Recently, the movie "Wushuang Mulan" was launched on iQiyi, and the hero Hua Mulan, a female middle school hero, went to the military to defend the country on behalf of his father. The film tells the story of the Rouran army invading the border during the Northern Wei Dynasty, the state summoned military households to march, Hua Mulan performed military household duties on behalf of her elderly father, and a woman dressed as a man came to the border fortress Changping warehouse. Hua Mulan bravely killed the enemy on the battlefield and repeatedly made military exploits, and the enemy army retreated steadily. When the enemy soldiers approached the city, in order to protect the country's prosperity and the people's safety, Hua Mulan and his team paid their lives to keep their positions. Although
is a small-cost movie, except for Wu Jianfei, who played the prince of the Northern Wei Dynasty, Tuoba Shuo, almost no actor can be recognized, but this does not prevent the film from being unique. In the past stories of Mulan, there were always some suspicions of relying on men to overcome dangers, but this time it was different. Mulan's struggle all the way was entirely on her own; the past stories of Mulan always had some myths, describing that Mulan was omnipotent. , But this time is different, Hua Mulan is just an ordinary woman. In the ending of the
movie, there are no heroes to save the beauty, no riches, only specious endings. The movie's Hua Mulan has become a protagonist without the protagonist's halo. What is commendable for is that Mulan, who has no protagonist's aura, uses a growth mindset to show us the tenacity of women. Perhaps, respect for women starts without the help of a male lead!
What is a growth mindset?
The concept of "growth-oriented thinking" is derived from the classic work "Lifelong Growth" by psychologist Carol Dweck, in contrast to fixed-oriented thinking. The fixed thinking model believes that abilities such as ingenuity and intelligence are born and cannot be changed. The growth mindset believes that talent is only the starting point. People's intellect can be improved through exercise, and as long as they work hard, they can do better. People with growth mindsets have the following characteristics:
- Attitude towards difficulties: They think that the greater the difficulty, the greater the growth. Even if they fail, they do not deny themselves, but are happy to see their own room for improvement. For them , Every difficulty is a gift;
- 's attitude towards hard work: They don’t believe that heaven is doomed, they believe that hard work can be satisfied after all;
- 's attitude towards shortcomings: They think that shortcomings are not terrible but important It is to find shortcomings and correct them;
- 's attitude towards opinions: They will not be eager to prove themselves because of the suggestions of others, but take every suggestion as a help to modify their behavior and ability;
- for the future Attitude: They don’t judge themselves by their short-term success, they will consider the present from a long-term perspective. The Hua Mulan in the
movie is a person with such characteristics.
Looking at the use of growth-oriented thinking from "Mulan Wushuang"
Before joining the army, Mulan is just the one from Yuwa Village, and the ordinary woman whose grandmother cares about her wedding leave and protects her brother from being blessed, and see how she passes Growth-oriented thinking, step by step, the name will last forever.
1. Joining the army for his father without fear of difficulties
In the film, Hua Mulan's father has white hair and unstable walking. He can face Rouran's aggression. He is still old-fashioned and grinds his sword in front of his house, hoping to protect his family and the country. Everyone in the family knows that Huahu's going away is a lot of bad luck, and another male in the family, Ding Mudi, is still young. At that time, Hua Mulan looked at her daughter's dress in the mirror and comforted her younger brother that there would be nothing wrong with Grandpa. At that time, she made up her mind to join the army for her father. If
is a fixed-thinking person, what will happen to such a situation? They will feel that this is God's will, this is a bad world, and there is nothing they can do. They may cry and worry, but they just don't solve it.
But what Hua Mulan has is a growth-oriented mindset. A girl with a haircut disguised as a man and a military service for her father. Which one is not difficult? Don't Hua Mulan panic? No, she was flustered. She was afraid of being discovered, and she was also afraid of Rouran people who were rumored and drinking blood, but she knew that it was useless to be afraid. As long as she had a firm conviction, there would be nothing to get past.
When Li Liang and Yuan Hong in the same village heard the names of Yu and Hua Mulan, they thought she was crazy, yes, Hua Mulan could have used fixed thinking to escape difficulties.No one would blame her, but she just used a growth mindset to face the difficulties.
2. The loss of fellow countryman, reborn
The first errand Hua Mulan received in the military camp was to go to the battlefield with everyone and gather the soldiers' bodies. The recruits who were laughing at first couldn't say anything when they saw the scene on the battlefield. In the process, the new recruit Xiao Hulu was shot by Rouran's general history. Everyone challenged Rouran's defeat, and finally Hua Mulan made a move and determined the victory. At that time, the old man who was also a recruit asked Hua Mulan why she had to break the arrow. Mulan said that she was not here to kill.
Later, Hua Mulan and everyone accepted the order to rescue the prince. On the way, Yuan Hong from the same village was captured and killed outside the city gate. From then on, Hua Mulan understood that she couldn't protect her loved one by staying out of the troubled times. If she doesn't kill, she can only wait to be killed by others.
When watching the movie, I thought that when Hua Mulan saw Yuan Hong dying in front of her, she would be devastated. Like other movies, she would first be sad and unable to be herself, and then be encouraged by others to stand up again. But unexpectedly it was not the case. Hua Mulan made it clear that her past thoughts were wrong. She did not complain, but immediately corrected this mistake. This is the attitude of growth-minded people towards shortcomings. They never Will lose confidence because of shortcomings.
Next, Hua Mulan worked hard to practice martial arts, charged into battle, defeated the enemy force, and another fellow villager Li Liang, avenged her friend Yuan Hong.
3. Stick to the city with long-term beliefs
Rouran military plague and dead soldiers, let Wei suffer heavy casualties, the prince Tuoba Shuo decided to abandon the city, no food, insufficient combat power, at that time abandoning the city was already the best choice. But when Hua Mulan saw the plight of the people in the city, she resolutely did not retreat. She said that if the city is lost, more people will suffer. She also said that she is not guarding the territory of the Tuoba family, but the safety of the people of Wei. As a result, only a few people guarded the city for more than half a month, during which the companions died one by one. At the last moment, Hua Mulan never backed away.
If you are a fixed-minded person, you have done everything you should do, and if you can’t do the rest, you should give up. But Hua Mulan didn't. She had a growth mindset. She knew that the current Goan would bring more anxiety to the future, so she couldn't retreat.
Hua Mulan has grown from the belief of keeping one family to the belief of keeping one country.
Look at workplace behaviors under the growth mindset from "Wu Shuang Hua Mulan"
If the battlefield at that time is compared to the workplace, the analogy is the same until now. Only when you have a growth mindset can you face difficulties without shrinking and facing challenges Don't be afraid, don't panic in the face of shortcomings, don't be confused in the future.
From the various performances in Wushuang Mulan, we can find that people with a growth mindset have the following behaviors:
1. Jump out of limitations and actively change
Who says women are inferior to men, who says women cannot be soldiers, Hua Mulan jumped out of limitations, actively changed, and won the worship of later generations.
The same is true for women in the workplace. We are burdened with family responsibilities that are heavier than men. We are burdened by society’s demanding demands on women. We are burdened with obstacles in all respects. However, in the workplace, as long as we go beyond the limitations and actively change, we can In exchange for the result we want.
is often asked, can I still enter the workplace after being a full-time mother for several years? Others ask, do women in their 30s still have room for career development? There are these questions because they are all restricted, by identity tags, and age tags. As long as they are willing to jump out of this restriction, there is still a vast market for full-time mothers, and women in their 30s can counterattack everywhere.
So women in the workplace should learn from Mulan, bravely break out of limitations and actively change.
2. Fighting with it when encountering a problem
Hua Mulan's military service is not smooth sailing. Her companion died in front of her. She was obviously a woman who wanted to camp as a boudoir, but she did not shrink from the problem she encountered, but fought with it.
What about women in the workplace?Many times, we keep saying that we can do as well as men, but we unknowingly regard ourselves as weak. We need to be courteous and fulfilled. This is a kind of withdrawal.
Of course, there are many injustices in the workplace, but it is not complaining or giving up, but fighting with it. If you say that women can't do it, I will show it to you. When encountering doubts from your boss or making things difficult for your customers, don’t be busy drawing a circle and curse, but show your own spirit and show the results to let them know that doubts and making things difficult are all your growth. Stepping stones. Use actions to win respect, not use the weak to gain support!
3. Not afraid to challenge the height
As a woman, Hua Mulan can follow the team, Li Liang from the same village has always taken care of her, she can enjoy this kind of care, but she does not, she is always the first to face the enemy One stood up and rushed up first.
Women in the workplace should not set limits on themselves. We often think that I am a girl and this is what boys do. We often say that as a girl, it is already very good to do this, so what else?
The growth mindset tells us that we cannot set limits on ourselves. Men in the market include Jack Ma, Ma Huateng, as well as Dong Mingzhu and Lao Ganma... When you tell yourself that you can only do this, it is a kind of self-giving up That's it. In the long jump before, the teacher always told us not to stare at your target, but to look far away. Because if you just stare in front of you, you will set limits for yourself, and tell yourself subconsciously that you can only jump here, but when you look into the distance, this limit does not exist, and you will not be afraid of any challenge.
Therefore, in the workplace, don't set limits on yourself, like a long jump, look rigorously into the distance.
How to cultivate a growth mindset?
thinking can actually be trained. In order to reduce the appearance of fixed thinking patterns and more growth thinking, what should we do?
- accepted. Everyone has a fixed mindset and a growth mindset. We are a hybrid, not a pure body. We must first accept this reality, and don't constantly doubt ourselves just because we have a fixed mind.
- observation. Through observation, it is clear what motivates one's fixed thinking mode, and when does it usually appear? Is it when you fail, or when you encounter challenges? Observe how you behave in a fixed mindset, and how do you respond? Observe and record first, then evaluate. Named
- . gave a name to his fixed mindset personality. Then describe it like a person. When did it appear, what personality, and what effect? In the book "Lifelong Learning", a financial manager named his fixed mindset personality "Duan".
- education. After naming , you can start to educate him. First of all, be vigilant. When he shows up and stops us, try to convince him, tell him why he didn’t do this, and invite him to face the challenge with you: "I know this may fail, but I’m willing to give it a try. Can you Can’t you be patient with me?"
We made mistakes, don’t downcast, tell yourself that mistakes make me stronger; when we fail, don’t be discouraged, tell yourself, and accumulate another experience; when you feel confused At that time, don’t rush to express your lack of understanding, but think about what you’ve missed.
Faced with the tasks assigned by superiors, our fixed thinking makes us feel that it is not painful to speak while standing, but the growth-oriented thinking makes us feel that this is an opportunity to learn without having to pay for ourselves. Through acceptance, observation, naming, and education,
exercises one's growth mindset, like Mulan, becoming a cinnabar mole in our hearts.
Written at the end
Moonlight in the yellow gauze cup, the wine is slightly cool,
fights against the iron armor, I have no time to Gu Hongzhuang
From the military side, I can’t say anything. Fame and fortune with one heart to return to my hometown
The west wind blows my clothes, the cold moon blows my clothes
Wake up with a pommel horse drunk lying on the battlefield
This is a tune in "Wu Shuang Hua Mulan", expressing the mood of women on the battlefield. I think, maybe, it is also suitable for women who are struggling in the workplace. May we be in each other In the workplace, woke up with a pommel horse, drunk lying on the battlefield!
