's core point of view: Education can sometimes be easy, the key lies in the parents'
" Star Man is Brilliant ", in addition to the emotional entanglement between the hero and heroine, the emotional entanglement between the hero and the heroine, the way the hair owner curls up with her grandmother also triggers Many discussions.
Many people think that Grandma doesn't like curling. I personally think that it is better to say that she has love in her heart and doesn't know how to express it.
The situation is similar to that of left-behind children today. Their parents have fought in all directions since childhood to defend their homeland and the country. When
was first born, her parents who were in a hurry to go to the battlefield were provoked by the second aunt and had to leave her to the elders and relatives at home.
The situation is similar to those of today's parents who go out to work in order to make money, and can only leave their children to the elderly at home.
This is the case with many children these days, living with their grandmother or grandmother since childhood.
Lucky children will meet their elders who love them. Even without the love of their parents, the elders will not make them feel wronged.
But the curl in the play belongs to the unlucky category. Her grandmother is patriarchal and doesn't care about her existence at all.
That's why he allowed the second wife's aunt Ge Shi to bully her and send her to the village Zhuangzi to get sick.
She has no sense of belonging in this family since she was a child, and she has never been favored by her elders.
finally came back, thinking that with a home and support, life would be warmer, but it backfired.
's mother thinks she is too naughty, she will only be harsh and harsh, and she does not show any compassion and tolerance.
is she not? No, she is very gentle and kind when she treats the second room's concubine.
Because in her opinion, Chacha, who grew up with her aunt, is smarter and more sensible than her own daughter.
Lingyi could only secretly envy He He, and envied his mother, who said "I will never let He He suffer any grievance".
What she envied most should be her mother's tenderness to Chacha, which was something her mother never gave her.
My grandmother compares her with the nephew everywhere, and in front of relatives, she is also complimenting and demeaning.
Even the compliments of others to curl up, she has to reject one by one.
She forgot that even if she is naughty, she still has self-esteem and merits, and needs her approval.
But she always belittles her in front of everyone, and always insists on the so-called fairness, which makes curling aggrieved.
may be out of hatred for not turning iron into steel, and annoyed that he was brought down by Geshi Erfang.
So I want to quickly correct her "bad" performance.
But my mother seems to have forgotten that teaching a child is different from leading an army to fight, and being a mother is also different from being a general.
The point is that curling isn't bad, it's just a different temperament.
Growing up, one of the children's childhood nightmares is indispensable: other people's children.
For left-behind children, there are few opportunities to meet their parents for many years.
In the rare time, it should be full of warmth and love, but most children are greeted by parents' dissatisfaction with their children.
feel that they are not around, the child is "crooked" and has too many "bad" problems.
took the time to discipline, accuse, and be severe.
This is actually a kind of incompetence of "being dereliction of duty by not being around the children".
A lot of kids are just being naughty, like curling, there is no major problem.
Besides, if you really want to educate children, you have to use the right method. Treating them with sincere love and gentleness can also play an educational role.
Blindly harsh will make children who have not been loved by their parents for a long time lost, disappointed and frustrated.
thus thinks that parents prefer other people's children and dislike themselves, so it is also possible to give up on themselves.
It is not easy for children to understand their parents, and understanding their harshness is also a form of self-blame.
blamed himself for not being able to accompany his children to grow up and not teaching them properly.
Sometimes it's not that your parents don't love you, they just don't know how to express it.
Left-behind children seem to have a close relationship with their parents, but they are actually the most familiar strangers.
is sometimes blamed because of the depth of love. When the grandmother in the
drama came home, she saw the curvaceous curl that had been raised by Ge Shi, and naturally annoyed her original choice.
can't wait to train her.
It's just that she used the wrong method, which is destined to deepen the gap between their mother and daughter.
Wouldn't there have been a different development if grandma could be as gentle as she was with her?
The answer is yes, because curl is not hopelessly bad, it just needs love.
At the end of the plot, the mother realized her mistake, and the curl also understood that it was not that the mother did not love her, but the way was wrong, and the mother and daughter reconciled.
But real life is not a plot, and not every family has a chance to reconcile.
How left-behind children get along with their parents is also a problem.
But the road is simple, the key to this way of getting along is actually only one word, and that is "love".
Children love their parents unconditionally.
So when parents treat their children, they should also start from unconditional love.
Pay attention to whether the child is happy first, and don't care too much about the rules.
And children should also understand that their parents are insincere and not easy, so as to achieve a state of mutual understanding and understanding.
The dominant player between the two is naturally the parents.
Remember that everything is based on the happiness of the child, so there will be no more conflicts.
"Education" may be easier with true love...
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I'm not dyeing, thank you for being here.
