The hit drama "In the Name of Family" starring Tan Songyun , Zhang Xincheng, and Song Weilong, won a lot of praise after it was broadcast on Mango Channel. As a family drama, the audience talked about the themes of family, friendship and love in the drama, but as a healing emotional drama, the ending of Qi Mingyue’s parents hurt many people, especially Are female.
In the TV series "In the Name of Family", as a sideline plot, Qi Mingyue's parents' marriage was not presented too much, but only a few presentations still let the audience see Qi Mingyue's parents' marriage problems.
Qi Mingyue's mother "Jin Yuxiang" is a bit strong and has a strong desire for control. Qi Mingyue's work and life are involved in the management and control, even when Qi Mingyue was still in high school, Qi Mingyue's dressing was controlled.
Due to the overwork control, Qi Mingyue, in order to resist her, even filled out an answer sheet during the college entrance examination. In order to get rid of the control of the "mother", she applied for transfer to Beijing for two years.
Sometimes if parents love their children too tightly, it will often lead to Qi Mingyue-style rebellious consequences. But Qi's mother's strength and excessive desire for control are inseparable from her married life.
Known from the plot, Qi Mingyue’s father is a section chief, busy with work and frequent business trips, and is a "hands-off" existence in family life. In the several dinners of Qi Mingyue's family, we can see that Qi's father is always looking at his mobile phone and seldom actively participates in the conversation between Qi Mingyue and her mother.
also agreed to his wife Jin Yuxiang's actions and decisions without hesitation. As time passed, Qi Mingyue's mother created a mentality of "My husband is very obedient to me in everything, and I don't need to ask his opinion again." As a result, Qi's mother became more and more assertive and stronger in her marriage and family life.
No woman wants to be strong in marriage.
However, in the long-term family life, men are like furnishings, so women have to learn to grow by themselves, thus achieving a strong form. To put it bluntly, because men are not strong enough in every aspect of the family, women who are forced to become weak have to become stronger and stronger.
When being strong becomes a habit, men can't stand it. Just like what Qi's father said when he decided to divorce, "I decided to divorce because I couldn't bear your long-term oppression on me." Qi's father felt that in family life, he had no right to speak, he could not oppose anything, and he had to follow Qi's mother's instructions. At first glance, it does make the audience think that in this failed marriage relationship, Qi's mother bears great responsibility.
But next, daughter Qi Mingyue is more right.
Qi Mingyue said: Qi's father obeys Qi's mother because he is afraid of quarrels and troubles. Therefore, Qi's father tacitly agrees that Qi's mother can do anything to avoid disputes with Qi's mother. When Qi's father turned his weak mother Qi into a strong one, Qi's father instead said that he was too depressed and tired and wanted to divorce.
Qi's father's "hands-off" attitude makes Qi's mother have to become strong. And Qi's mother's overpowering attitude made Qi's father want to escape.
Mom Qi cares about his father's physical life and the elderly in the family, as well as many other trivial things, so Mom Qi thinks that she is not wrong because she has dedicated everything she has to father Qi and this family.
Qi mother has no self, only husband and daughter, and this family.
As for Qi's father, it seems that he is more concerned about his uncomfortable life.
Therefore, Qi's father thinks Qi's mother's desire for control is too strong, and he feels depressed.
But, in the final analysis, if you are really right or wrong, who is more wrong?
You turned me into a woman who wants to be strong in control, and you made me have to be strong. When I became strong, you abandoned me for this reason. What was wrong with me?
The view of marriage presented in the TV series "In the Name of Family" is common in many marriage relationships. Many men lie down on the sofa after get off work, brushing their phones until they take a bath and sleep. And womenWhat? Housework is to be done after cleaning up the dishes and chores. After the housework is done, the children are also required to do homework. The water pipe at home leaked. The woman asked the man to use the wrench to screw it. The man lied on the sofa and played with the phone on the excuse that he could not find the wrench. In the end, didn’t the woman find the wrench and tighten the pipe by herself?
has many examples like this.
A couple took their children out for an outing. The car next to him accidentally scratched the door behind the cab. The man did not get out of the car, but turned to let the woman sitting behind the passenger seat and playing with the child said, let The woman went down and took a look, and asked the woman to negotiate with each other.
Obviously, when a man opens the car door, he can see the scratches more quickly, and he can open the window of the car to negotiate with each other, but still let the woman get out of the car, go around half of the car to check and negotiate to resolve. What else can
do? The man is unwilling to get out of the car, she can only bite the bullet to solve it. After living in this kind of family for a long time, can this woman not become strong?
But when a woman becomes strong? Instead, the man had an excuse to argue and abandon it.
Is this too unfair for women?
Women always pay more for their families than men.
Therefore, the marriage ending of Qi Mingyue's parents in "In the Name of Family" hurts the hearts of countless women. Because men don’t care about them, women have to become stronger or even stronger in order to better manage the family, and this has become an excuse for men to divorce. Just ask, which woman is willing to be strong? Is there any woman who doesn't want to be a delicate woman with Xiaoniai? Isn't it because men are not good, and reality does not allow it?
