text/Zhang Xiaonuan
mother-in-law said to Ren Duomei: 500,000 for one birth, 1 million for two.
Ren Duomei was actually moved, and said to Lei Li that this is also a way to achieve economic freedom, although she was somewhat frustrated when she said this.
After all, in the eyes of her mother-in-law, she has a plan to marry Zhang Weichen, which means that she can be regarded as a woman with a "clearly marked price".
Is Tu Qian's marriage shameful?
Ren Duomei left Tan Tian, who loved her very much because of money, and married Zhang Weichen, who didn't love her so much because of money.
Some people say that Ren Duomei has become such a humble appearance today because she is too worldly and places too much emphasis on money rather than people, and she brought it on herself.
Tu Qian's marriage, is it really that bad?
Is the sadness of Ren Duomei's marriage really caused by her placing too much importance on money?
I have always felt that a marriage must have a plan to last long, and the hormones of love can survive for at most 20 months. After the passion is over, what can two people use to maintain their lives? It's a reality, either for people or money. Whoever escapes reality and talks about marriage will fall into trouble in front of reality sooner or later.
Tu Qian's marriage is not shameful, but has always pinned his life on others. It can't be said to be shameful, but it is really sad and stupid.
The sadness of Ren Duomei's marriage is not that she values money too much, but that she has pinned her life on others from beginning to end.
When she was in love with Qin Tian, she often made a life plan for Qin Tian, let him catch up and earn money to make her live a good life; with Zhang Weichen, she devoted all her time and attention to Zhang Weichen , so that Zhang Weichen can spend more money on her.
If you have capital, you can marry a rich man, which is understandable; but if you want to marry a rich man, you have to cut off your own wings, then you have to think about it. After all,
entrusts his own destiny to others, and sooner or later he will have to pay the price.
Ren Duomei paid the price: he lost a man who loved him, got a man who didn't love him and got a humble marriage.
I also don't agree with the much praised in the play, the love laughing after sitting on a bicycle, once a love like enters a marriage and accepts the impact of firewood, rice, oil and salt, sooner or later, it will be wrapped in the leftovers.
In the play, the reason why Shen Jianan is willing to go to see customers in the rain with Tan Tian does not care if he has a car or not, he lives in a rental house with Tan Tian and does not mind if he has a room, and even eats instant noodles with Tan Tian. I think it's sweet, that's because Shen Jianan has a mansion behind him, a luxury car by his side, and a rich dad on top of her head. She has confidence.
replaced by ordinary girls, try?
Look back at Shen Jianan's high school classmate Wu Jia who works in a beauty salon. She lives soberly. She knows that no matter how hard she tries, she will not be able to stay in this city. She also knows that it is difficult for her to find a local native to marry. , after all, marriage is a reality. The reality of
is so cruel, the starting line of Shen Jianan is the finish line that Wu Jia can't reach in his whole life.
So every time Tan Tian recalls the picture of how beautiful is not willing to follow her to endure hardship, she will jump out of the picture that compares with Shen Jianan's view of love, as if Ren Duomei is more secular and Shen Jianan is more noble.
In my opinion, it's just that men want to meet a girl who can accompany them to endure hardships when their career is on the rise, But no one can guarantee that this girl who accompanies him to endure hardships will become this love in the end The king can be crowned as the "main palace".
After all, in reality, how many loves start with sharing adversity and end with sharing happiness.
So, don't criticize those girls who "seek money", and don't praise those girls who "seek love", this is just a choice, as long as we can afford the consequences of our choice, then Can.
Nothing is noble, and nothing is low. Human nature is mostly a gray area. When it is tested under the light, it may not be able to pass the test.
The trap of marriage
Zhang Weichen is the man who knows the best PUA wife I have ever met.
I remember the most clearly a plot, Ren Duomei wanted to have a child, Zhang Weichen was afraid that the truth of his infertility would be exposed, and in turn controlled Duomei ideologically and said:
"I often heard rumors in the delivery room in the hospital. I, a doctor, can't listen to the screams of pain coming. I don't want my wife to suffer this pain so early. I married you for your happiness, not to suffer."
is a good one "I married you to make you happy, not to make you suffer".
Ren Duomei foolishly believed it.
Let me ask, a woman suffers from having a child, or a woman suffers from the provocation of a mistress, which is more painful? Zhang Weichen didn't want to let Ren Duomei suffer from having a child, but he was willing to let Ren Duomei suffer from the clamor of Xiaosan, which is too slapped.
When Domei first proposed to Zhang Weichen to go out to work, Zhang Weichen was reluctant, but he was afraid of overreacting and making Domei suspicious, so he agreed.
He just wanted to trap Duomi at home. To be a canary, it is best to lose social skills and lose social skills, so that in the end Duomi can only commit to him and obey him.
Zhang Weichen once said to Duomei: My mother has always been very picky. Before we got married, she said Duomei had no job and no local hukou, but I refuted her at the time, I said that even Duomei would not work in her life , I would also like to support her for life.
Zhang Weichen means, Ren Duomei, look at you, you don't have a job, you don't have a household registration, you are like this, I don't even despise you, I'm still willing to support you for a lifetime, should you be moved, you should be sincere to me what!
Isn't this just using "dimensionality reduction strikes" as a means to achieve "personality control" over the opponent?
's words, at first glance, are quite touching, but think about it a little bit, am I really as bad as what he said? Is it worthless?
Don't let your value live in the evaluation of others. Before can judge the evaluation of the other party, we must first have a set of self-evaluation and recognize our own value.
Zhang Weichen especially likes to let Ren Duomei make him sweet and sour fish , not because he likes sweet and sour fish, but because it takes time to make sweet and sour fish. In this way, Ren Duomei will have less time to go out and socialize.
Zhang Weichen didn't want Duomei to make friends outside, and he didn't want Duomei to go to work, so he wanted to keep Duomei by his side.
He never asks what Domi likes to do? Always focus on his own feelings, and make such and such requests to Tomei.
is this love?
Zhang Xiaoxian once said this: When you love someone, you want his life to be meaningful, only happiness is not enough, and only making money is meaningless.
Duomei's meaning in this home is more about taking care of her husband's three meals a day, taking care of her mother-in-law's trivial emotions, and living without herself at all.
But she willingly lived in such a marriage, humble and desolate, until she met Shen Jianan.
Awakening
Lu Yao said: Everyone has an awakening period, but the awakening sooner or later determines the fate of the individual.
Ren Duomei's awakening originated from the appearance of Shen Jianan.
When Ren Duomei told Shen Jianan and Lei Li that her mother-in-law would use 1 million to buy her belly, Shen Jianan thought it was ridiculous.
But Ren Duomei said: Maybe my mother-in-law is right, I don't have a job, I don't make money, this family is all supported by Zhang Weichen alone, so I should have a baby at home.
Shen Jianan immediately retorted: Then have you ever thought about this logic, their family let you be a housewife at home and paid you a salary, you agreed, but now they think you are not making money and force you to have children, what is this? breaks your leg and thinks you are lame again?
Shen Jianan's words gave Ren Duomei a new understanding of the concept of mother-in-law and husband, and it was also these words that made Ren Duomei think of opening the door to her own world.
is like Mo YanIt is said: The greatest luck of people is not to pick up money, but one day you meet a person who breaks your original thinking, improves your cognition, and then improves your realm and leads you to a higher level Realm, this is the noble person of your life.
Shen Jianan is, in a sense, Ren Duomei's nobleman.
When Duomei Ren was immersed in a battle of wits and courage with Zhang Weichen, Shen Jianan felt tired and panicked, what are the couple fighting for?
Shen Jianan said that his concept of marriage is: give each other a back, and then the two of them go to fight the world together, instead of fighting in the same bed.
Actually, the marriage between Ren Duomei and Zhang Weichen is tiring to the naked eye. The two have their own concerns and rack their brains every day for who can prevail and who can control who. Such a marriage is really too time-consuming and consuming. Strength is all internal friction.
Ren Duomei is worried about Zhang Weichen's little junior sister every day, so she slaps Zhang Weichen sideways, raises points everywhere, and beats Zhang Weichen thinking of Fa'er; and Zhang Weichen keeps an eye on Ren Duomei's social media in order to make Ren Duomei a canary. The circle, for fear that she would fly out of his palm. A marriage like
, if it doesn't disintegrate, is it still there for the New Year?
It's better to spend your mind on yourself than on the other side, After all, when marriage comes to the end, you are your own.
If no one gives you a back to fight against the world, then at least you can give yourself a warm embrace to resist the cold.
Ren Duomei eats at home according to the tastes of her mother-in-law and husband, and her own tastes are completely ignored.
She is particularly fond of spicy food, but at home, she has never eaten a spicy meal, so when she went out to dinner with Lei Li and Shen Jianan, she ate extremely spicy skewers to satisfy her cravings.
I especially like what the chef Yue Ze said to Ren Duomei. When he handed the extra spicy skewers to Ren Duomei, he said to her: This is your skewer, you have the right Decide how it tastes.
This is our own life and we have the right to decide how it tastes.
Ren Duomei decided not to hold back any longer. When she found Zhang Weichen's little sister's high heels under his desk, Ren Duomei broke out completely.
She questioned Zhang Weichen face to face, and Zhang Weichen felt it was strange. He had never seen Duomeifa so angry.
In the past, Ren Duomei always endured the affairs of Zhang Weichen and his younger sister, and even if they met, they would leave enough respect for Zhang Weichen. Furthermore, Zhang Weichen felt that there was no harm in going further with the younger sister.
is like what Shen Jianan said: men will not give in because of your compromise, they will only intensify.
Facing Ren Duomei's outburst, Zhang Weichen was stupid, Ren Duomei told Zhang Weichen angrily: I don't lose my temper, it doesn't mean I don't have a temper. At the moment of
, Zhang Weichen only touched Ren Duomei's bottom line, and felt more and more that Ren Duomei had changed.
Ren Duomei has changed, she began to wake up and no longer wanted to be a good wife and mother, she started a career quietly.
Because, after marrying for so many years, Ren Duomei finally understood a truth: marriage will never be won because of a woman's kindness and virtue.
Finally, I want to end today's article with a sentence from Mrs. Sheng in "Knowing or Not": "Xianhui" is just a bodhisattva made of yellow clay, The ranking of Confucius , just say goodbye, If you do it, you will regret it for the rest of your life.
Author: Zhang Xiaonuan, may you and I meet before long in warm and comfortable words and grow together!
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