his lover, and his friends.
Find a person, open a door
Find a person who can lead our thoughts, like opening a door
My experience is exactly a copy of "Afternoon with Margaret".
My mother, educationally similar to Kidman's mother. When I was growing up, my father was always busy with his career and charity, and rarely showed up at home. The mother, who was overwhelmed by the heavy life, always used accusations and criticisms to educate her three children.
In my childhood memory, my mother rarely smiled, except when she was working, she was complaining or nagging. My childhood was colorless, no matter how hard I tried, I couldn't keep up with the "children from other people's family" my mother said.
I've never walked down the street holding my mother's hand, or even dared to call her often after leaving home. After my father died, my mother's complaints against me intensified, and I became less and less afraid to spend long periods of time with her. Between my mother and me, there always seems to be a layer of "sand" blocking it.
"breaking the ice" with my mother, thank you for the "Margaret" in my life
until I met the "Margaret" in my life - Teacher Rong Na, the founder of Yungui Original. Teacher Rong Na nourishes my soul like a hot spring, melting the layer of "sand" that has been between me and my mother for decades.
On the weekly public welfare reading Hui, Teacher Rong Na said: "After your father died, your mother suffered more than you. She also lacks love, but who will love her? You always think that your mother loves you. The way is wrong, then have you expressed your love for your mother from your heart..."
Teacher Rong Na, let me see another mother:
I saw the dog days at 39 degrees and minus 3 The mother who still sells vegetables on the street during the snow and ice days, just to add a glass of milk to the table of the three children;
I saw the mother who worked in the vegetable field in the sweltering heat for an afternoon and was reluctant to buy a bottle of water for herself; a towel used for ten years, a mother who was too hard to use; a mother who wore patched socks for decades, but never stingy with the money I paid for books;
I saw the one who was banned in Shanghai during the epidemic In the 60 days, I have been asked over and over again if I have unblocked? The mother who asked me over and over again if I had any food to eat, the love behind her that was always there but never expressed in words.
I saw, behind my mother's seemingly indifferent eyes, the heart that has been my concern all my life.
Teacher Rong Na said: "Mom loves you, she loves you more than herself, but she is not good at expressing her love, just like, you also love mother, but you are not good at expressing your love... "
Teacher Rong Na took us on a life review meditation. During the meditation, she asked us, if one day, life is about to end, what would you most like to say?
used to be a question that I pondered for a long time but couldn't solve, but today, the sentence I want to say most is: "I love you, mom..." At the end of the
video, Kidman's mother is drunk because of alcoholism. He died, but the lawyer told him that his mother left the house to him.
Kidman asked the lawyer in surprise, didn't his mother rent the house? The lawyer
told him that his mother saved money to buy the house, just for his favorite son, Kidman.
fell in love with this world because of one person
lawyer took out a box that had never been opened, which contained a photo of his biological father, as well as his umbilical cord.
It was then that he suddenly realized that his mother had always loved him, but she had always wrapped a layer of indifference for this love.
How lucky I am, my mother is still alive, and I still have many opportunities to give my mother the warmest hug in the world, hold her hand, and accompany her to travel to the sea of stars she has longed for.
Kidman reconciled with this world because of Margaret; and I, because of Teacher Rongna, fell in love with this world.
Teacher Rong Na said : "Life accompanies life, that is, a tree shakes another tree, a cloud pushes another cloud, and a soul awakens another soul."
Everyone we meet has the potential to become Our own Margaritas, if we can't find our own Margaritas, maybe we can be someone else's Margaritas. Emotions are the most beautiful and fragile things in human beings. May we cherish them.
"I hope to have someone like you, like the refreshing wind in the mountains, like the warm light of the ancient city, from morning to night, from the mountains to the study, as long as it is you in the end."
——Zhang Jiajia "Passing Through Your World"
This person is not only a lover, she can also be the one who opens a door for our life, such as Margaret in Kidman's life, such as Rong Na in my life teacher.
"In the story of love, there is not only love, sometimes there is not even a sentence I love you, but we are in love with each other."
I hope you can also meet the Margaret in your life.
