knew about , Jin Yong , was because I watched the TV series " Snow Mountain Flying Fox ", that was more than 20 years ago, I can't remember exactly which year, I just remember that I was still in elementary school. Because
was so obsessed with the plot, after watching the drama, I went to find the novels of "Flying Fox in Snow Mountain" and " Flying Fox Story ". After school, I "did myself down and study hard", which once made my parents think that I had changed my mind. Know how to work hard.
Of course, the obsession at that time was just the obsession with the storyline. In many places, it was swallowed whole, and I didn't understand it at all. For example, when I saw Nanlan fell in love with Tian Guinong , I just thought she was very annoying and stupid. Her husband was chivalrous and invincible. She didn't cherish it, but liked a hypocrite.
Now, after watching "Flying Fox Story" after more than 20 years, I realized how simple my thoughts were at that time, and finally understood why Nan Lan fell in love with Tian Guinong. The marriage of
Nan Lan and Miao Renfeng .
The marriage of Nan Lan and Miao Renfeng, in the words of today, is "the wrong family". Nan Lan is the daughter of an official family. She has been pampered since she was a child and lived a good life, while Miao Renfeng is a rough and unrestrained knight.
Of course, this is not to say that such two people will not be happy together. If they have common expectations and goals for marriage, and they can manage and work hard together, they can also slowly get closer to each other during the run-in process and breed more emotions. Sadly, they can't do that.
First of all, their expectations for marriage are different.
Nan Lan wants romantic love, warm care, and wants her family to live in peace. But Miao Renfeng couldn't let go of the grievances and hatred in the rivers and lakes, and only guarded her.
Not to mention that Miao Renfeng is a person who is used to wandering in the arena, the death of Hu Yidao and his wife has become an obsession in his heart. He is determined to find the poisoner and avenge Hu Yidao and his wife. , to leave home again and again, away from his wife and children, which became Nan Lan's biggest disappointment in her marriage.
Second, their devotion to love is also different.
Nan Lan didn't love Miao Renfeng from the very beginning. The reason why she married him was because, on the one hand, she had no support after her father died, and regarded Miao Renfeng as the straw that she could grasp, and on the other hand, it was also because Her gratitude and admiration for Miao Renfeng.
And although Miao Renfeng loves Nan Lan very much, the love he gives her is not what she wants. The roughness of the knight makes him unable to feel the delicate emotions and inner needs of Nan Lan, and he does not understand Romance and romance, over time, Nan Lan's gratitude and expectation for him turned into loss and resentment.
These two aspects are also decided. Their relationship and interaction in marriage have always been misplaced. When she wants to invest, he ignores it; when she needs him, he is missing again.
In the new version of "Flying Fox Biography", Miao Ruolan has a fever, and Nanlan can't find Miao Renfeng. This is a clear expression of their marital status and an interpretation and explanation of their marital tragedy.
Tian Guinong's hypocrisy and tenderness.
It is undeniable that Tian Guinong is a very hypocritical man. However, from Nan Lan's point of view, he is a very attractive and tender man.
In the writings of Mr. Jin Yong, Tian Guinong not only looks handsome, but also has delicate emotions. He belongs to the type that can attract Nan Lan in terms of temperament. In addition, Tian Guinong deliberately wanted to please Nan Lan, and even more graceful in front of her, it is not difficult to understand Nan Lan, who has not yet been deeply involved in the world.
However, in marriage, love is important, responsibility and morality are also indispensable. Nan Lan is tempted by Tian Guinong, and if she wants to abandon her husband and abandon her son to be with him, that is another matter, and is not tolerated by ethics and . Nan Lan, who is a wife and mother, is well aware of this.
So we saw in "Flying Fox Biography" that after Miao Renfeng returned from Miaojiang, Nan Lan still tried very hard to keep him and wanted a family of three to live a good life together. However, Miao Renfeng still couldn't let go of the obsession in her heart.
Tian Guinong completely walked into Nan Lan's heart under such a situation. He not only gave Nan Lan romantic love, but also appeared by her side in time when her child was ill. Tian Guinong gave Nan Lan exactly what he could and couldn't give. This was the most deadly temptation for her.
In the original novel "Flying Fox", Jin Yong wrote that after Nan Lan felt the tenderness of Tian Guinong, he used this kind of pen and ink to describe her determination:
Husband, daughter, home, reputation... everything is gone, she Be tender love, be considerate and warm. So she escaped from the house with the handsome husband. The husband chased after the strong wind and rain with his daughter in his arms. The daughter was crying, begging, and calling "Mama". But she had already made up her mind that as long as she was with Guinong, even for a few days, it would be fine.
You see, this is the love that Nan Lan wants, she really loves the farmland, so much that she knows that this love will cost her a lot and that it will ruin her reputation. no hesitation.
In fact, the emotional entanglement between Nan Lan and Tian Guinong was created by her own innocence, disappointment in marriage, and Tian Guinong's hypocrisy. If any one aspect changes, her ending will be different. It's a pity that everything was so coincidental, and everything happened to be met by her.
Nan Lan's pathetic and pathetic.
A woman like Nan Lan, needless to say, knows that the ending must be a tragedy. She didn't love Miao Renfeng, but she married him and gave birth to a daughter for him; she loved the farmland, but she didn't know how to explore his character and motives, and she forgot her responsibilities and situation. She always does the wrong thing at the wrong time, which is the root of her sad end.
However, thinking about it, she is also pitiful. When she married Miao Renfeng, she also had a beautiful longing, and she also wanted to live with him, stay with him for the rest of her life, and have children.
But Miao Renfeng didn't understand Nanlan, so she couldn't give her the tenderness she wanted, and she couldn't stay with her peacefully.
The needs of a woman in marriage are actually very simple. It is enough to be able to take into account her feelings and thoughts, and to be by her side when she needs it.
Nan Lan came from a wealthy background, but she is willing to endure hardship for Miao Renfeng, she wants romantic love, but she also understands Miao Renfeng's roughness and bigness. She had made concessions for Miao Renfeng, and what she wanted was that he should also give up a little obsession for her, and give her more time to be safe and together.
Is this asking too much? From the point of view of marriage and family, it is not too much at all. It is precisely because it is not too much, so when Tian Guinong did this, Nan Lan loved him so much that he couldn't help himself.
But she forgot that at that time she had a husband and children. If Tian Guinong was a real gentleman, how could he provoke married women?
There are always some women who think that as long as they meet the love they want, they can do nothing, but they don't know that love is also conditional. If love violates public order and good customs, and breaks through the bottom line of morality, it is destined to hurt others and hurt oneself.
There are always some men who think that marriage can be safe for life without management, but no matter how deep the relationship is, if it cannot be reflected in actions, it will one day make women disappointed and chilled.
Nan Lan fell in love with Tian Guinong like this. In this emotional tragedy of three people, no one is innocent. And her love can be understood, but it must not be recognized. The meaning of its existence is only to warn the world, cherish marriage, and cherish the people in front of you.
About the author: meets Acacia, a woman who likes to read and write. She focuses on the creation of articles in the emotional direction of film and television and the analysis and answer of questions in the emotional field. I hope my words can accompany you warmly.
