Some people say that marriage is the tomb of love. Walking into this besieged city of marriage, love is like a shoe changed before entering the door, blocked outside.
may be because love entered the siege of marriage, but marriage is not the continuation of love.
When married life is like a feather, all love is gone.
Will all love disappear because of marriage?
I think it may not be because they make me still believe in love and that marriage will continue love.
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The living conditions in the countryside in the 1980s were very difficult, especially in families with many children and many brothers and sisters. Often, older sisters would drop out of school and go out to work for younger siblings to go to school. Huang Juan is one such family born in a rural village in Zhanjiang, Guangdong.
Although she has good academic performance, there are still younger siblings under her. Like her two elder sisters, she has to drop out of school to work, subsidize the family and provide for her siblings to go to school.
first met on the first floor of a department store. Tang Yu had an appointment with his mother and younger brother for dinner. He arrived early. After parking the car, he waited for his mother and younger brother in the lobby on the first floor. It was there. He saw Huang Juan who was smiling at the counter and serving the guests. , As if being sucked in.
Tang Yu, who is usually unsmiling and ascetic, went to strike up a girl this time and gave her his own contact information. Don't say that others don't believe it, he himself was surprised.
After the guests left, Tang Yu walked to Huang Juan, asked her to take a pen and paper, wrote down her phone number, and handed it to Huang Juan. Then walked to the mother and younger brother who had already arrived.
Huang Juan looked inexplicable. Colleagues came to join in the fun: "What's this?"
Huang Juan tore off the note and threw it into the trash can, "It's nothing." Then she continued her work.
Tang Yu kept looking at his mobile phone during the meal, which made his mother and brother think he had something important. Didn’t you say you have time to eat? Both are puzzled. When
returned, Tang Yu went to the counter where Huang Juan was. Huang Juan still treats each other politely, Tang Yu is very direct: "Why don't you call me." Huang Juan still looks inexplicable.
Since then, Tang Yu will go to the counter to find Huang Juan whenever he has time, pick her off work, and take care of her performance. Over time, the two became acquainted, and then Huang Juan accepted Tang Yu's pursuit. After the two were together, Huang Juan realized that Tang Yu was a rich second-generation native in Shenzhen and started his own company. Suddenly inferiority and retreated.
However, Tang Yu never let go of her hand. She couldn't speak Cantonese, so he taught her that she didn't dare to speak at first, so he would not talk to her until she talked to her in Cantonese; he contributed Let her study, supplement herself, improve herself, and go to adult college; after getting married, she will give her gifts and flowers on anniversaries and birthdays every year; she will bring gifts to her every time she travels, and she doesn’t even have two sons. , The son often said that father is partial to mother.
They were married for ten years, and Tang Yudu was as full of Huang Juan as when they first met.
Sometimes love is not that complicated. It doesn't need too many reasons to like someone. It feels right, and everything will come naturally.
People who have three views and are loyal to love may not make marriage the tomb of love.
02
There is a middle-aged couple next door to my house. The husband is a doctor and the wife is a nurse. The second son has already gone to college, but the two are still as sweet as love.
Every day after dinner, two people can be seen holding hands passing by our house.
holding hands may not be unusual for a young couple in love, but for a middle-aged couple, especially in the countryside, it is enviable.
Because rural people are relatively conservative, almost no couple will hold hands and press the road.
I heard that sometimes when a husband or wife is on duty, they will cook for each other and then take them to the hospital to accompany each other to eat. Twenty years have been like a day, never changed.
does not envy the couples kissing on the street, only the couples holding hands in the sunset.
Life needs a sense of ritual, and love can also be very simple.
marriage is loveTomb? It depends on the individual's attitude towards feelings and marriage, marriage needs to be managed.
When the marriage is over, there is only a little bit of chicken feathers left in the family, which will only make people tired and bored.
"refrigerates" love, maintains its freshness, and gives marriage a sense of ritual and freshness. Perhaps we can find each other's companionship in the chai, rice, oil, salt, sauce and vinegar tea.
sometimes think, what is marriage? Marriage may be the legalization of love, it is just another state of love.
Christine Fan’s "The Most Important Decision" is not just about the state of entering marriage from love?
You are my most important decision
I am willing to break the fear of the unknown
Even if we shed tears, I can relax and compare my heart to my heart
Because happiness has no shortcuts and only manage
You are my most important decision
I am willing to wake up by your side every day
Quarrels are also very enjoyable and will not be cold
because true love does not win or lose, only intimacy
