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Recently, a series called "Postpartum Care Center" has caused heated discussion on the Internet. The protagonist is a shrewd and capable executive woman who is still struggling to sign a contract for a customer two days before delivery. Zhuo Qun is respected by his subordinates. Such a woman, originally at the top of the social pyramid, is the only way to enjoy the envy of everyone. But everything turned abruptly as she gave birth, because she had a new identity: Bao Ma.
In "Postpartum Care Center", the changes of women from pregnancy to childbirth are exposed to the audience, including changes in the external environment-"Here, no one cares about who you are from and what identity, everything is around Carry on with the child. You are no longer you, you are just the mother of the child."
The heroine who entered the world of Baoma completely lost her previous position of superiority, because the chain of contempt in the world of Baoma is completely different, and its ranking is not Looking at social status and monetary value, most of them only look at the following aspects, let's take a look together.
The contempt chain of the treasure mother world
It is well known that where there are people, there are rivers and lakes. Before marriage, the contempt chain is mostly carried out between personal strength, depending on money and status. After marriage, you must combine your husband's family and compare the overall family strength. But after giving birth, the world of Baoma no longer uses fame and fortune as a benchmark, but instead changes to milk volume, delivery method, and length of parenting.
In the play "Postpartum Care Center", the top of the world's food chain of Baoma is Xiaoai mother, because she gave birth to twins naturally, breastfeeding for two years, and parenting experience for six years. The heroine, who is an elite in the workplace, is assigned to the middle level of the contempt chain because she has no parenting experience. The lowest-end is the mother who does not want to breastfeed and will be despised by everyone. The plot of
made me sweat all over. Maybe many netizens would think it was too exaggerated, but my experience back then was like that.
When I first gave birth to Lele, I was anxious to return to the workplace and I refused breastfeeding decisively. Lele has been drinking milk powder almost since birth. After this incident was known to the people in the Baoma group, almost everyone was accusing me, and people who had failed breastfeeding expressed their incomprehension about me and thought I was too selfish.
"Breast milk is the best gift a mother can give to her child."
I still remember the look in my mother-in-law's eyes. The subsequent experiences have confirmed this. The status of cesarean section is not as good as that of normal delivery. Milk powder is not as good as breastfeeding. Twins are more enviable than singles. Working mothers are disliked and do not love children. Even older women are not as young as young. Maternity is popular.
I was at the end of the chain of contempt in the Baoma group, and almost became synonymous with lack of maternal love. How to improve the status of
in the Baoma group
①Be prepared to have children
If you ask me if I regret having children, my answer must be yes, because I had nothing at the time and my husband’s income was not high. One month after giving birth, he returned to the workplace and showed his loyalty, for fear of being expelled and making money. Although
said that the chain of contempt in the mother world has nothing to do with money, but with money, we can maximize our motherhood.
It is well known that before the child is three years old, it is a critical period to shape the character. If you want to cultivate an excellent and confident child, the parents must be with them instead of throwing the child away to the parents. Presumably everyone often hears stories about father-son conflicts, mostly because of lack of companionship when they were young. Different generations have different ways of education. If you don't want your child to be a copy of yourself, it's better for parents to teach it yourself.
②Actively learn all kinds of maternal and child knowledge
There was a plot in "Nursing Care Home" where the heroine had to ask for help from the highest-ranking Xiao Ai mother because of the disadvantage of breastfeeding. However, the theory obtained was just flipping through the book. Can be found.
I would like to remind everyone here that after giving birth does not mean you are all right. On the contrary, the postpartum is the beginning of all wars. In children's education, respecting scientific education models and actively learning all kinds of maternal and child knowledge can avoid at least 99% of the trouble.
Take Xiaoai's mother as an example. The reason why she is invincible in the Baoma group is precisely because she is foolproof in the feeding and education of her children. In the eyes of most mothers, self-sacrifice for their childrenIt is the most worthy of praise and praise, and it is also the external expression of maternal love. If you want to improve your status, everyone has to love their children more.
③Improve the happiness of the child
"Whether a family is happy can be seen from the face of the child. It is inseparable."
This is a sentence I read on the Internet, which can be called a nail on the head. Children are the least deceptive. They do not have the ability to conceal their true feelings. Outsiders can tell whether their lives are good or bad at home.
Therefore, if you want to improve your personal right to speak, Mommy must strive to cultivate a child with a higher sense of happiness. When others start to be interested in your education methods, you will be the leader of Mommy's world.
[Topic Discussion: Where do you rank in the Bao Ma group? ]
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