The finale of "In the Name of Family": The parenting experience of three mothers will push their children farther and farther

　　 Although the TV series "In the Name of Family" has come to an end, as a senior viewer, I would like to talk about some of my views.

　　 Frankly speaking, there are many middle-aged married women in this drama. They actually violate the traditional image of mothers. The image of each woman in the drama is not good. Qi Mingyue’s mother is strong and Ling Xiao’s mother is selfish. , Tang Can's mother is snobbish.

　　 Take Qi Mingyue’s mother, although she has a job, the purpose of this job is only to supplement the family. For her, the bigger career is Qi Mingyue or Qi Mingyue’s father, and this family.

　　 She treats marriage as a career management. In the first half of her life, she feels that she has a very good life. Her husband is obedient, her daughter is well-behaved, the family is well organized, and her in-laws are well maintained.

　　 But this kind of goodness is only a superficial phenomenon. Because of an accident, she discovered that her husband and daughter did not listen to her as expected, and they even deliberately wanted to leave themselves.

　　 was divorced, Qi Mingyue’s mother finally realized: Treating marriage as a career, and finally lost.

　　 Chen Ting’s career is not marriage, but children. Since the death of her second-married husband, she has seized her ex-husband’s son Ling Xiao as her own, and even detained his credentials to prevent him from returning to China.

　　 In order to keep Ling Xiao, Chen Ting did a lot of "wrong things", and because of this, she pushed Ling Xiao farther and farther.

　　 Tang Can’s mother is better, but because of her own interests, her children also lose the opportunity to have a good career. If it were not for Tang Can’s mother’s obstacle to her career, Tang Can should have a good future.

　　 These mothers are very "work". Behind this "work" is their way of loving their children, but for children, do they really need such a mother?

01.

　　What can a mother do to get closer and closer to her child?

　　 For parents, while giving birth to a child, they will have high hopes for the life of the child.

　　 Some parents hope that their children will have good grades, exceptional talents, and be successful when they grow up. Such parents tend to treat their children harshly because they believe that only strict fathers and mothers can succeed.

　　 There are also some parents who do not have much demand for their children. Their only hope is that they can grow up happily, healthy and healthy. As for what jobs the children can do in the future, it does not matter how much money they can make.

　　 For children, do they prefer to be close to the kind of parents?

　　 As a bystander, it must be the latter.

　　 The former is stressful, but the latter is comfortable. The same is life, do you want a stressful life or a comfortable life? I'm not sure when I grow up, but for children, I definitely want to live a comfortable life.

　　 If you look closely at the TV series, you will find that although every mother loves her children in different ways, even if Chen Ting is selfish to the limit, the reason she did this is to keep her children by her side.

　　 Can you say she doesn't love Ling Xiao?

　　 Of course she loves, but at the same time she doesn't know how to love, so she pushes Ling Xiao farther and farther again and again.

　　 The biggest problem of her is love to avoid problems. Once something goes wrong, her instinctive reaction is to avoid. She doesn’t know how to solve it, and she doesn’t think she has the ability to solve it, so everything will get worse and worse. .

02.

　　 Qi Mingyue's mother is an "offensive" player.

　　While facing the hopelessness of relying on her husband, she will do everything she can to solve the problem by herself, but the counter-effect of doing so is that her husband has no right to speak in the family. He has learned to shirk responsibility, and love to avoid it when things happen.

　　 Qi Mingyue’s father is a bit similar to Chen Ting. They are people who like to avoid problems when they encounter problems. In essence, they are all weak people who can't afford things by themselves and love to shirk their responsibilities.

　　 Before my cousin took his girlfriend home, my aunt always showed her as a "lovely mother". However, when my cousin took his girlfriend home, my aunt didn’t like it.A girl, so she started all kinds of "monsters".

　　 Her purpose is very simple, that is, she must separate her son and his girlfriend.

　　 We couldn't figure out why my aunt had to do this, until later my uncle told us that my cousin's girlfriend was the daughter of the aunt's rival when she was young.

　　 It is reasonable to say that after so many years, even if there are grievances, my aunt doesn’t care about being easy to get along with, she holds grudges at critical moments. She told my cousin that he can marry anyone, but this girl can’t. .

　　 As a result, my cousin is reluctant to go home, and my aunt usually doesn’t answer the phone. Now the relationship between the two people is very stiff. My uncle tried several times to relieve it, but it didn’t work. Anyway, my aunt meant it. I asked my cousin to choose one of the two. Either choose her or choose his girlfriend, as if there is no such mother as her.

　　 will only push my cousin farther and farther in the end. When a child is a child, many times I don’t experience the good intentions of my parents. The more the parents oppose, the more they like to work against them.

　　 There are some things that, as a bystander, it’s hard to say anything. From a different perspective, I also think that there is no right or wrong, but no right or wrong does not mean there is no dispute.

　　 In this matter, I feel that the more arguing, the worse the result. If you want to solve the problem, you must sit down and communicate calmly. If necessary, you can also meet with two parents to resolve the grievances between the previous generation. , And then make plans.

　　 No matter what the relationship is between people, we must learn to understand each other. Only on the basis of understanding can we make things smaller and smaller.

　　 There is no enmity between parents and children. If there is any misunderstanding or dissatisfaction, it is enough to make it clear. There is no need to make a big deal. Everyone who has to be disturbed is uncomfortable.

　　 When children are older, they have their own ideas. Whether they are looking for a partner or a job, they have their own ideas. Parents cannot provide full support and there is no need to obstruct them everywhere. Otherwise, in the end you will find that the child is away You are getting farther and farther, and I don't want to tell you anything about it.