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I watched the first half of the movie " Life Events " on the evening of the weekend and thought it was very good. I took time to watch the second half at noon today, and I am still very touched. After reading
as a whole, I have been thinking about two questions: how did
get through the trough of life alone? How can a person with childhood trauma heal himself?
For this, I analyzed 10 lens languages in the movie and found the answer. The first shot of
: Surrounded by three sides
The movie begins, Zhu Yilong plays Mo Sanmei (referred to as the third brother) who is sorting out Xiaowen's grandmother. Heaven" funeral shop.
He started the job right out of prison.
After finishing grandma's tidying up, Xiaowen's aunt found out that the golden ring on grandma's hand was missing, so she started to relent, and everyone around looked at the third brother with strange eyes. After
returned home, the third brother went to find his girlfriend, and then he found out that it was his girlfriend who followed the sixth.
But he fought with Lao Liu because of his girlfriend, and he went to prison for it; now he came out, but his girlfriend was with a rich and well-off enemy. The third brother
returned home in despair, only to find that a child (Xiao Wen) asked him for his grandmother and bit him fiercely; the eldest brother of the wedding shop next door to
also came to persuade him to change careers, saying that it was unlucky for his family to open a funeral shop: The second brother passed away early, the eldest sister divorced, and he finally had a girlfriend and was with someone else. The third brother,
, was restless and drove him away with loud abuse.
Then, when he sat quietly at the door, he began to release his emotions:
He looked up at the "Go to Heaven" sign, and then at the three high walls that enveloped him, a kind of life. Frustration trapped him firmly.
The second shot: Silently looking at each other 1
In the evening, the third brother told the shop assistants Jianren and Bai Xue: There is no hope, let's change careers.
The two partners tried to solve him one after another, but their words pierced his heart, and he immediately scuffled with Jianren. During the scuffle, he was pressed to the ground and saw Xiaowen staring at him fiercely. This was the first time they looked at each other silently.
Although Xiaowen seems to be in a high position, but because of her grandmother's death, she is also extremely uneasy, so she is venting her emotions frantically, This is a manifestation of children's unmet psychological needs.
's third brother's unease is described by the description of the external environment: one is a rainy night, the rain falls to the ground like a line, just like his life also fell to the ground, giving people a sense of powerlessness; one is "on" The plaque "Heaven" once again highlighted the helpless and repressed emotions he wanted to get rid of but couldn't get rid of.
The third shot: Silently facing each other 2
Xiaowen has no parents and has been raised by his grandmother.
When my grandmother died, I caught up with my uncle and aunt who were going to Beijing for their son's studies, but Xiaowen was reluctant to leave, so he was taken care of by the third brother for 3 days in "Going to Heaven".
Now that my aunt and uncle are back, Xiaowen should be raised by them.
When sending Xiaowen to my uncle's house, my uncle and aunt were quarreling, and my aunt didn't want toI wanted to raise Xiaowen, and the words were very encouraging. The third brother couldn't stand it anymore, so he went in and said: Can you be kinder to the children.
emotional blogger He Rijun came back and said a word: People who are not loved can easily identify the same kind in the crowd. The third brother
witnessed what happened to Xiaowen, and he thought of his childhood, so he subconsciously maintained Xiaowen.
Finally, my uncle suggested to let the third brother continue to take care of Xiaowen, and let Xiaowen choose who to follow? Xiaowen stared in the direction of the door, the third brother's eyes were dodging, wanting to look but not daring to look at her.
Because in those few days of getting along, they shared the pink urn incident and the accidental swallowing of the jumping ball. The third brother of has already felt an emotional entanglement: Xiaowen trusts him, and he also needs Xiaowen.
Although Xiaowen brought him some trouble, she also brought some hope to his life.
Children's feelings are very keen, she can clearly detect who is good to her and who is not good to her.
Xiaowen found that the third brother has a soft heart under his tough exterior.
Although he is emotionally impulsive, his feelings are also the most sincere:
He couldn't understand his aunt's attitude towards Xiaowen, so he went to the theory; at his grandmother's funeral, he was misunderstood by his aunt as a thief, so he immediately chose to take off his clothes to testify. Innocent; after he found out that his girlfriend was with Lao Liu, he directly fought with each other.
He always chooses to solve problems in the most direct way.
Therefore, when Xiaowen ran to him without a word and looked up at him, his expression was very rich: was a little unbelievable that he was actually accepted by a child.
everyone around him is denying him, and this kid actually trusts her.
Xiaowen stared at him, the action in his eyes seemed to comfort him: don't worry.
is different from the first silently facing each other. At that time, they were confrontation and hatred, but at this moment, they began to trust each other and give each other hope. On the way
took Xiaowen back, the third brother said: I can't see this group of monsters bullying people. The
movie gave a shot: it was still the narrow road, surrounded by small shops, the third brother drove into this world, and the old father and sister at the door were waiting for him. Although
may clash again, is obviously different from the three-sided encirclement in the first shot, and he has begun to face his emotions. The fourth shot of
: She protects the third brother 1
The old father heard that the third brother brought a child to the funeral home, and he wanted to teach his son a lesson. He picked up the stick and beat the third brother.
father and son communicate very fiercely, the third brother pointed to his head and said, hit here. When the
crutches were about to fall, Xiaowen got out of the car, blocked the third brother's father's crutches with the red ying gun in his hand, and shouted: can't hit the third brother.
The third brother looked at Xiaowen's actions in astonishment. He was stunned. Many emotions emerged in his heart: He was actually protected by a child, and he felt a warm feeling. The fifth shot of
: Silently looking at 3
The third brother promised the old father that he would earn 300,000 in a month to buy the house in "Go to Heaven", otherwise the old father said that he would transfer the house to him, but he kept using it Various reasons to test him.
halfAt night, the third brother was so disturbed by Jianren's snoring that he couldn't sleep, and accidentally saw the wedding photos of his ex-girlfriend, and fell off the chair in Wuzhishan.
Xiaowen saw this scene, she took this photo and sent it to the third brother. The third brother
said: If it weren't for the fact that you kept looking for your grandmother, I would not have been pushed under the Wuzhi Mountain.
Xiaowen was a little sad, and then she started to work for the 300,000 needed by the third brother. She found her grandmother's dance partner, Grandpa Liu, for help.
Grandpa Liu told the third brother that he wanted to hold a "funeral". The third brother couldn't believe it. How could a living person hold a funeral for him, but Grandpa Liu said, if you can do it, I will pay 300,000. The third brother
took this order.
performed "Funeral", Grandpa Liu's son suddenly appeared with a group of people, the two sides engaged in a "battle", and even went to the police station.
came out of the police station. Grandpa Liu explained to his third brother why he wanted to hold a "funeral" (after the family received a demolition payment the year before last, he could not rest in peace, and he wanted to find a way to spend the money).
Grandpa Liu said that Xiaowen asked him for help because he wanted to help the third brother unravel the Wuzhishan that suppressed him.
went back to the car, the third brother couldn't calm down for a long time, he thought about Grandpa Liu's words.
and through the rearview mirror in the car, and Xiaowen had the third silent look at each other, and the third brother was once again moved by Xiaowen's warmth.
Yes, children's feelings are very simple, you warm me, I will find a way to warm you. The sixth shot of
: She protects the third brother 2
and returns to "going to heaven". The old father once again lost his temper at the unsatisfactory behavior of the third brother (helping Grandpa Liu's funeral to make a scene at the police station), smashing it in the house, seeing The father and son are going to fight again.
Xiaowen stood up again and admitted that he helped the third brother to pick up the work, if you want to fight, just hit me. The third brother
watched this situation from behind, and his heart was very complicated.
's old father ignored Xiaowen's actions and directly asked the third brother to move out before the end of the month. Jianren said soft words next to him, indicating that the third brother could change.
But the third brother stood up and said irritably: I am in his heart, everything is wrong, how can I change it.
Father and son are disappointed with each other: The father is disappointed with his son's performance, and the son is also disappointed that his father will never see his own merits.
This is a bit like Gu Yankai's disappointment with Gu Ershu in " Knows ", and he has to hit Ershu at every turn.
Then, the third brother told his old father the grievances he had accumulated over the years: when he was a child, he was beaten when he watched cartoons and did not go to the funeral with his father; , he began to question his father: I know you like the second brother, otherwise you kill me, I will replace the second brother with you.
The old father shivered with anger for a long time, didn't say anything, and staggered out of the house. The third brother
wiped away the tears from the corners of his eyes, with mixed feelings in his heart.
In the evening, he helped Xiaowen repair the broken red tassel gun at Grandpa Liu's "funeral", Xiaowen cried: Did I cause you trouble again. The third brother
comforted her and said: this is not your fault, it is the third brother who has no rootsthing.
Happy people heal their whole lives with their childhood, and unfortunate people heal their childhood with their whole lives.
Although he knows his life is in a mess, he still wants to protect Xiaowen's childhood.
Because no one helped him mend his childhood wounds, he came to mend Xiaowen's childhood wounds, so that he could heal his former self.
Seventh shot: Third brother's apology
Lao Liu (the third brother's ex-girlfriend's husband) died of drunk driving, and his body was crushed to the point of being crushed. to leave.
's soft-hearted third brother brought Moutai and Xiaowen to ask his father for help. The old sixth's body was just sorted out, and the old father was hospitalized because of drinking.
Xiaowen's kindergarten also called, and the third brother was anxious.
The old father said that it is important to read Xiaowen first, and he is fine.
It turned out that Xiaowen actually performed the plot of throwing a bowl before the spirit at the kindergarten parent-child activity, which shocked everyone present.
She also told the teacher that 's own parents are people who plant stars in the sky.
looked at the tense situation, Xiaowen lowered his head, ready to accept punishment.
But the third brother didn't blame her, but took her to bow to all the parents: He used his actions to tell Xiaowen where the boundaries of this matter were, protecting Xiaowen's inner panic.
Xiaowen finally realized that his behavior was undesirable, and took the initiative to apologize to everyone.
At this moment, the third brother made up for the sadness and regret after being scolded for eating dead people's food when he was a child. After fighting with each other, his father actually watched from the sidelines.
At this moment, as Xiaowen's elder, he made the best example.
He gradually healed himself by educating Xiaowen, which is an emotional shift.
Eighth shot: The truth of the second brother's death
The third brother returned to the hospital, and the old father finally explained why he made the third brother kowtow to the second brother every year.
Back then, in order to retrieve a child's body from the water, the second brother sneaked into the water, the child was brought up, but the second brother was gone.
For the sake of a dead person, their family gave up a living person.
father said:
life is like a book, every one has to be turned to the last page. Some draw periods, some draw ellipsis . There are no major issues in life except death, what is the name, what is the profit, it is just a passing glance. What we do in this line of business is to have a saintly heart. The third brother
was walking home, reminiscing about his father's words, returned to the crowded street, but felt a lot more open inside.
His resentment towards his second brother and his confusion about his career suddenly melted away.
Fan Deng said: When life is in a low position, all kinds of problems in life will be magnified because our standing posture is too low. Only when life has achieved a jump in position, stood tall, and looked at the things around you, will you feel less painful and less troubled.
This is the emotional change process of the third brother.
Then, the third brother, who had re-established his career goals, began to take his work seriously, and his mental outlook took on a new look.
himHe also found various channels to repair Xiaowen's watch that was damaged at Grandpa Liu's "funeral", so that grandma's words could be reproduced.
The ninth shot: 4 emotional conversations
Xiaowen's mother finally appeared, she wanted to get her daughter back, and the third brother's heart began to panic; but Xiaowen's mother came to the door again and knelt down and begged, and the third brother softened , let her give herself 3 days to prepare.
One day, when he suddenly prepared a table of meals for everyone, Xiaowen asked the third brother: Why are you unhappy? The third brother
subconsciously said no, and then pretended to be happy.
This is their first emotional dialogue , Xiaowen can perceive the third brother's emotions. In the parent-child class of
kindergarten, the third brother worked hard to play the role of a father.
Then, in the part where the child expressed his gratitude, Xiaowen secretly said to the third brother: I know you have been lying to me, I will never see my grandmother again, But I will not be afraid anymore, because I have a father.
This is their second emotional conversation.
Third brother's eyes filled with tears again, he was shaking all over, he stared at Xiaowen, then lowered his head to stop himself from crying, and looked at Xiaowen again, as if in doubt This is not true.
Xiaowen gave him a big hug to hide his confusion.
went home at night, the third brother asked Xiaowen to recite his name, home address and phone number, Xiaowen was a little impatient. The third brother of
asked Xiaowen: , you will not forget me in the future, will you?
Xiaowen proved her feelings with her actions. She had already regarded the third brother as her father, so she kissed the third brother. The third brother
was still a little overwhelmed, and hurriedly used the mirror as an excuse to leave. This is their third emotional conversation. When
came back, Xiaowen was already asleep, and the third brother looked at Xiaowen who was asleep and felt very sad.
But while Xiaowen was asleep, he still returned Xiaowen to his mother.
was in the car, and Xiaowen suddenly woke up from her deep sleep. She couldn't accept the facts in front of her. hugged the third brother's arm fiercely. The
car whizzed past, taking Xiaowen away.
It was raining heavily, just like the night when Xiaowen went to this house to look for his grandmother, the third brother's emotions were very forbearing at this moment.
But Xiaowen kept pounding the car window, crying loudly for the third brother, who no longer wanted to hide his emotions, he dashed wildly, trying to catch up with the car that picked up Xiaowen.
As the car went away, Xiaowen's two voices of "Dad" lingered in the third brother's heart and kept stirring.
, the third brother who came home was scolded by Jianren and Bai Xue, and received a call from his sister, and his father was gone. After
arranged a splendid funeral for the old father, the third brother received a call from Xiaowen's mother: Xiaowen is lost.
Several people began to search frantically, but there was no result. When they came home exhausted, Xiaowen's familiar voice of " third brother" came from behind, and she ran over while shouting.
The third brother couldn't help but mad at Xiaowen, Xiaowen said at a loss: My father's name is Mo Sanmei, my family lives in...I won't lose it...
Third brother hugged her fiercely after hearing this.
This is the fourth emotional conversation.
They used four dialogues to complete the persistence and care of their emotions. The tenth shot of
: watching the starry sky
movie finally arranged a happy ending for us:
third brother accepted Xiaowen's mother, then their family Jianren and Baixue, third brother and Xiaowen and Xiaowen's mother Sitting at the door together, looking up at the stars.
This moment is different from the initial three-sided surround and rainy night.
In the small yard, in addition to the fence, there is also an endless starry sky above.
And they are the kind of stars.
They are also healing each other.
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